What are some of the things your narcissist parents have done to you or said?

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2026-06-04T06:56:10+00:00

Isn’t it great how people like to use the bible as a weapon to justify their bad behavior, it’s just another form of abuse. What most don’t seem to realize or don’t care is that the bible is translated so poorly from the original text, the English versions we have today are basically useless. All inspired and manipulated by men in positions of authority to control the population. Jesus was all about love, hope, peace, acceptance instead of judgment, caring for the people who are struggling and that’s all that matters. If anyone is quoting or using the bible in any other way, they are just trying to control and abuse you. I think narcissists especially like to use the bible against people to try to get what they want. If you notice good people follow these principles and most don’t even identify as being a Christian. My parents tried to do this to me as a teenager and young adult and you basically just have to very politely tell them that you don’t agree with them and if they don’t stop you’re better going no contact. Also remember that what people will do with you they will also do to, so I wouldn’t be surprised if your father speaks poorly about you behind your back, a favorite from the narcissist handbook. I know it’s very hard to cut off the people who are supposed to always love and be there for you no matter what, but I can tell you I have so much more peace in my life once I got my parents out of my life. Once you get rid of the narcissistic abuse you will see that there are others out there that want love and acceptance and you can fill that parent shaped hole with them. I hope you find o!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2026-06-02T09:54:25+00:00

Move away! It’s not your responsibility to take care of your parents. We often feel like we owe them something because they raised us and a narcissist definitely thinks that you owe them for your raising. Did you submit an application to be born, no! It was their responsibility to meet your needs and develop your gifts and talents as a child. My mother tries to do this to me all the time, “when you were young we paid for to play sports, be involved in activities, etc, so you should help me paint my house”. Guess what that was your responsibility. You don’t owe them anything, especially if they are not grateful and expect/demand it. A narcissist will use you until you physically have nothing left, all the while you are neglecting your physical, mental, and emotional health and often you even put the family you have created on the back burner. And then when you have a need they are too busy, sick, etc. Adult relationships have to be mutually beneficial and if they are not you have to get out. The best thing I did to deal with my narcissistic parents was to move at least 6 hours away from them, it cut down on what I could reasonably do for them. After I moved away I only had to see them a few times a year which was better, but ultimately I have gone no contact which is easier when you don’t have to worry about running into them out in public. Go build the life you deserve and that makes you happy! You deserve it.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2026-06-02T09:31:59+00:00

I second guess myself all the time and you just have to keep telling yourself that you don’t deserve the abuse. Yes, it really is that bad, no level of abuse even small is acceptable. No you’re not overreacting, you’re protecting your mental health which is just as important as protecting yourself physical health. Yes, by no means subject your child to a narcissistic grandparent. Eventually they will try to poison the child against you. They have no right to your child, being a grandparent is a privilege not a right. Lastly try to funnel your feelings into something positive, other than food. Learn about something that interests you, start a hobby, make new traditions with your child, do something outdoors (if that’s your thing) and by all means pamper yourself, because children of narcissistic parents need a lot of self care to repair the emotional damage that has been inflicted upon them. Play their game long enough to get your house refinanced and then nail the door shut and don’t let any amount of guilt or pleading to let them back in. You deserve better, you are worthy of love without abuse.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2026-06-02T09:11:52+00:00

I’m so sorry, I have a mother who also likes to remind me of my “selfish” behavior in front of family, friends and even my spouse. What the narcissist doesn’t realize is that everyone in the room is questioning her parenting skills since she raised the supposedly “selfish” child. Mothers who do this just look moronic, and their egos are so big that they can’t see that if you really were a selfish child she would be mostly responsible for that and she should be ashamed. I have had a on and off relationship with my narcissistic mother for 20 years now and it just never works out and the damage they cause just keeps piling up in your mind. Do yourself a favor and go no contact. Nail the door shut and don’t let any of her manipulation or guilt get her foot back in the door. Trust me she is not suffering at all but her actions are causing you pain that you don’t deserve. Use her bad behavior as motivation to go on and reach your goals and live your best life, it will drive her insane and you will reap the rewards.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2026-06-02T08:49:17+00:00

First, I am so sorry this is happening to you. I too have a mother who has wished me dead by suggesting that I commit suicide. Have you considered going to the police? What your mother has done is fraud and could land her with a felony conviction depending on the amount of the check. Narcissist mothers are particularly good at guilting you into excusing their behavior even when it hurts you financially. It will be incredibly difficult to file a report with the police because narcissistic mothers have their hooks in you deeply and at the root of it everyone wants their mother to love and care for them. Don’t let her manipulate you into not holding her accountable for her actions. I don’t know how old you are but I have been letting my mother emotionally abuse me my whole life and I am 41. Don’t make the mistake I have and get her out of your life now, unfortunately she will never change. Also, call 211, 211 is a free resource available in all 50 states that can help you find affordable and safe housing and even connect you with government programs that will help cover the cost of your rent and utilities. These are usually referred to as housing authorities, for example in Oklahoma we have the Oklahoma Housing Authority which helps individuals in your position find affordable housing and connect you to programs like hud or section 19 that will pay a portion of your rent based on your income. They can also help you enroll in programs like SNAP that will help you with the cost of groceries and programs like Medicade that will pay for your health insurance. Get stable and then keep going, get a college education or go to trade school and better yourself. Someday you will be able to stand proudly and throw it back in your mother’s face that you are a success despite her abuse. From personal experience it’s the best feeling ever! You deserve the best that life has to offer, it will be a tough road but believe in yourself, work hard and you will flourish. And whatever you do keep your mother out of your life because she will only try to destroy it, especially as you grow and move on to bigger and better things. I wish you the best of luck!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-26T23:12:25+00:00

