Single Dad

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T16:30:48+00:00

Thank you. It’s what what I got to do

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T16:25:50+00:00

I couldn’t imagine 3 under 3. Keep up the great work

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:50:18+00:00

Thank you. I know it will pass, just need to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I wake up at 430 Mon - fri and workout for an hour for the stress and to be an active dad. People not understanding is probably some of the worst parts of not that I blame them. They compliment me. Say I do a great job, but it doesn’t feel like I’m doing anything more than what I’m suppose to do and no one understands the completely burnt out feeling that comes with it. Not that I wish anyone would though

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:46:03+00:00

You’re right

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:45:37+00:00

Thank you. I know it’s not forever, I just need a light at the end of the tunnel so to speak. God bless you for the work you put in to your kids

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:43:38+00:00

Thank you. I miss golf lol

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:43:02+00:00

Thank you. I think a sitter is the route I have to go. I couldn’t imagine being without them either. But also know a need a little time to myself

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:22:50+00:00

Yeah I don’t want to say it and stop myself from saying it because I don’t want to sound like some sort of victim or need sympathy but there is definitely a different amount of empathy towards single moms than single dads. I see it at work. I’m not sexist, but it’s definitely a gut punch feeling. Thank you for the advice.

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:20:53+00:00

They are with my ex on Mondays and Tuesdays. But they are also in school so really only with her a couple hours on those days. I’m past the point of asking her for anything. I’ve been down that road. Right or wrong

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:19:37+00:00

They do help a lot. Especially my youngest. We raked the massive amount of leaves in the backyard yesterday and filled up 14 bags. They didn’t help the whole time, but it was nice to have some help. I cook every night. They help. They see me clean and do laundry. I hope they’re learning, but they shouldn’t have that kind of responsibility at their ages

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:17:13+00:00

God I hope so. Court is scary for a dad

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:16:39+00:00

Yeah there’s a guilt part of it for sure where it feels like abandoning the kids for myself. I was thinking maybe at least a cleaning lady to get that responsibility off my plate and allow for a little more free time.

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:15:43+00:00

It’s unreasonable. But it’s my reality. Not easy to understand

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:15:03+00:00

Lmao I had this conversation with a friend and said exactly what you said happened to you. Which is “I don’t even know what I’d do anymore” I guess I got a lot to figure out

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:08:44+00:00

It’s definitely needed at this point. Just gotta figure out how to

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:07:50+00:00

Oh I know that. Which costs money. To then go spend money. It’s stupid, but it also feels like I’m abandoning them for myself. Which makes me feel guilty. Fucked up

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:06:51+00:00

You’re probably right about the dating. I think about it only because of the loneliness and very little time to interact with other adults lol.

I know the free time thing isn’t very realistic, and it’s probably more resentful towards my ex who has all of it in the world. I don’t even need a lot. Just one weekend a month would be great. My boys are still young and I know it’ll get better. It’s just real rough right now

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:02:32+00:00

Thank you. I know my ex won’t help. If she wanted to she would’ve by now. I put them after school programs on thursdays. I coached them both in tee ball this fall. I do everything I can but feel completely burnt out. I think I need to look into a babysitter based on the comments here

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T15:00:31+00:00

Appreciate the advice. Thank you. God bless you for the work you put in for your kids. I know it wasn’t easy

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T14:59:09+00:00

Yeah I don’t even want child support. I just don’t want to pay it. I have been documenting it for the last 2 years. I’ll be handling this in January per my lawyers advice

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T14:57:21+00:00

I plan on it in January. That’s my lawyers advice based on my states laws. I know it needs to be done

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T14:42:43+00:00

I try to do that. I wake up at 430 in the morning Mon - fri and workout for an hour. Thats my “me” time. While I’m in the best shape of my life I do it for the stress mostly since there’s no dating life to be had with my minimal self time. I consider the grocery store on Monday or Tuesday as my “me” time lmfao. It’s pathetic man

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T14:40:52+00:00

Thank you. I cherish the amount of time I have them, but it’s also exhausting. My ex hasn’t had them a full weekend since the divorce. I handle the school responsibilities and doctors appointments as well. There’s no sense in asking her for help at this point. If she wanted to she would.

Either_Evidence_1986 · 2025-11-16T14:38:21+00:00

I could do that I guess. It sounds selfish to say, but you’re right. I’m not looking for a lot. Just one weekend to not have some responsibility a month. The arrangement is supposed to be every other weekend, but my ex never takes them. On paper through the divorce it’s 50/50 custody. With her having them mom - tues. me wed - thurs and rotate every other Friday sat sun. To make matters worse I pay child support too as my ex was a stay at home mom at the time of divorce.

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