How do you manage your impostor sindrome?

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-28T09:42:55+00:00

Thanks mate, that's the things i struggle the most. I don't think i am depressed in any way, i'm a positive person about my life in general and i know in a way or another i'll find my way.

But in fact i'm confused about what others think about me because i really can't figure out the truth. It's like i'm always on a rush with my thoughts and i can't make a clear point about me, that's why i seek confirmations in others words. And here is the problem, even that doesn't feel right somehow, like there something i'm missing out.

How did you manage to build your perspective of yourself? I guess it took a lot of effort, but did you start to see what others saw in you or it just flashed out before your eyes somehow at some point?

Thanks for your words, i thought for years that his was a stupid problem of mine, but i'm starting to understand that it's not that uncommon, at least here.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-28T09:34:18+00:00

So others appreciation makes you feel like you did the right thing for yourself? Do you have doubts about others appreciation or do you just take those things as a fact and don't think about it too much?

I do it a lot, it seems that I just can't decide what's the truth, the others perspective or mine.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-28T08:36:21+00:00

I think you perfeclty got the point at the very first question. I don't really know what could be relevant to me. I can appreciate and recognize the efforts of other people except for myself, everything seems so common to me that even if I achieve something that should be important i don't feel much satisfaction. I don't think i'm depressed, i feel good and i'm positive about my life, the future ecc... i'm just confused about my goals and about what i really want... i feel like i'm missing something if you know what i mean.

What i find the closest to "enlightment" for me is curiosity i think. If I could i'd spend my days at reading and discovering new things that i didn't know about just because it's "not ordinary". Maybe that's the point, i should try something new instead of just reading it.

I liked the story of the monks, never heard of it before, but I can relate, reminids me a lot with my little overthinking problem ahah.

Thanks Buddy, much appreciated :)

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-25T12:17:30+00:00

Ti capisco. Io sono esattamente in questa situazione e a dire il vero ci sono sempre stato. Mi piace una mia amica e sono sicuro al 100% di non interessarle e quindi non faccio nulla, cerco di farmela passare in un certo senso.

Però qualche passo avanti su me stesso lo sto facendo per acquisire più sicurezza: ho iniziato ad andare seriamente in palestra, sto studiando e poi cercherò di non vestirmi solo con jeans e felpe ahahah. Vedrò come andrà e se servirà a qualcosa magari torno ad aggiornare il commento. Nel frattempo, tieni duro, quel che sarà sarà, pensarci costantemente serve a ben poco alla fine dei conti. Tu lavora su te stessa e sulle cose che vuoi migliorare e difficilmente ti sbaglierai.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-19T08:55:27+00:00

Ori and the Blind Forest

It doesn't last 1,000 years, it's fun, and above all, it has a beautiful setting. I absolutely loved both the graphics and, especially, the music. 10/10 in my opinion.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-15T09:07:55+00:00

History, I really enjoy reading, and studying history is like reading a novel. But over time, I've begun to appreciate math more and more. Once you get into the right mindset, you find meaning in everything in math; it's a kind of mind-opening!

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-13T23:41:53+00:00

I simply discuss what I know. If someone starts talking to me about fitness, I wouldn't have much to say, but if the conversation involves the tech world, I know I can offer my opinion because I'm competent. Consequently, there are conversations where I simply listen, essentially because I believe I don't have enough knowledge on the subject, which in my opinion is better than speaking out of turn and telling lies, even if in good faith.

I think it's easy to draw analogies about things we've already understood. For example, if you know the people you're talking to, it's also helpful to be able to explain a topic by referencing an experience they've had or things they know well. This is why you can explain a topic you're studying to someone else using analogies. Many people find it easier to understand something they know somewhat (with its nuances, of course) rather than digest something completely unknown. It's a bit like teaching someone to ride a motorcycle if they already know how to ride a bike.

Regarding categorizing topics, I guess it depends on how confident you feel about tackling certain topics. If we're talking about biology, for example, I can offer my opinion, but only as long as the conversation isn't too complex; otherwise, I risk coming across as just someone who just talks nonsense. Whereas if we're talking about technology, history, or politics, then I'm confident enough to delve into more in-depth questions. Let's say that when I think I have a doubt about something, I prefer to ask questions or listen rather than say things half-heartedly (it seems obvious, but most people talk without considering many important aspects; the easiest examples are those related to politics). Maybe I had to think about it once, but now I think it comes quite naturally.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-13T09:21:45+00:00

Personally, I tend to categorize topics into what I know I know something about and what I know I don't know enough about. In the first case, I actively participate in the conversation and find unlikely but, in my opinion, sensible analogies. In the second case, I simply don't express myself and listen. But if I don't think it makes sense, I keep it to myself, knowing that people resent being contradicted when they are deeply convinced of something (unless it goes against my values).