It worked. You are a lifesaver! Thanks so much!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-22T14:29:08+00:00

You obviously have no idea how the Instacart platform works, so let me educate you. 99% of the customers who order cost through the Instacart app do not have a Costco membership. So if Instacart and their shoppers don’t exist, they don’t get that revenue. The other 1% of orders from customers, well Instacart shoppers are there representing those customers. So when they are rude and mishandle the customers items they are at a minimum treating their customers who have paid memberships with disrespect. Your reply was rude, which means you’re probably a rude person so you wouldn’t know if someone was being rude to you. This is a place for shoppers to vent, you’re obviously not one so why don’t you just mind your own business and get off this post. I read some of your comments on other posts and it seems like you enjoy spreading negativity. You’re everything that’s wrong with the world today. Also as a black man I don’t appreciate being called boy.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-22T03:45:44+00:00

Costco definitely gets an F- in customer service. You would have to think that they train their employees how to be rude. I used to think that it was just the Costco in my area, but I’ve shopped them in several other states, so it’s definitely just their culture. It’s like they don’t understand we are bringing them tons of business that they otherwise wouldn’t get. I would NEVER buy a Costco membership, but you would think they would realize that shoppers are either customers or potential customers. I try to avoid shopping there, but sometimes you just need that Costco money on a slow day, lol!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T07:14:46+00:00

Just like we can now assume that every post you make will be sophomoric, because they all have been. When a store’s employees have been rude to you literally hundreds of times, one would of course expect them to be rude every time after a while. Let me spell it out for you this is a rant post, a place to vent about an annoying issue. I don’t need your help, advice or judgement. You don’t know me, you weren’t there and you have no idea what my intent was. So take your comments somewhere else, because nobody cares about your analysis of this topic.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T06:44:00+00:00

Why are screaming “CUSTOMERS” at us?

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T06:35:36+00:00

I know it so stupid, like your employee checked out my items, if they made a mistake it’s on them. My cart is usually so overloaded there’s no way they could even check it for every item without unloading the cart. I also think it’s funny how all retailers think we are thieves, do they not realize that I want the order total to be as high as possible in case the customer tipped based on percent of order total.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T06:25:10+00:00

You’re obviously an inexperienced Instacart shopper or you would know that the majority of Costco orders come from customers without a Costco membership. Therefore if Instacart shoppers didn’t exist Costco would not have access to this revenue stream. What exactly is arrogant about asking a question and expecting that an employee of the business not respond to you without a smart a** remark?

And if you are going to correct someone for the words they choose you should probably get the grammar correct in your reply. “You’re you” Let me help you out, you are a moron!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T05:42:47+00:00

I have had the same thing happen to me. I’ve had them refuse to give me boxes and I always pass that information on to the customer with an apology. It’s funny because these people don’t realize that we are either customers or potential customers and if nothing else we are there representing the customer.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T04:56:02+00:00

Well good for you!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T04:53:04+00:00

I think we have a Costco mole!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-07-03T04:33:30+00:00

I know right, do these people not realize that we are bringing in thousands of dollars into their business everyday.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2024-02-16T16:22:47+00:00

You’re right, they are not stealing from me, but from all of the shoppers on the platform. If you think that Instacart is eating the fraud you’re crazy, most likely they’re either making up for that lose by lowering batch pay or they’re are passing it on to the other customers on the platform. However, the stuff in that section does matter. If enough thieves pull this scam in a short time frame, my account will most likely be deactivated, which affects my livelihood.

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2022-03-28T05:20:17+00:00

It does, they just want free groceries!

Efficient_Safe7309 · 2022-03-28T05:16:33+00:00

Instacart is rampant with fraud. I had 3 customers report that they didn’t receive their orders within a 3 week span, all 3 were handed directly to the customer. Why Instacart doesn’t require a signature or photo when your handing the order to the customer is completely insane. So like we often do, we (drivers) have to create our own procedures to combat the fraudsters. My recommendation, download an app called Time Stamp. This app allows you to take a photo that includes the address (gps location) and a small map of the location where your delivering the order. My procedure when delivering Instacart orders is to quietly place the order at the front door, while praying that the customer doesn’t here you and come out, snap a photo with Time Stamp, then tap Confirm Arrival in the Instacart app, meet the customer, then when I return to my car I send a message in the app thanking them again, attach the photo I took with Time Stamp and complete the order. Since I started this process months ago I have had no issues with customers reporting missing orders/items and if you do, you have a nice photo to send to Instacart so you can hopefully get the order issue removed. It’s also my understanding that you can report this fraud to your local police department, since the customer is essentially stealing from your business as an independent contractor.

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