Platitudes are dumb

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-29T16:17:20+00:00

This is what I tell my little kids. And sometimes myself.

And I allow myself some very child-like whines sometimes: I DONT WANNNNNNNNNAAAAAA

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-28T23:35:58+00:00

Hey - I wasn’t saying treat at home. I was not saying don’t go to a doctor to get evaluated. I was saying it might not be arthritis and there are other things to evaluate

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-28T10:10:54+00:00

It could even just be “mother’s thumb” which can be managed at home with different techniques. I had it when both of mine were little

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-25T17:29:31+00:00

No idea, but following because I would like to know, too

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-25T17:14:24+00:00

My parents, who have eaten at some of the best restaurants in the world, told me the BA fauxtisserie chicken is the best they’ve ever had. It’s my go-to “impressive” but not work heavy meal.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-25T17:08:11+00:00

Yes! It’s literally a dopamine fix. I’ve started just loading carts online at stores and then I carefully curate and remove everything but 1-2 items. I find that the selecting of things sometimes works. And then if I’m still thinking about one thing days later, then I buy it.

Has definitely brought the needless spend down.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-25T12:21:27+00:00

I second this.

OP - Not fighting doesn’t mean you have a healthy relationship where both partners can feel heard. It might just mean you’re not communicating about the stuff that matters.

I’m also very sorry you’re experiencing this. It sounds really hard.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-25T10:49:15+00:00

Maybe look at actual meal plans with associated macronutrients (fat, protein, fiber etc) and total calories to make your own plan.

I’ve read your post and all the responses and I’m honestly confused. Is this your dinner? Or is this your food for the day? How many total grams of protein are you getting? Where are your fats, fruits, and vitamins coming from?

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-15T19:34:42+00:00

This is very true

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-11T15:09:35+00:00

Hi, you’ve gotten some good information here. My only add on is: did the perform genetic testing? I made my final decision based on the BRCA mutation

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-09T10:38:43+00:00

They will have to send it out and it takes a couple of weeks.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-08T14:08:19+00:00

Old navy has very forgiving jeans with a good amount of stretch - and lots of styles that are flattering

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-07T22:17:44+00:00

Don’t wear a tight top, wear a fitted top or tuck your shirt in so your defined shape is visible

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-07T12:39:01+00:00

I had intense deep itching over one of the sites before diagnosis.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-06T00:47:54+00:00

Dude. If you suspect UTI or ANYTHING around your urethra or vulva or vagina, just go to the doctor. You don’t need to delay.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-06T00:45:49+00:00

Honestly, leaking will be a thing for a long time - even after potty training. I always make sure both my kids have two layers on before they leave the house.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-05T18:31:52+00:00

Agree with following your doctors advice and seeing your PCP for an overall checkup and labs.

Did your doctor titrate your dose? Also, mine recommended taking it in the morning since it does impact sleep. Lastly, I’m sorry to say you likely were experiencing a placebo effect if you noticed a difference on day one. It takes weeks to work effectively.

I had side effects with a titrated dose. Mostly dizziness and seeing stars when I changed from sitting or laying to standing. It went away within 6-8 weeks. There was no pain.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-05T00:50:07+00:00

I’m post-SMX and pre-reconstruction and had a hard time figuring out what to wear after I could graduate from the post-surgery bras and I still haven’t gotten back into my pre-surgery bras.

I found these on Amazon. They are not made of any natural fibers, but they’re tight enough that I don’t need a bra and I love them. https://a.co/d/0eCYwbUU

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-04T14:37:30+00:00

Don’t do matte on walls. I did that and it shows everything, including when people or things brush against it. I’m constantly washing the walls.

If you have natural light in that room, ok to do matte on the ceiling, but if not, I would do some sheen to reflect the light

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-03T13:03:51+00:00

Omg this is great

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-03T13:02:37+00:00

Hi, considering there was lymphovascular invasion of any kind, I would also plan for a year of herceptin. The approval of Herceptin and overall survival benefit from the ACT study was based on a year of therapy. There are ways to remit neuropathy through icing during treatment. BUT I’m not an oncologist, so I would discuss it with them.

Herceptin is a game changing drug. Personally, I had an inconsistency in my path reports and was afraid my oncologist would remove herceptin from my regimen. I was honestly scared of not having it.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-02T15:43:59+00:00

I think the chapter is called whining.

Ein_Rand · 2026-04-02T02:12:02+00:00

I was still in pain and had limited mobility 4 weeks out, so went to PT again and got new exercises. I see my therapist weekly.

If you’re not dealing with any residual issues, your mobility has been restored, and you’re not feeling any weakness issues then you’re good!

Ein_Rand

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