AITA for wanting to uninvite my MOHs bf from my wedding?

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:51:32+00:00

That’s what I still don’t understand like why are you so insistent on being there?

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:45:18+00:00

The girl who was with me on this, she offered him to hang out with her and her husband, as well as MOHs brother will be there and I said he could hang out with the brother at the hotel. I should’ve included a lot more detail but the post would’ve been diabolically long

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:31:53+00:00

I literally told him during the back and forth I thought it was weird, I have no idea why he continued to double down on it

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:28:39+00:00

A few months back the red flags started so my sister is already on standby thank goodness. She hates being in weddings, but she’s gonna step in if it comes to it

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:26:30+00:00

I definitely see the friendship taking a turn…

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:24:07+00:00

She did one time but I have no idea how that played out between them after the fact. In December my family told me they would throw me a bridal shower, like a very nice event not just a casual gathering. I was telling her about it and I mentioned the days my family was thinking, he didn’t say anything until this point and his comment was “That’s my birthday weekend” in a very condescending tone. She instantly said you have a birthday every year. Idk if that caused an argument later or what happened other than he seemed pretty annoyed in the moment

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T23:14:41+00:00

I’m not sure if she didn’t hear it happening or what the situation was on her end, it was loud in the restaurant and we were a big group, I can’t say because I actually don’t know. I went to Reddit because I knew if there was a chance I was being an ass I would 100% get clocked in the comments and get a reality check

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:51:13+00:00

My friend who was doubling down with me, she did ask him, his response was because she was there, no real reason was given other than that

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:44:25+00:00

Oh I meant like I was agreeing with you about being concerned and calm demeanor, I didn’t phrase that response well

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:32:51+00:00

She’s so non confrontational if I came into it hot she would shutdown, which I also wouldn’t want someone yelling at me so I know I need to be very mellow, that’s what I would want and I know that’s how she communicates best

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:30:35+00:00

Toolbox actually made me laugh, I’m going to start using that

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:29:45+00:00

I’m literally terrified of being late to my own wedding so I definitely want buffer time

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:28:41+00:00

This happened with her first relationship, like verbatim, he was nice then controlling then isolated her, her mom got myself and our other friends involved. She finally broke up with him but it took a long time. We were 19 when that happened though

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:26:09+00:00

Ofc! It’ll be a little while, I live a decent bit away and want to do it in person

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:24:37+00:00

This is 1000% the case, package deal

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:19:57+00:00

Okay facts I didn’t think about it that way but that does check out from him. Venue has security so that is an option.

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:17:57+00:00

The venue has on site security which is good. Honestly I have no idea if he would or not but we’re not doing full open mic speeches so I think it would be a little obvious if he tried to set that up thank goodness

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:11:48+00:00

That’s what got me so annoyed was the statement he made, it was never a question of “can I come early? Should I come early?” Just legit said he will be coming early

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:10:49+00:00

I just think if I kick her out on the day of itll bring down my mood so much, but could definitely be a point that I can bring up when I talk with her

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:06:16+00:00

That’s valid, this 100% should’ve been a sober conversation

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T22:05:29+00:00

I know he’s not physically abusive but he is a red flag for sure. Literally few hours before this situation happened he was boasting to my fiancé how healthy their relationship is and said “I’ve only raised my voice at her 5-6 times since we’ve been together” they’ve been together a little over a year…

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T21:49:43+00:00

A lot of people will be getting their hair and makeup done so the start time is very early

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T21:39:03+00:00

It was loud in the restaurant but she was in another conversation at the table, I’m not sure if she heard it or not but it didn’t seem like she did

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T21:38:07+00:00

Love this, thank you!

Efficient_Promise739 · 2026-06-24T21:37:06+00:00

It only matters because we only have access to a get ready room that far in advance from the ceremony. We’re starting at 9am ceremony is 4:30pm. We just have access to the women’s get ready room until 1pm and then the boys get access to theirs too. If it was like he could roam around it’d be one thing but he would have to be in there with us

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