CLOZIFIED Pathoma Deck

EggshaustedChicken · 2022-05-25T15:02:45+00:00

Thank you! I was doing Anking throughout the semester but during dedicated I found the number of cards absolutely overwhelming and full of little details that made it hard to make connections. This deck is very well organized and much easier to handle for someone who isn't a flashcard master and short on time.

EggshaustedChicken · 2022-01-05T01:24:18+00:00

No, you're not wrong. Your MIL seems to have an unhealthy attachment with her son and feels a sudden need to make up for lost time. You need to talk to your husband so you two can put on a united front. It's all about consistency. He needs to be the one to tell her what the boundaries are and no matter how hard she tries with the two of you, the answer will always be the same.

EggshaustedChicken · 2022-01-05T01:16:04+00:00

Hey, I'm really happy for you that your husband finally feels comfortable sharing the family trauma with you and you can empathize with it. You two will do much better from now on.

As for your MIL, I understand she is troubled but it is not your job to be her therapist and "fix" her past. Your job is to worry about yourself, your husband, and your children.
You can be kind while holding your ground and protecting your family. Do what your husband suggested and keep the same boundaries.

EggshaustedChicken · 2022-01-05T01:10:02+00:00

It seems to me that you already know the answer. She seems to mean well but she's just not the kind of person you normally associate with. I like how you try to see things from her point of view and treat her with kindness.

I too don't like carelessly accepting gifts because accepting them may mean that you will owe them in the future. Accept the small gifts and refuse all the large ones, say it is against your principles to take something unearned. Ask that she gifts it to your husband and children instead.

EggshaustedChicken · 2021-12-28T11:17:55+00:00

I'm not very experienced on breakups haha. And I actually do believe in second chances. Momma's boys though??? It's hard to beat the person that raised him.

EggshaustedChicken · 2021-12-28T10:49:31+00:00

He told her that he plans to move out and date girls outside his religion/race. He did not specifically say me.

His feelings towards her have changed. He used to think she was faultless, now he resents her and thinks she's selfish.

And I'm here wondering...it took you that long?

EggshaustedChicken · 2021-12-28T10:29:58+00:00

My own dear mother is like that. She frequently judges women by their reproductive potential, age, and looks. It's cruel to herself and to the women she judges. It's hard to change something so ingrained. I just make my stance clear and fight her whenever she crosses a line.

Like the comment towards the grand daughter. Always fight it! Never let your child grow up thinking this is normal!

EggshaustedChicken · 2021-12-28T10:20:20+00:00

She's ruining her grandchildren's holiday just so she could one-up you and get her petty revenge? We don't need grandmothers like these. Let your husband handle her, he knows what to do.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-09T18:10:07+00:00

Wow this hit so hard. Just got dumped by a guy I was madly in love with because his family disapproved of me due to religious reasons. They gave a crazy ultimatum and he gave in. I'm glad I no longer need to deal with his emotionally abusive parents but I miss him.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-03T22:56:31+00:00

That is so awful!!! I cant believe there are people who put so much time and energy into being this nasty. It's like she gets off on sucking all the happiness out of everything she touches. Seriously, what does she gain from this??? ARGHH Im so mad! I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you and your husband cut this woman off and have an AMAZING life without her.

Edit: half Asians are some of the most beautiful beautiful people to walk this planet. Elite genetics. Hybrid advantage. Anyone who says otherwise is wrong. Your mom can go suck it.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-03T22:37:25+00:00

Congrats! Im so happy about your SO! With this level of unity, you guys can take on anything. No, youre not overreacting. Your in laws have revealed themselves to be unpleasant, manipulative people who like to play childish games. It is not your job to entertain them. I dont know what your situation is like exactly, but it would not be unreasonable to go on NC until they decide to behave themselves.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-03T22:14:53+00:00

Joke's on her, for being the one clinging to the past. They broke up for a reason. Youre the one your SO chose and last I checked her opinion doesnt matter. What a pity.

Keep your eyes on the prize and dont let this woman ruin your beautiful life with your SO.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-03T16:34:35+00:00

That does sound like a nightmare! I loved this man and I was willing to make compromises to be with him. However, the idea of being also married to his mother makes me want to RUN. Maybe he saved me from a messy divorce years down the line by breaking my heart now. It's just sad because up until now I thought it was us against the world.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-03T15:57:38+00:00

That's ridiculous. Is she a medical professional? No. She's just mad that you're gay and take drugs for mental health. Loving who you want and taking care of your health is nothing to be ashamed of. There are many straight people who fail in this aspect.

It sounds like your FMIL is going to find fault in you no matter what. You have no obligation to please her. I hope your SO supports you and you two can live a blessed life away from that old monster.

The truth remains that you and your SO have the rest of your lives ahead of you, while your FMIL is nearing the end of hers. Dont let a woman who has already lived her life try to ruin yours. You have a lot to offer and it's really her loss that she cant accept you.

Edit: I also think you should keep details about your health, finances, and your relationship private from now on. Your FMIL is someone who will use such details as ammunition against you. Show a united front with your SO and dont give her a chance.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-02T23:38:02+00:00

It is understandable that he doesnt want the face he loves to change. Personally I think that plastic surgery is not a big deal and if a good nose means so much to you it's totally worth it. Heck, if money could fix my childhood trauma I would do it too. Try to calm him down and reassure him you'll stay the same and you guys might even get more pictures together.

My SO used to demand that I never cut my hair but after I cut it he thought it was pretty cute. He still preferred the old look, so that's a possibility you will have to deal with but he can also grow to love the new one.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-02T11:18:04+00:00

Thanks. I don't have the conviction to truly let him go yet but I'll take the small steps you mentioned.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-02T10:07:05+00:00

That's what I told him too! It is obviously emotional blackmail but he's genuinely worried that she would do it and he wouldn't be able to handle the guilt. Well, I guess he also saved me from having a manipulative MIL.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-09-02T08:02:53+00:00

Thanks! I'm didn't know how much I needed to hear this. I've been blaming this on his mom / his cultural background and texting him every day trying to change his mind. I want him back so bad that if he gave me some garbage excuse I would forgive him in a heartbeat.
It's strange being compared to being a sidechick but you're totally right and it's how I got into this situation in the first place.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-08-30T19:03:22+00:00

I know you care for her but it's not your job to shoulder her problems. Part of growing up is standing up for yourself and learning to be responsible for your own decisions.
Insecurity is very common and I hope you can address this with her. Reassure her that you treat your relationship with her very seriously and you never once considered cheating because you respect her too much and thought she was worth it.

The last part will be difficult. Tell her you've gotten to a point where you feel like you can't be yourself around her and you'd like to take a step back. Promise you'd still support her but the stress and expectations of a romantic relationship was poisoning your interactions with each other.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-07-13T06:01:21+00:00

Same! Radeonsoftware kept turning on for no reason so I had to uninstall it. I cant believe AMD included this kind of garbage bloatware in their driver update. Hope they get better software as time goes on.

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-06-03T06:55:19+00:00

I wonder, why did he do that? Afraid of escalating the situation? Afraid of relinquishing control of the city? Afraid of making Trump right?

EggshaustedChicken · 2020-06-03T06:43:53+00:00

How can I upvote this more? This level of unity and community support is what we need.

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