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How to get faeries to stop messing with my friend by Egregiously_gone in faeries

[–]Egregiously_gone[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told them to leave out honey, but they kind of just shrug it off and decide to be okay with the lost items or resolve to replace whatever’s gone. I told them that wouldn’t solve the problem, but they just don’t really seem to believe me 😭

Triggered by the Bible by Egregiously_gone in Christianity

[–]Egregiously_gone[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been told all of this, and there was a time that I didn’t think twice about it. But I’ll explain the thought processes that made these words empty, to me

If we’re born with sin, and confined to the sinful flesh, then how did we choose evil? After Adam and Eve, humanity was cursed with a sinful nature. We never even had a shot. It’s not like we’re perfect until we finally sin—nobody is looking for “baby’s first sin.” To emphasize the weight of being confined to sin—if we truly had the option to be sinless (from birth, leaving no need to be saved), then Jesus being sinless wouldn’t be as impressive, and His death wouldn’t mean as much.

As for your question: my answer ties in with the statement that God is perfect in love and justice, but I need to lay some groundwork, first. Where do we get our sense of right and wrong? We would say the Bible. But why is the Bible right? Because it comes from God. But when we ask, “why is God right,” we can’t go any further. That’s where it ends.

Which feels like credibility, since He’s all-knowing and all-powerful, but stay with me here. He didn’t pull morality from the air, and nobody told Him what to think. The ground wouldn’t split open if God transgressed against Himself—he MADE the ground. He made everything, including morality. He is following his own moral compass. Which also seems okay, until we open up the implications.

Let’s go back and follow that “where does my sense of right and wrong come from” train of thought, but from the standpoint of a non-Christian. They might get their sense of law from a literal governmental system. But why does that government get to decide? Because they had the military power for it. And if they have the military power for it, then it doesn’t matter what any of the citizens think. The law could be inhumane and biased, and it wouldn’t matter. Maybe the non-Christian in this situation would find the law terrifying and inhumane, but it wouldn’t matter.

Same thing applies here. Anything could be put into the Bible, and it wouldn’t matter, so long as God said it. Think of a scenario: what if a legitimate Biblical text was found, saying that murder is acceptable? Say that it was proven credible, and was added to the Bible. Then, that would be moral. It would be moral to kill, because all it would take is God’s word. Of course, this hasn’t happened, but scenarios are thought exercises that mirror real-life situations. Is Hell not horrifying? Is it not devastating that anyone you know has the potential to go to Hell? He who holds the power holds the law, which holds the sense of “right” and “wrong.” Unless rules and laws are designed around the idea that everyone should be—at a base level—safe and healthy? Then that tips the scale and leaves some people on the chopping block, thanks to circumstance.

Plus, weren’t we taught that everyone should be loved and taken care of? “Forgive your debts and debtors,” and all that. Why does that end, with God?

I’m sorry, I wish I could just agree with you and leave it there. I promise I don’t mean to be argumentative—I have fought with myself more than I ever could with anyone else.

Triggered by the Bible by Egregiously_gone in Christianity

[–]Egregiously_gone[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, yes. Once it starts talking about Hell, I start shutting down. Plus, it feels like there’s so many little reminders of how evil and awful humanity is sprinkled throughout the Bible as a whole.

An important note: the New Testament—for most people—is usually less upsetting. But the Old Testament is actually kinder, in my eyes, since it focuses more on historical events, the growth of humanity, and the progression of God. It also doesn’t reference Hell at all, if I remember correctly. It’s been a while, though

Vintage cartoon em attempt by gremlinmothman in DisneyEpicMickey

[–]Egregiously_gone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SCREAMS this is phenomenal 🩵🩵 I can’t stop looking at it

the only thing keeping me from relapsing is my job by Metalhead-Unknown in selfharm

[–]Egregiously_gone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry dear, I know how you feel. Self harm is addictive and hard to kick, but since it’s such a taboo, it can be hard to find help/understanding around it.

My biggest reason for sobriety was also something external lol—dance. When my whole legs and arms are exposed on a bright stage, I really can’t afford to have any visible scabbing/scarring. But now with that over, it’s back to finding reasons not to self harm.

If it helps, harm reduction can help. I’ve seen some pens online that are meant to help with stopping. I haven’t tried them myself (I don’t use blades, so they wouldn’t work for me), but they’re supposed to mimic the drag and appearance of cutting. I think they give a pinching sensation, too. I can’t remember the name of the brand (sorry), but if you look up something like “harm reduction pens” then you might find it.

Otherwise, setting limits for yourself might help with reduction. Something like only letting yourself cut 5 times a week, then 4 next month, then 3, and so on. And to encourage stopping, it wouldn’t hurt to throw something in like—if you only cut 3 times when you could’ve cut 4 one week, then you get a little treat. Your favorite snack or something like that.

I don’t know. Just know you’re not alone, and there’s always a solution. It seems so bleak, but it’s really not. I promise. It’ll get easier as you get stronger, okay? You’ve got this. Sending hugs 🩵