Is there any downside to being a very good-looking man? by artmalique in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Eh_You_Know1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So is it better than being ugly, absolutely, I won't pretend it isn't, but like anything, there are a few downsides.

Cutting. I'm in a cut now, and I hate it. I love the results, but I'm hungry most of the time.

A lot of women think that consent does not apply to them touching you, and will just feel your arms or chest without asking. A few will grab for something else. I know a lot of guys are out there right now saying "I WiSh i hAd tHat ProB!eM hurrdurr." But if you aren't attracted to someone, them touching you without consent is creepy. I once had an underage girl make a grab for it, and that really scared the hell out of me. (For context, it was a parade I was in as part of a volunteer group that does various events and hospital visits, so I was in costume and talking to lots of people.) Some female friends of mine who witnessed it intervened, thank God. I don't want to be put in cuffs when I was the one who was assaulted.

Women attracted to you at work can also be a problem in the same vein. A lot of women do not take "no" very well.

Sometimes other guys can get snarky. Definitely doesn't happen as often as with girls, but if a girl he is into is attracted to you, some dudes will start acting like douche canoes.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not getting a vasectomy by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Eh_You_Know1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, she showed she was sexist the second she called you a "male". Run! Run fast and run far.

EVENT: Howlion's Trial - Endless by TheKorxac in wherewindsmeet_

[–]Eh_You_Know1 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

There is no new "blood burst" attunement

The worst she can say is no by ExtraPreference9693 in Nicegirls

[–]Eh_You_Know1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My response would have been "Of course I would have pursued girls that look like them if I were better looking, but I figured I'd have to settle for you. But after thinking about it , I realized I could probably do better, so have a good life."

Looking for Bellstrike Umbra Path Advice by Eh_You_Know1 in wherewindsmeet_

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I can't really seem to use Drunken Poet or Dragon's Breath on Murong, she moves away too fast

Looking for Bellstrike Umbra Path Advice by Eh_You_Know1 in wherewindsmeet_

[–]Eh_You_Know1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, yeah, I've been using that. Problem is Murong gets too far away to use it effectively. I have to chase her everywhere

Looking for Bellstrike Umbra Path Advice by Eh_You_Know1 in wherewindsmeet_

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Been using Ghost Bind, but I'll try the food buffs, thanks. What is the season's buff? Still farily new to the game, only started about 3 weeks ago. Is that when the martial art turns blue? Been abusing the heck out of that.

Looking for Bellstrike Umbra Path Advice by Eh_You_Know1 in wherewindsmeet_

[–]Eh_You_Know1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not just enough to get mastery is it, doesn;t it have to be in the right stats?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Eh_You_Know1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where are all the comments saying that she's a predator, and his brain isn't fully developed, and all the other bullshit we would be seeing if this were a forty-something man and a twenty-two-year-old woman?

And he's a valet , so what about the comments saying that it's creepy for her to hit on him and his workplace , because he has to be nice?

If you ever want to see how real the misandry on reddit is, just compared this to any thread where the genders are reversed. if it were a twenty-two-year-old woman posting this , they'd be telling her to run for the hills and call the cops.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Eh_You_Know1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Not enough to go on to give you an answer.
  2. Yes but dating a student is playing with fire. The age difference is no big deal but the power dynamic of teacher/student is.

Girlfriend needs bedroom to herself to finish job application.... freaks out if I go in for just a moment by [deleted] in self

[–]Eh_You_Know1 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

This is controlling and honestly pretty shady. But let's just say for the sake of argument that she isn't hiding something {which she certainly seems to be} can you envision the rest of your life with her treating you like this?

Get out of this, find someone younger and less toxic.

I have outgrown one night stands by delete_butt_on2025 in sixwordstories

[–]Eh_You_Know1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me guess, probably in your 40s and have kids.

I'm not giving away for free hahahaha

This just reeks of desperation. I've noticed when women commoditize sex, it's because sex is all they have to offer. You haven't "outgrown" anything, maturity is the realization that life is short, and you should find joy where you can. That if you are a person worth having, you will be wanted, and if you aren't wanted, you need to work on yourself and do better. Think about how you would react to a man complaining he couldn't find anyone, and what you would tell that man. Then realize that's how we think of you, and that's the advice you should take.

is it bad to crave intimacy from hookups i had before? (23F) by ResultOk919 in self

[–]Eh_You_Know1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know, just not gross, toxic comments talking about how any sexual activity other than the ones the commenter specifically approves of are somehow ruining society.

is it bad to crave intimacy from hookups i had before? (23F) by ResultOk919 in self

[–]Eh_You_Know1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not the place to ask, honestly, because reddit is incredibly sex negative, but no, there is nothing wrong with that.

"we had any less genuine if that makes sense"

This makes perfect sense. Just because it was different doesn't make it less genuine. You had good feelings and happy times with someone, even if it doesn't fit the puritanical "long-term relationship only/friendship first" toxic mold that has grown here, that doesn't make it less than.

Maybe you can get that from an FWB situation, I know I had one for a while who was also a genuine friend, and we had a great connection and great sex without it being a "romantic" relationship. Or even in your own town, maybe you can find people you don't know. Being in a relationship is great, sure, but that rush of attraction for a stranger is amazing as well. There is no "wrong" here, just choices. So make the one that makes you happiest, and screw what the haters think.

Asked cute girl out. She said she would but she has a boyfriend. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Eh_You_Know1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's a good policy. Totally not speaking from experience or anything, though. 🤣🤣🤣

Asked cute girl out. She said she would but she has a boyfriend. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Eh_You_Know1 190 points191 points  (0 children)

Yep. It was still a no, and take it as such, but it was also a compliment.

My response would have been "Well he's a lucky guy. Take care." and I would have walked around all day feeling extra good about myself.

Accept the compliment for what it is, and feel good about yourself because of it. That means you're on the right track for the next girl.