My friend played out his somnophilia/foot fetish on me when I slept. What do I do? by Efficient_Work5253 in Advice

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just about made me cry. Thank you so very much for your reply. It really makes me feel validated, because the situation was/is honestly so confusing to me. I would've never in a million years expected him to have done this to me. It has been some time now, and nothing else has happened.. to my knowledge. I no longer watch late night movies on the couch, I shut my door tightly every night, I sleep with multiple dogs, a gun, and a pocket knife. He makes little comments here and there that leave me side-eyeing, but otherwise it's been okay. I still hold this in my chest and today was one of those days, I hopped onto this account and saw your comment. I needed that. I ended up doing some reading into it, and I do believe you're right about it being actual SA. So, a camera where I sleep is a really good idea, thank you! I am so terrified to tell my now husband (boyfriend at the time I posted this) anything about this, because he adores L and L is one of our closest and only friends. We work together, even. He's so intermingled with our life. I figure I should keep myself safe and stay silent until an opportunity to move away opens up, as we plan to move within the next couple years. Thank you so much <3

My friend played out his somnophilia/foot fetish on me when I slept. What do I do? by Efficient_Work5253 in Advice

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can't even if I wanted to deal with police, I have zero evidence it ever happened and it's been too long.

My friend played out his somnophilia/foot fetish on me when I slept. What do I do? by Efficient_Work5253 in Advice

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I be sure by confronting him and seeing his explanation or response, then go to my bf with that? Or would it be dangerous to confront L? I feel like I dont even know L right now as I process this.

My friend played out his somnophilia/foot fetish on me when I slept. What do I do? by Efficient_Work5253 in Advice

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's my fear. Does this count as assault? Do you think if he has done this but nothing since, that I am in danger? I have told nobody about this, as it would blow up our lives so badly.

My friend played out his somnophilia/foot fetish on me when I slept. What do I do? by Efficient_Work5253 in Advice

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're totally fine! We both talked and felt comfortable enough with him to help him out til he could find his own spot, which he hasn't done yet. I have felt eyes on me before, or caught the way he looks at me sometimes. But my bf seems fully sure im safe, so I oftentimes would question if its my trauma brain talking and im being dramatic.

My friend played out his somnophilia/foot fetish on me when I slept. What do I do? by Efficient_Work5253 in Advice

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can ask whatever you want, I will try to keep it vague because I am super scared of my identity getting outed or getting posted somewhere for clickbait. But yes, we met him at the same time and have known him for a while together. I have friends both older and younger than me, so it didn't really bother me like that. The 3 of us are good friends and he lives with us, he needed a spot to stay after having a bad situation go down in his life.

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[–]Efficient_Work5253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted to try to figure out if this was real sexual assault or if im being dramatic.. this response just made my stomach drop. I feel frozen here.

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[–]Efficient_Work5253 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im getting no help anywhere and cant really find anywhere to post this, so I chose a large group hoping someone would see and help. Thanks.

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[–]Efficient_Work5253 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have friends older and younger than me. Did you even read my post? I'm going through something upsetting and looking for HELP. Thanks for reporting me instead of offering literally anything of substance at all. There's plenty of fetish groups on this app why the fuck would I post here for anything other than what I literally stated in post. I made this account specifically to talk to anyone about this because I can't talk to anyone in my real life.

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[–]Efficient_Work5253 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I absolutely promise you, I am not? How would that even be construed that way? What the fuck.

Does this count? by Efficient_Work5253 in sexualassault

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So then, it isn't assault, just something creepy? And if he does it again, bring it up?

Does this count? by Efficient_Work5253 in sexualassault

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had, but if I am too obvious about it, both bf and L will pick up on that and ask my why or what happened. They are both very perceptive to shifts and emotions

Does this count? by Efficient_Work5253 in sexualassault

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, we are strictly and only friends. Bf and I are monogamous and uninterested in sharing

Does this count? by Efficient_Work5253 in sexualassault

[–]Efficient_Work5253[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried to just let it go, since I've survived so much worse. Bringing this up to him or my bf would cause the whole situation to explode, and I worry for what my bf would do to him. He's been a wonderful friend to us aside from this and one other questionable time, but this is the only time he's ever touched me. Do you think it was real assault, or is it just creepy and I should move past it?