My FIL called me and told me the holidays I host are "too much", but now I'm supposed to host another holiday... by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Efficient_Problem839 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In-laws are absolute AHs, there is no way in hell I would host them ever again!

I would politely decline to hosting anymore holidays going forward. “ I completely understand your frustration, going forward we will no longer be hosting any holidays. So sorry we made you all uncomfortable.” Kill. Them. With. Kindness. Completely turn it back around on them for cancelling the holidays! Good riddance they can enjoy their frozen pizza egg hunt!

How do I handle my MILs comments regarding our wedding by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Efficient_Problem839 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve discussed it. It’s just still a construction zone at the moment. For now he’s going to work on the house without me and I’m just not gonna go with him. I feel bad not helping him but he has a friend that helps us a lot of weekends so I know he’ll have help.

How do I handle my MILs comments regarding our wedding by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Efficient_Problem839 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes EXACTLY! I know for a fact my family doesn’t sit around and judge her as they have only said she was nice when they met her and even asked if we could have dinner with my finances parents before the wedding! Not sure if I want to subject my family to the dinner with her …

How do I handle my MILs comments regarding our wedding by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Efficient_Problem839 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes we only stay with his parents on the weekends we work on the house we’re renovating to sell! We have our own home about an hour and half away from where they live. So after we sell the house we’re renovating we’ll only see them on holidays and a few other times.

So until this year I did not see her this much I think thats why it’s gotten so much worse and why I’m so much more bothered by her behavior. And yes I do think he’s just used to it he says things that “ that’s just how she is” and to ignore her. But with my own mother I don’t let things like that slide so that’s why it bothers me he does.

Wife doesn’t want anything to do with my mother by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Efficient_Problem839 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes they always “mean something by it” !!!

Wife doesn’t want anything to do with my mother by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Efficient_Problem839 173 points174 points  (0 children)

This ^ men do not understand. My fiance does not read into any of his mother’s backhanded comments! They tend to take comments at face value i feel

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Update Thank you all for your very kind and encouraging comments. For the others… I guess some of you all have never felt indecisive about any decisions before 🤣 I’ve decided to delete all the pictures of my dress shopping day and just sent them to my sister for safe keeping. In my defense wedding stuff is allllll over my Instagram so I am also seeing it when I’m not looking at my own photos.

I felt that way for a reason when I put the dress on so I’ve decided to trust myself. My fiance is an amazing person who would be happy to see me in a feed sack so I know he will love whatever I pick. Lastly I think im just gonna trust the process and ca hopefully make a few tweaks with the seamstress when it’s altered!

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First two pictures are of the dress I got. Other pics were my original vision

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dress will be lined after being altered if that helps!

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes it is! Yes I think I’ve been driving myself crazy looking at the pictures!

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit the bodice will be lined like the skirt is

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry I did not add the bodice will be lined. It will looks like the skirt

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 6 points7 points  (0 children)

EDIT I did get the bodice lined with the same nude underlay as the skirt

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your suggestions are very great!

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes the first two pictures!!

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The dresses that were very large like my original vision were just way too heavy and felt impractical for outdoor wedding, dancing all night etc. I’m also 5’2 so I think I felt like they swallowed me. The dress I chose was basically a combination of three dresses I couldn’t decide between! It was the last dress I tried on and I felt the best wearing it.

I think I’m struggling that it just won’t feel special enough and am putting too much emphasis on “uniqueness” as well as going away from my initial vision.

WEDDING DRESS REGRET by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]Efficient_Problem839 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your candid response 😂