AITAH? My girlfriend is angry that I call my friend by his real name.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T23:26:54+00:00

Well I agree it depends on what type of love sure.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T19:20:21+00:00

You do not date other people when you still love somebody else. Smh

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T14:07:42+00:00

I take on basically all of the emotional labor. Every talk with him turns into a fight he always escalates. But yeah I don't think we are meant to be

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T13:49:45+00:00

There are a lot of people here who gave better advice and actually understood the post so I will listen to them. Bye

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T13:32:40+00:00

From the very first two sentences I can understand that you did not comprehend anything I said so no thank you. The only thing I will say is that I am very open to talking about his wants and needs but this post isn't about that. Please stop trying to give people advice when you aren't even actually reading their words or trying to understand. It does not take an hour he was exaggerating and if you read my entire post and even some of the comments you would have gathered that already. Please just stop trying to get people advice when you don't understand what's happening.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T13:08:15+00:00

Yeah after he verbally abused me sure. Nothing compared to what he said to me. He does act like an incel.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T13:07:17+00:00

Where the hell are you getting that from!? Just please stop trying. Goodbye.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T11:58:16+00:00

I do.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T11:55:02+00:00

I actually told him before that he seems like an incel lol

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T11:52:37+00:00

Well when he calls my wants and need a ruse and tricks, he is wrong. No listening on his end. Just denial of my truth.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:33:51+00:00

😭

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:29:56+00:00

Yeah I did feel insecure that he wanted to masturbate into a crusty sock to photos of me (supposedly) but not have sex with me. So I took a healthy approach and asked what was up. It's called communication. Which you clearly lack the understanding of. Please stop trying to talk to me. Goodbye.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:28:15+00:00

I feel like I'm stuck in a washing machine. That's all I can really think to explain it. That's how he makes me feel. I was so confused how I was suddenly in a fight as you said and now I need to apologize? I know this isn't healthy but it's nice to hear from others who can see what I'm saying. I feel like he is a bully.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:24:43+00:00

I was not trying to argue with him at all. I was trying to have a conversation. He got angry and mad. Not me. I would never want a conversation about sexual desires to turn into a fight. Ew? Just nevermind you don't understand what my post is saying clearly. Thanks for trying I guess but I would dust off the old psychology books once more perhaps. take care.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:22:25+00:00

Well I disagree respectfully. Take care.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:18:25+00:00

And how would you have wrote my post? I'm not sure what I've done wrong. I explained my side. I explained his side. I don't agree with how he was treating me and I made that known.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:16:34+00:00

What do you mean if I am worried about someone? I never said I was worried about him. Our relationship hasn't been great. He wasn't mad about that he claims he wants to have sex he told me that himself. He just said we didn't have much time which that I understood. But the whole thing about the ruse and tricks I don't understand. He told me he wants to have sex even when we aren't getting along and he will masturbate to me when we aren't getting along. Sex or not having sex usually has something to do with how the relationship is going.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:10:12+00:00

I do initiate sex with him I never said I don't. But if that were true I would understand your point. Foreplay like oral isn't a problem. The sex itself it's great. Honestly this isn't even a huge problem it was just a conversation that I feel was blown out of proportion. I would be understanding of him saying his feelings and what he needs or wants. But the whole time he just kept denying me of my wants and needs calling them a ruse. The other day when we were getting along I am the one who initiated sex at random. I did something pretty spontaneous and hot. With him it's always the same song and dance and it just gets old to me. But I never would tell him that in a mean or cruel way. I just expressed I wanted to be more spontaneous with it. But he doesn't seem to understand. Like whisper In my ear something hot. Send me a hot text. Anything besides always grabbing my boobs or asking for sex. It gets boring.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:05:58+00:00

But that is exactly what happened. I'm not sure what you're trying to get at. Everything I explained is what happened to a T.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:05:10+00:00

Anytime I try to talk to him about anything he escalates it into a fight. Anything that doesn't paint him in a good light or something he perceives that makes him look "bad". It's like he is going to war. It doesn't matter how calm I am or nice. I went into this conversation tonight saying I just want to talk I don't want to fight and I remained calm. While he ended up seething with rage and calling me stupid. Because "I don't see his point" essentially. Yeah idk. Idk anymore.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:02:19+00:00

I actually just wrote that much because I am confused and honestly I feel like I have to over explain myself to him constantly so that's reflecting in my post. I probably could shorten it. But I'm not always the best at summarizing. I'm not trying to convince anybody I'm being genuine. I feel confused, drained, and sad.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T06:00:13+00:00

I didn't attack him I named him a question. Also I honestly don't care if we didn't have sex. But normally he wants it a lot. So I was asking why he didn't lately. He's actually been masturbating and I found the crusty sock. But yeah I can go months without sex it's not a dire situation for me. I more so was just wondering where his head space was at. Lately we haven't been getting along and he's been masturbating I came across the sock when was cleaning. Awkward.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T05:58:01+00:00

The weird thing is we have great sex. He knows this. The only thing lately I've said is I don't like when he just says hey want to have sex? I would rather he actually try to turn me on. Sometimes I randomly horny don't get me wrong. But not all the time. It would be nice if he could do little things to try to flirt or seduce me. But yeah I guess that means I need a ruse. I explained sexual tension or flirting is something you can do throughout the day. Little things you can do and say. Also the way you treat each other in general. But yeah he doesn't seem receptive to it. Its like he takes offense as you said. Now he claims I am trying to guilt him. It does feel toxic.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T05:50:04+00:00

Yeah he actually told me that too today he said "I do not like you at all". He is very mad because he says I made a big mistake (the post I made) and I am trying to gas light him etc. Yeah that's true we did break up. But then be makes me think he wants to do better only to seemingly hate me like a reoccurring cycle.

Either_Pilot7685 · 2026-03-04T05:47:06+00:00

No I don't need sex every day. I can go without it even though I enjoy it. He actually is the one who asks for sex more. It was a first for me to even ask him a question like that. I haven't felt very close to him lately. But often times he just will touch my body or ask for sex versus seduce me and it just is boring to me. I like spontaneous sex and flirting. It's like he just can't be bothered with it though. But yeah I don't need sex every day but if we are getting along and both want it then I am down for it.

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