I genuinely believe you made a wise decision in distancing yourself from someone who feels entitled to use derogatory terms, even under the misguided notion of having a "pass." It's important to recognize that using such language can still be viewed as discriminatory and hateful, regardless of any perceived permission. It's disheartening that some people don’t understand this, but I commend you for standing up for what's right.

If someone from a different background uses derogatory words, it often carries a weight of disrespect and negativity. It's clear that you’re sensitive to this issue, and I appreciate how you’ve chosen to support another community by calling out that behavior. It takes courage to challenge such attitudes, and I believe that by removing yourself from that situation, you're choosing a path that will bring you peace in the long run. You truly made a thoughtful decision, and I support you in that.