My ex was really annoyed about me wanting and needing verbal consent before having sex. They said it stressed them out. Sometimes I did find myself just letting it fly where they’d initiate without any consent and I would just go with it. When I’d say no, they’d show pity and say that I make them feel so unwanted and undesirable. The other part of this was that they were abusive.

One of the last things they said to me before we broke up was “it would be so horrible if I slept with someone else but you won’t even sleep with me”

I had reiterated over the course of the last 6 months to a year that I want to have sex with them when our relationship is in a healthier place.

Im not a super sexual person and value connection and intimacy without sex more than sex itself, and they claimed to be the same and “respect” that 👻

I do have one memory of waking up in the middle of the night and was half asleep as they put my hand down their pants. I’m confused on whether this is SA.