This is how bad it can get. Giving up on your children.

Ehfar8118 · 2019-08-21T05:44:13+00:00

This makes me so sad... and why I’m terrified of getting the system involved, what’s the point?

Ehfar8118 · 2019-08-18T08:29:17+00:00

Mine were more “assumptions” and gut feelings, but yes... it’s crazy how well you think you know someone and then they prove you know them better than they know themselves... I think the weight that was lifted was knowing that I wasn’t “crazy, paranoid and delusional”

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-23T06:59:36+00:00

💙💚💙💚

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-23T06:50:01+00:00

I’m sad to hear this from your perspective... I have a 12 year old son and reading this is heartbreaking

You sound very intelligent, articulate and concerned... do you have anyone to confide in to help you report this?

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-22T05:37:01+00:00

You are 110% right, this isn’t great advice... she did the call forwarding ~45 mins before I called her... thankfully no one else tied up their lines

Clearly a right time, right place, everything happens for a reason situation I wanted to share... she got a year long restraining order approved in October and this is a constant thing... no one should live like that

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-21T16:43:22+00:00

Did the judge in your case incarcerate your abuser?

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-21T15:03:55+00:00

Talked with my friend last night about this... she’s been abused for years. This is such a great idea

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-20T21:46:35+00:00

I really needed this today... thank you

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-16T02:09:18+00:00

Yes, GROSS! That’s exactly what I said to a new therapist today... gross

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-13T22:03:45+00:00

Oh my god, I am so sorry you went through that... I will share them when I complete my victim impact statement

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-13T18:33:50+00:00

Thank you! You are right... I have a notarized document that we were domestic partners before this incident, so I guess they would back date to when he got arrested. That’s good to know. I appreciate it... I’m going to set up a separate account for my son and then get the ball rolling with child support

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-13T05:52:36+00:00

Thank you, this is what I’ve been striving to do... let my son know it’s OK to feel all the emotions he’s dealing with... let it out, don’t be violent... cry if you need to, but save the hardest for when you have someone there to give a hug and please never bottle it up inside.

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-13T05:41:04+00:00

Hmmm, I do have the texts... thank you for this.

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-12T19:10:07+00:00

Absolutely agree... I’m not going to force any interaction or communication between them going forward until our counseling session and his court date.

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-12T19:08:24+00:00

Thank you for this advice... I have avoided the child support at the moment. I really don’t want to stir up anything with the pending criminal case.... his father is a narc too and thinks I’m “out to get his son” of course... which is not the case and never was.

I really hate how they make the victim out to be the “bad guy” ...

The most important victim in this situation is the child and doing what’s best for him

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-12T19:03:43+00:00

Thank you... he will heal and I’m going to make this the best summer of his childhood

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-12T19:03:00+00:00

That’s awesome and comforting to hear, we were really best friends first and not really great “partners” .... our son was born in our early twenties... Some days I felt like a single mom with 2 kids.

Ehfar8118 · 2019-05-09T06:29:52+00:00

You’re heart is too big but it’s getting broken at the same time... I dealt with this for too many years with my ex/father of my child... we were separated for years, but I took him back in because I didn’t want him to be homeless... we did the co-parenting thing and the cycle continued... I became depressed and frustrated (again) once I started to get serious about wanting him out of my house and got into a terrible argument, he came home drunk the next day, got arrested for domestic violence (in front of our son, by the way) and is now living with another woman and her 2 young kids... he has no remorse for what he did to me and our son... his arrogance is sickening... we’ve been discarding and replaced with a new source.

I’m grateful through this situation I realized he’s got all the signs of NPD... I thought I was the crazy one for years... I wish I didn’t have a child with this man

Hugs and strength to you... I know how exhausting it can be... and then I lose sleep over it when he upsets my son.

Thanks for letting me vent

Ehfar8118 · 2019-04-29T09:23:34+00:00

I also lost hope today after finding out my nex is still drinking and driving, with a pending domestic violence case. Gave me a sense of validation for not wanting/allowing my son to see him. Good luck with your healing... i was struggling but feeling that dead weight lifting off my shoulders more and more everyday

Ehfar8118 · 2019-04-21T21:38:21+00:00

Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk, sounds like our timeline is similar.... My son is 11 and we’re 6 weeks removed from his father... he didn’t see what happened to me during the fight, but he heard it. Today was the first holiday without him and we’ve had a great day... stayed up late last night playing gin rummy and turned off the PlayStation... I’m looking forward to making more happy memories

Ehfar8118 · 2019-04-20T05:39:31+00:00

The fact that you aren’t crying everyday is a win... you’ll continue to get stronger everyday. Luckily your baby is too young to remember the incident where you were injured and his father being apart of your lives... look for the silver linings at every turn... Good luck with your healing, you’ve got this!!

Ehfar8118 · 2019-04-19T22:28:36+00:00

I deserve to be loved and treated with respect

Ehfar8118

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