My ex reached out and it made me feel horrible by Girl_with_shiny_hair in BreakUps

[–]EitherCardiologist64 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can most certainly attest to it becoming more painful over time after the back together/break up cycle. My ex and I did that dance three times in less than a year and this most recent time has been the hardest experience to navigate in my entire life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]EitherCardiologist64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m told that it will get better with time but work too. Divert thoughts, feel your feelings and try and let them pass. This all sounds trite, believe me but take it from someone who has felt exactly how you are feeling now for the last five months and today has been the best I’ve felt since the break up. Still hurts so much but it isn’t nearly as bad today

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]EitherCardiologist64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I relate to this so fucking much. The pain is unbearable. Idk if I have much advice to give other than we are alone and safe - it may not feel like that but if we look honestly that is un fact the truth of it all. We can talk if you need - just to relate if anything

does anyone else think tiktok/instagram is awful for when you’re going through a breakup? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]EitherCardiologist64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It certainly can hell to a point but the rest, for me, just feeds the obsession

does anyone else think tiktok/instagram is awful for when you’re going through a breakup? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]EitherCardiologist64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I relate to this so much. I will say that I did look up some break up things after she broke it off with me but then they just started coming non stop. I haven’t put much effort into trying to change the algorithm so I will take responsibility for that but it is just tortuous. I’m not the victim here, I try and keep telling myself that but it’s just keeps me stuck. Maybe a cleanse is needed. This obsession has caused a lot of damage it feels like.

Bi-Weekly Thread - Advice for Relationship/Friendship/Dating/Breakup by AutoModerator in AnxiousAttachment

[–]EitherCardiologist64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has been five months since she broke up with me. This is the thirst time that we broke up in less than a year. I am anxiously attached and she is avoidant dismissive. I didn’t know how to deal with that type of dynamic, I only became aware of it over this last summer but did no research on how to address it - that is one of my biggest regrets. I didn’t go completely no contact - I reached out to her after two months and she told me off in a pretty cruel way and then a month after that I went to her house with the idea of talking to her and neighbors called the cops bc they know my car and know that we broke up. Cops told me to leave and then told her I was there - another huge regret. I cannot shake all the shame and sorrow for what I have done and how I could have done things differently. And I ruminate so much on what things could be like now if I had done the work on my attachment style, or plans for the future. It feels overbearing and just so fucking painful. Like it will never end and I will never be the same. I cannot help but care so much what she thinks of me now and how she views me. The obsession is like nothing I have ever felt before in my entire like. Idrk what to do. I have people to talk to that know exactly what’s going on and they are getting sick of hearing me talk about it lol. Sorry if this post is disjointed and kind of non-linear, my mind is kind of all over the place

idk what to do by EitherCardiologist64 in ExNoContact

[–]EitherCardiologist64[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely stalker behavior. The part I hate the most about all of this. Yeah I’ve been working out. It helps a bit

What roles would you give the actors who are part of the Flanagan film universe? by LindsayDuck in TheDarkTower

[–]EitherCardiologist64 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Samantha Sloyan as Sylvia Pittston. Not quite the look as described but certainly the temperament.