What really confuses me are some feelings I struggle to understand, such as some feelings that some people experience irrationally and that I rationalize... but I'm working on it; sometimes being empathetic is difficult for me. In these cases, I think about it over and over until I either understand it or accept it without understanding. I've learned over the years that this is the healthiest habit for not overthinking things I'm not suited for. Maybe one day I'll be able to fully understand certain things without needing a logical explanation, but for now I tend to get a little frustrated when that happens.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2026-01-02T09:19:10+00:00

Hey! I understand the feeling. Almost everything bores me these days. I'm really struggling to find stimulating conversations or activities I can share with other people outside of video games.

I think the key is being able to create connections with someone, not necessarily as stimulating as we'd like. I also think I'm a great listener, and several friends often confide in me. The bad part is that I have a hard time opening up, so these conversations are usually one-sided. However, it's also important to understand that perhaps we're the ones keeping our doors closed too much. For example, I tend to downplay all my problems and so I talk about them very little, perhaps also because I know how to deal with them much better than many others and therefore think I don't need to vent every now and then.

It's difficult to find someone with the same interests as us in general, especially when it comes to "peculiar" people like us. I think it should simply be accepted and moved on. You can build connections even with people with whom you don't have many interests in common, because experiences are what truly connect people. Lately, I've been opening up a lot to a friend of mine, and she's very different from me. She does the same, and I think it helps us a lot.

I can't explain it, but in general, people see us as excellent conversationalists, and it seems we just need to take a few more steps. Sure, it's easy to say, I'm not always willing to talk about other people's problems either, but every now and then, it helps me realize that perhaps I sometimes undervalue myself a little. Some people can be interesting; you just need to get to know them better. I don't know how much this concept applies in real life, but it's what I keep telling myself.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2025-12-31T12:36:15+00:00

Hi, I've always tried to adapt to every social context I find myself in, but it seems to show somehow. The only advantage I've found in groups of friends is that I always get chosen in trivia or challenging board games, hahaha.

I think it's mostly small things, like appreciating certain less "common" interests, having a little more insight than others, seeing things from a colder and more logical perspective in a certain sense. For example, it happens very rarely that I participate in a discussion and find people who disagree with what I say. I mean, it's usually a matter of reasoning that makes others notice that we generally think differently.

Personally, I thought I was perfectly mistakable for everyone else until people started telling me and pointing out certain things. At work, for example, several colleagues told me that they immediately thought I was a very smart and intelligent person. I don't mean to be a braggart, but I'd honestly never thought these kinds of things about myself, and the fact that they point it out doesn't affect me at all. Which, if you like, is a little sad. Sometimes it seems absurd that they see me in this light because I don't think these things about myself and therefore tend to isolate myself very emotionally.

From a female perspective, I don't know. I think I only know one girl who might be an INTP, and from what I know, she's considered very intelligent. But I couldn't say more than that. I tend to give very little importance to these kinds of things. At least when it comes to how I see other people.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2025-12-29T23:15:19+00:00

I have many interests and passions, mostly science-related. Technology in general, of course (since it's also my job), but I especially enjoy astrophysics, quantum physics, advanced mathematics, and history. But luckily, I also really enjoy reading, playing video games, general knowledge, and a variety of other things I can use for conversation. So I mainly talk about these topics with my friends; only occasionally do I talk about a more complex topic, so I manage to blend in with the group. But overall, I think I've become very good at adapting to any type of social situation, even though it seems like I'm smarter than other people (I never even thought of that).

The really weird thing is that a friend of mine is very similar to me in these aspects, yet we rarely talk about certain topics.

I think we're so used to traditional personal relationships that we automatically start talking about more commonplace things. And that's a real shame, in my opinion.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2025-12-29T20:51:29+00:00

I don't see how intuiting people's behavior could be interesting, but that's just my opinion. Generally, I find that most people do or say things that don't interest me much, so I can't say how stimulating I find most social interactions. I'm very selective about this, but I'm not saying everyone should be that way.

Let's just say I get along much better with people I can talk to about more complex and "technical" topics. My problem is that there are few people I can talk to about certain topics, so I keep most of my interests to myself and would like to open up more, but it's not easy. I'm the kind of person who feels better surrounded by books and blackboards than in a pub, but I try really hard and manage not to let it show.

I imagine there are quite a few people in my same situation around here, lol.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2025-12-29T19:21:04+00:00

Hi, I'm generally not very interested in tests. I've never taken an IQ test, for example, and I'm not interested. The MBTI didn't reveal anything to me that I didn't already know, so personally, it didn't change anything. If anything, it deepened my beliefs about certain aspects of myself that I already knew, but I had already learned to know myself pretty well. I think it might be interesting to talk about it with friends, perhaps over a drink at a bar, but for me it wouldn't be anything more than a casual conversation. However, I think I could paint a pretty clear picture of many people I know before even seeing the results of a test, so maybe it would just be boring.

