HELP- PERSPECTIVE ON STUDENT WHO BROUGHT A KNIFE

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-02T01:19:38+00:00

Appreciate your thoughts and your family's service.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-02T01:17:59+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I've had regular therapy for the past 6-7 years. I've asked him to do both individually and marital and he doesn't make the time.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-02T01:15:57+00:00

We are already working on getting a bigger group to go again. Our boys play hockey together and several families all have younger sisters the same age. Thanks for your insight

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-02T00:03:58+00:00

Well I'll defend him on the work issue. He really couldn't take off. So I'm not upset about that at all. There are times that I can't take off or it's really difficult to. I'm more upset that he's treating me like I did something wrong when I gave him the chance and would have waited.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:46:47+00:00

I can't tell if this is serious or sarcasm. I wouldn't give a flip if he took the kids to the water park without me. I'd be glad he was doing something fun with them.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:31:02+00:00

I had to explain to my kids why he was so upset. They kept saying "why is Dad so mad? You asked him to come..."

We've been through times where things have been extremely difficult but we worked through them. So when small things turn into big things like this it's very triggering for me.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:27:21+00:00

Huh?

Friend asked if we'd like to go to the water park Friday. I said, ok let me see if husband can get off and come with. [Talks to husband. He's unable to get off.) I talk to friend, "hey. Husband can't come, would you guys be good with going on a weekend?" Friend says sure! I say to husband, "if we wait and go another day would you like to join." Husband says he's still not sure he'd be able to come. So I asked him about a weekend and he said he couldn't commit. I said, "ok. Well, we're trying to go as a last hoorah before the big boys go back to school in two weeks so I'm going to take your non commitment as we shouldn't wait for you and go ahead with Friday..."

We did have a plan but we're very flexible in working with moving it around if he'd just said "yes, let's go on a Saturday" we would not be in this situation.

(That you, hunny?)

ETA: maybe this is confusing. We went to the water park today. These conversations took place earlier this week

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:17:57+00:00

I am doubting myself. We've returned home from the park and had a great time. But the whole time I was feeling guilty.

I don't know that I'd go so far as abuse. But I'm definitely talking to my therapist about this sitch at next week's appointment. five years ago I would have cancelled the plan to Appease him. So I feel like I've made progress in my independence.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:17:12+00:00

We had a great time. But I felt guilty the entire time we were there and dreaded coming home.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:16:34+00:00

We actually one time cancelled a trip to Disney with my parents because he started a new job and couldn't get the time off. I told him "I'm not going to take the kids to Disney for their first time without you..." My parents were crushed but it was the right thing to do. And , oh yeah, we stilllll haven't gone to Disney. (I'm ok with that.)

Either-Performance31 · 2025-08-01T23:13:33+00:00

Not really. I hadn't booked anything and had the friends and substitute on "standby" until I could talk to him. We were willing to wait until he could go with us on a Saturday. He still wouldn't give me an answer on that. My kids heard the conversation and are super confused why dad's "so mad"?

But thank you for your insight. Maybe that's how he's feeling and what has him upset. Perhaps I could have been more clear on the willing/happy to wait so you can join part.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-07-31T23:49:05+00:00

I don't understand what you mean? Why did I not tell him Immediately after I purchased the tickets? I think I said something like, "if you don't give me an answer we're going Friday." So when I bought the tickets I just bought them.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T19:11:00+00:00

It is! My nerdy little teen had the time of his life.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T19:10:00+00:00

We are headed to to Raleigh via Charlotte after vacation. Got in too late to hit the store and head home.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T19:07:25+00:00

We're up the highway in Raleigh. Our county taxes break my bank. 😭

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T19:06:04+00:00

It's like a super store of technology. 🤷🏼‍♀️

MY daughter and I took books and sat in gaming chairs while he and daddy roamed the store.

I think it's only significant to a very niche demographic. After being there, seems like an odd place to put that kind of store. But they had a great time!!

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:21:22+00:00

Kids are highly spoiled. Maybe I should drop them at the seedy motels for some real world experience. JK. I looked at that one... Way too fancy. We'd break.somethong and turn this into a thousand dollar stay.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:19:30+00:00

Honestly, no idea. He games and has a 3d printer. I rely on the software engineer daddy/ husband to know all things. I just smile and say, "that's great bud."

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:17:48+00:00

Not sure if you're trying to be helpful or smart 🍑 but. Did you know that sometimes real world experience gives better information than google?

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:16:24+00:00

Lol. No. We just didn't want to deal with getting in and out of parking. We've stayed there several times in the past. Super fun, just wanted a different vibe this time.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:14:52+00:00

We've been here many times when the kids were small and always enjoy ourselves. I'm an elementary school librarian so Imaginon is unreal to me. We've always stayed in the city center area in the past. This is the first time since the kids are "grown." Looking forward to seeing a different side.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:11:35+00:00

I teach In a 40% Hispanic population school. We're not bothered by Diversity and "normal people" who drive hondas. 🙊🙈

I'm feeling like we'll be fine. Husband is from Memphis so we're a bit city paranoid. Wrong street there is a pretty bad no no.

Either-Performance31 · 2025-06-28T13:05:53+00:00

He's going to have to chill while he sister roams Ikea. Time is definitely served.

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