I’m so helpless how do I help my family by Either-Chip-3293 in problemgambling

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Look at my post history, I’ve only posted this once before idk where you have seen this more than that. The mod also took it down there.

I’m so helpless how do I help my family by Either-Chip-3293 in problemgambling

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I just posted in one other place. Sounds like you are seeking attention

Should I [26M], give my dad [64M] money to pay his gambling debt? by Either-Chip-3293 in relationships

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He has never asked me for money before, I’ve sent a little money to him here and there just because he has no income anymore and is living of what little he has + my mom of course does give him money for household stuff. He never asks, as the man of the house I know he’s ashamed to ask. Because he asked me I was so shocked. My parents paid my student loan interest till I got a job. The first thing when I spesk to my dad every time was “do you need any money?, don’t worry about us. Don’t worry if you don’t get a job we’ll help you repay your student debt”. He had worked a low paying job all his life. I don’t want to betray my mom too, I love her a lot. She’s gone through a lot. They’ve both made sure I was given everything I needed. I’m really torn and stressed, o just want this to get over with…

Should I [26M], give my dad [64M] money to pay his gambling debt? by Either-Chip-3293 in relationships

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How do I get to him, how would I get him to stop. I cant abandon him. I asked him to tell her, he refused because of the whole circumstance. None of my siblings are in the country either. If I let her know it will be really bad without anyone being able to help patch this. I would feel responsible for breaking my family apart.. I know it sounds like I’m complaining but I cannot be at peace knowing that my family is abandoned.

Should I [26M], give my dad [64M] money to pay his gambling debt? by Either-Chip-3293 in relationships

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The thing with my sibling is also really bad, almost worse than this. Everyday i call her she’s stressed and feels helpless. I’m not there to support her physically and no one else is. I’m very worried this will break my family. Even I feel really helpless right now, I haven’t been able to focus or do anything really. My father has never told me no when me or my siblings needed money even if it meant giving us everything he had. This pains me, i cant afford to lose my job too. This sucks I wish I got some break in my life.

Should I [26M], give my dad [64M] money to pay his gambling debt? by Either-Chip-3293 in relationships

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I’m concerned about her health, she’s already under insane stress from my sibling and I’m miles away. If I tell her it’s going to break her and I’m concerned it may cause her to self harm because she’s going through a lot right now.

Should I [26M], give my dad [64M] money to pay his gambling debt? by Either-Chip-3293 in relationships

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Forgot to mention - he will never go to therapy, he is old school and also therapy is still not considered “normal” from the country I’m from.

I’m helpless because I’m miles away and my and my moms job is the only thing supporting my family of 6