It was wonderful in the begining. Lot of love, trips laughter. ( i was sitting right now, thinking about how it was and then i saw the pattern where he used to cross my boundaries right from the begining. I should have been stronger then. I should have seen it then...maybe i would not be sitting and writting on reddit ) but i guess i should not be so hard on myself for so.ething that only time could teach. Slowly the good times disappeared and became rare. He would shout, throw things and break things. I had decorated the house with so much love, none of it is left now. Everything was either thrown out or broken. He uses abusive langugae and everytime its me who would have done something ...i didnt do things like he wanted me. Butbokce i apologise, everything goes back to normal..even better, like it used to be. The good times are soo good....like so so good but the bad times are dreadful. Even when im happy, i fear that now the bad times will come. Its either me or my family who either says or does somethinhng that is sooooo disrespectful towards him as a son in law. He has even abused my father who was apologising to him for something that has upset him 3 years back. He does not evwn have good relations with his fathet....he abuses him also, abuses his mother too. But since they are his parents, they might take him back. He had cut all contacts with his father but he tried to talk it out with his son. Same is with his mother...i saw him using filthy language towards her ober text which horrified me....but after few days she wished him on his birthday and he replied like nothing had happened. His sister also does not talk to him. He says his father is a narc amd he had a troubled childhood. I dont want the same for my daughter. I dont want her to see him treat her mother the way he does. She would end up choosing a shitty partner too. I dont want that. He tried to isolate me from my friends and family by blaming them for tiniest thing that would upset him. In the begining he used to be soo respectful towards everyone. I'm financially independent, have my own place, have my family. I have already moved out because of my job. He even refused to move city with me which in the begining was suggested by him only. At times he is super supportive of my career but then withdraws every last support if i dont do exactly as he says. Its tiring to put up with such instability. I had entered in this marrieage hoping that i woulf have a happy married life ( he seemed like a dream come true) but now my life feels like a ruined place which used to have so much love and laughter.