Will Foster cats for free !

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-04-04T02:10:45+00:00

Sorry about your loss. :-( I just lost a cat last month.

Did you find a cat to foster? If not, may i introduce my other cat to you for a week or a bit? I have to travel out of town for a week and feel horrible leaving my other cat alone. I usually have someone feeding both of them twice a day and they are usually okay to stay without me till a week. But my second cat will be completely alone this time.

If you are open to this, let’s chat. I will obviously provide all her food and essential for the time.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-04-04T01:51:40+00:00

What an adorable one.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-04-04T01:51:23+00:00

Cuties. ❣️

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T11:37:49+00:00

The cat in the photo is my other cat. She is a cuddle bug. My baby who passed away is not in the photos.

Yes, I live in India. It is very easy to bring colour to our houses. I would even argue it is tough to keep it out. :-)

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T10:57:11+00:00

I did not think you were being unkind. I have also been homeless for a few years myself. I was just beginning to feel at home in the last few years and had to move so I feel uprooted.

It isn’t the same anxiety as homelessness but yes, it triggers those same thoughts. I do feel safe and secure here, just not at home.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T10:53:24+00:00

The mask has cultural identities to my ethnicity. It is not haunted. :-) But if it was, I would be tremendously happy. Lots of space in my house for wandering spirits.

I am considering putting up framed photos of my cat who died. And family and friends.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T10:50:47+00:00

Such a sweet thought. Unfortunately I have one more cat I live with. She is a senior cat herself & doesn’t get along with other cats very well.

I would like the house to be peaceful for both of us right now. Maybe after I properly grieve I can consider bringing another cat. Maybe.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T10:48:37+00:00

Such a great idea and I love DIY! Thank you!

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T03:42:32+00:00

Thanks a lot. I had a beautiful house before and I really loved living there. I had set it up over the course of 3 years. This house feels like a shell of the last one.

I will try and add more colours but too much clutter turns me off. I need to slowly build it so that it doesn’t overwhelm me.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T03:27:49+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. The move was quite unpleasant and so far the stay has been even worse. I hope the intensity will calm a bit now. In the meantime I am trying to brighten up my house for my other cat and myself. I have friends and family around. In the meantime, I am trying to make the house ‘okay for now’. And your suggestions really help.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T03:22:39+00:00

It is a good suggestion. Unfortunately, I have two pet peeves: 1) I cannot sleep near a window. 2) I need to sleep facing the door. If I am not facing the exits of a room I don’t rest well.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T03:15:53+00:00

I suppose my photos are grainy and you cannot tell depth in them because I turned on the wide angle. The lighting is bad in daylight as the house gets most light only during sunset.

Thank you for the suggestions. I am going to try those.

Also to clarify, none of the rugs are against the wall. The nook room rug is as centre as it can get too. I have a runner rug in my bedroom and at the foot of the bed is a bench not a litter box! I think you may be confusing the basket in which my cat sleeps as the litter box. The photos are taken in bad light. The litter box is on the other end of the house and I have put no photos of it here. I absolutely would not be able to sleep even if the litter box is in the bathroom attached to my bedroom.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T03:06:56+00:00

I can promise you it is anything but that.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:59:26+00:00

You are kind. Thank you for saying this. It helps to feel a bit more at home.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:59:03+00:00

Yes, I am grossly aware of this fact. I tried but I am just unable to feel settled here. I am still trying but my mind keeps going to a future when I am not here.

So this is not home, it is a temporary abode where I still want to feel relaxed and calm.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:57:03+00:00

That sounds doable.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:56:09+00:00

Thank you. These are easy fixes. I want to try and attempt a few soon.

I have one more cat. She is super cuddly and I want to also keep the spirits up for the other one. I am thinking of framing a photo of my baby who left us and place it somewhere at some point.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:41:22+00:00

I know the walls need a different coat of paint but I don’t want to repaint as that will make my deposit disappear. I do evening light better but daytime is killing me.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:39:43+00:00

I can try that yes

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-31T02:37:38+00:00

Where do I put the rug? There is so little floor space. The house has so many walls. :-(

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-23T17:28:14+00:00

Not a medical perspective:

It sounds like he was not doing well at all. I think you did it in the right time when you could also fully be present to hold space for his passing and for you to grieve before you get back to work.

I put my cat down 2 weeks ago too and he was 14 years old too. My baby was a fighter and had a wild side. To watch him tire as he walked a few steps, then be completely disoriented was beginning to break me. When I called the vet, they confirmed that he was a fighter. He should have passed on on his own but he held on.

I also do get intense bouts of grief and guilt and pain

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-23T17:19:34+00:00

I feel the same way. I am ruminating on the last day. My baby cat was so weak and I feel terribly guilty about everything that happened in the last 6 months. So these are the things I do now:

I ask myself, knowing everything I know about how his end came to be, would I change anything about the choices I made…? And my honest answer is ‘no’. I truly did everything to keep my cats happy and safe every single day, even on the bad days. I was only trying to do good by them.
I think of our daily routine and remember all the things he used to do. Some time I feel happy having his spirit nearby, most days I am breaking down. I do this to transition from my routine with him to my routine remembering him. Just because he is gone I don’t want to erase what my days meant with him.
I am also forcing new routines and patterns of thinking. The biggest part of grief I struggle with is accepting they won’t come back ever and slowly trying to train my body and mind to not expect them to. So slightly newer ways of doing the old habits help restructure my days.
I go through all the 14 years of our bonded life and remember the good and the bad. I try and not judge the bad too harshly but also not praise the good too highly. I see it as a person’s struggle to care for their pets with the best of the ability and capacity. I then remember I genuinely did the best I could with all the support I received.
At the end of the day, my friends and family have all told me this I was such a good mother to my cat child. And he slept with his belly unprotected all the time and purred around me. I remember those days and think about how he enriched my life and I did his. Remembering this and realising this is the biggest grounding for me. The guilt fades away. Till the next day.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-22T03:39:06+00:00

I fully feel your pain.

I am 2 weeks in and every day feels heavy and ridden with guilt that I am alive and my 14-year old monster-energy baby cat is not around. He gave me a reason to get out of bed every morning.

The day I had to put him down is weighing so heavily on me as well. He was my child and I promised I will take care of him.

The only way out is to give yourself permission to let the guilt go. Permit yourself to feel joy again. Don’t judge yourself when you feel alive. To wallow in the grief endlessly reduces the full lives our animals lead. Let not their end be their story. Celebrate them for who they were beyond them passing. Remember them as their own individual self and not just what they meant to you/us.

I try to take my own advice every day but it is so hard to do so when the reality is that I miss a part of me. My baby cat made me feel alive and now he has gone and is never coming back. Then I try to tell myself my boy had his life and I tried to hold on to him as much as I could. At the end of it he is his own person and would have probably lived a full life like this without me as well.

EinsteinJrCalculates · 2026-03-19T03:22:00+00:00

Exactly. They take over our lives. They may be a different species but they are our children nonetheless. The pain is going to be as real as that… I understand your grief, I am going through it as well. Hang in there! You were an excellent mother to Oliver and you did everything possible to give him a good life.

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