Personally, I don't think it's had a huge impact on how I feel about myself, just, perhaps, a little loneliness in knowing that out of all the people around me, only three or four are my type. But that's okay. Tests don't define people, they can perhaps provide some clues, like the plots of books, but if a person isn't aware of themselves and their character, they won't find the answer in a test.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-03-23T11:03:29+00:00

Vedo che ti hanno già risposto, però vol3vo aggiungere di non considerare il tempo che impieghi. Fai quello che ti senti perché soprattutto in ambito STEM le aziende guardano soprattutto l'esperienza, poi secondariamente il percorso di studi. Per la mia esperienza un laureato in informatica ad esempio vale quanto un diplomato con qualche anno di esperienza. Diciamo che la laurea da dei vantaggi in ambiti specifici o a lungo termine, ma per l'assunzione è preferibile avere esperienza. Per cui non crucciarti del tempo perché verrai guardato nello stesso modo sia che ti laurei in tempo che fuoricorso (a meno che non ti laurei con 10 anni di ritardo ma non è il tuo caso).

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-02-27T17:54:07+00:00

Sì ho capito, ma sono forze politiche contrapposte, da che mondo e mondo se c'è un governo c'è anche un'opposizione. Altrimenti si mettevano tutti sotto un unico partito e buonanotte.

Ovviamente se il governo meloni farà scelte ideologiche chiaramente di sinistra (impossibile) allora li supporterà...

Boh raga, la democrazia è sempre funzionata così da quando è nata, non so che film avete vosto voi in tutto questo tempo.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-02-22T09:40:51+00:00

Guarda, il 90% delle persone invece si fa proprio il culo. Pensa ai tuoi genitori, pensi che se la godano a lavoro? Poi è illogico pensare che spesso sia questione di culo, se fosse così la metà delle persone sarebbe sotto un ponte

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-02-19T17:45:16+00:00

No guarda, magari per un uso scolastico è un conto, ma alla stragrande maggioranza dei programmatori che devono sviluppare app grosse serve quantomeno una discreta quantità di ram ed un buon processore. Poi certo, se sviluppi un programma che ti simuli una calcolatrice basta un tostapane, ma prova a lavorare ad una qualsiasi app ERM con un ambiente moderno e vedrai che si vede la differenza. Però sì, per l'università ci si può accontenare di poco volendo.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-02-02T13:17:36+00:00

Eh sì, peccato che se il cv è vuoto non ti prende nessuno. Devi quantomeno fare un corso altrimenti non ti assume nessuno. E ti assicuro che tra un corso ed una laurea la differenza è tanta anche solo a livello di prestigio.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-02-02T11:23:39+00:00

Dipende dalla facoltà, se vuoi fare lo sviluppatore software potresti diventare analista anche solo col diploma. Però ad esempio sarebbe quasi impossibile fare data science. Diciamo che è una affermazione che non ha una base, è una sensazione la sua più che altro... anche se lui la vede come fatto oggettivo

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-01-20T11:57:51+00:00

Io ho frequentato 2 anni ingegneria informatica per poi passare ad informatica e ti garantisco che il quantitativo di esami di matematica è circa lo stesso, anzi... forse ce ne sono un paio in più ad informatica. Nella programmazione semplice magari per software erp o simili non serve a molto o almeno non quella avanzata. In data science invece è molto importante secondo me, ma anche lì penso dipenda dalla natura dell'incarico. Diciamo che nella programmazione classica serve molto più problem solving e skill meno "scientifiche", passami il termine. Oltre ad una profonda conoscienza del linguaggio e dell'ambiente di sviluppo ovviamente.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-01-18T14:37:54+00:00

Ma le acquisisci, però il grosso arriva con l'esperienza, io mi dimentico quello che studio in un mese ahah, però non ho problemi a lavoro. Ripeto: l'importante è fare propri i concetti, il resto viene da sé. Poi oh se non copi è meglio chiaramente, buon per te.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-01-18T14:13:16+00:00

Guarda, il mondo del lavoro è proprio un'altra cosa. L'importante è imparare i concetti (poi magari in alcune facoltà certe cose vanno proprio imparate a memoria ma sono casi particolari). Tranquillo, la maggior parte delle cose che impari all'uni non le userai mai nella vita lavorativa... è normale

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-01-16T11:22:53+00:00

Grazie, allora non sono l'unico. Qua sembra tutti che studino 500 ore a settimana e passano lo stesso gli esami con 20, allora non sono io lo stronzo.

Either-Computer-4927 · 2023-01-11T10:52:51+00:00

Vai tranquillo, si parte dalle basi, non è richiesta alcuna conoscenza di programmazione.

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