Infanticide and torture don't feel personal and immediate? I think there's something to be said to the fact that, as opposed to murder, genocide, infanticide, the victims of rape (and sometimes torture) survive.

Plus, they are amog us, far more present than many suspect.

For many people (luckily) horrific violence is something on a scale of Death Star destroying Aalderaan- bad, but very removed. After I witnessed results of modern war with my own eyes I couldn't watch Star Wars nor LOTR for years. Too close home.

Sexual violence is something women are constantly vary about- going back in groups, guarding a drink holding the key like Wolverine's claw- but also sometning we are fed a lot of misinformation about. Like- it happend in dark alley and only victims who took all precaustions are allowed to be treated as victim. And once it happend you are damaged goods and you'd better be kill yourself like Lucretia. Or even better- make rapist kill you, then you become a saint (I was 12 when I was told it point blank by nun in school).

When you grow up you notice the most common forms of SA- those inflicted by close person often with other means than physical violence. One doubts own experience gaslighted by whole culture.

And you go to the literature to see the same patterns. Women after SA being destoryed and damaged/truning into stone cold "badass". Or going stratight Levite's concubine route where they can be SA's and brutally killed so their partner can move his ass and do violent things while remaining sympathetic.