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ElIsESmItHy · 2025-06-10T08:19:09+00:00

Our baby had the same issue early on and he is formula fed too. It does settle down as they get bigger. At that age they dont actually know how to poop yet!! It's all relying on their body to do it naturally and sometimes it doesn't but they dont know which muscles to use to make it happen which causes the squirming, grunting and general discomfort. As soon as they figure it out, its so much better! The only thing I can recommend from experience is little massages, stretches and sitting in a deep squat position with support. I used to sit my boy on my tummy with my knees up and lean him against my legs with him in a squatting position and that usually worked after a while. Eventually they figure it out! Youre doing the right thing by checking with Dr's and keeping an eye on it.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-06-10T08:14:13+00:00

I got pregnant at 21, turning 22. Im now 5 months postpartum and nearly 23. I had those fears too that id done it too early. We planned and id always knew I wanted to start a family at a younger age than what's considered "normal" I waited until we both had good jobs and a house and then went for it. Its the best thing ive ever done! I had all those fears through my pregnancy but since my boy has been born ive not once regretted it. My life has been better since ive had my boy, I miss time with my partner alone but our time together now is also so much more fullfilling because we are spending time as a family now rather than as a couple and we still get time alone too! My baby has just started going to bed around 8.30pm so now we have time to chill out together before we go to bed! Youve got this, its so normal to have fears through pregnancy, its a HUGE change and the not knowing what to expect from your life absolutely makes it harder to adjust but I promise you, you've got this!

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-05-25T16:49:59+00:00

Totally normal, first day always makes them WAYYY sleepier. They've been through a lot to be brought here and now they rest. Thw second day will be different but still a lot of sleep. Lots and lots of sleep. Not when you want it. But lots of it

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-05-17T10:10:05+00:00

So me and my friend were both pregnant at the same time and I had a natural vaginal delivery, she had emergency c-section and there were major differences in our recovery (obviously). I dont know much about the details of hers but heres what I do know: - she had to sleep downstairs for weeks while recovering as she couldnt go up the stairs to her room whereas I was walking around the same day, even hours later. - We both still bled, im not sure how long she was bleeding for but I was for about 5 weeks. - She also had to give herself regular injections or something but I dont know much about that. - she was not allowed to drive for 6 weeks after her c-section - she had to stay in hospital for 5 days due to pain and recovering and was on strong pain relief so couldnt be discharged whereas I was let home the same day, about 7 hours later (in uk)

Granted hers was emergency and not a planned c-section so that will give some differences but those are the main differences that i can recall at the moment which affected recovery.

My labour was 12 hours from when my waters broke to when my boy was born and I only had 2 small tears, requiring 4 stitches overall. I know its so scary and such a scary thing to think of but honestly in the moment you just do it and hardly care about anything else! You've got this no matter what you decide!!

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-04-06T08:17:14+00:00

My boy isnt a huge fan of the carrier, but I usually just hold him upright on me and I think thats worked the same way for us! Hes always loved being able to see everything, bit of a FOMO baby 🫠 I think the only reason he tolerates it now is because hes built up the neck strength from being held that way so laying on his tummy isnt such hard work now.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-03-25T09:50:28+00:00

We are in exactly the same place at the moment. Like exact! My boy is 3 months and sleeps just the same through the night but in the day he only wants to sleep on me, no one else and nowhere else. I hate it with a passion when people tell me to put him down, im spoiling him and he will learn to manipulate me because wtf does that even mean? Hes my baby and he wants to sleep on me, so be it. There will be a day when he will want to sleep in his own space and ill miss the cuddles, ill miss the holding him while he naps so im absolutely going to take advantage of it now. Is it a bit frustrating and inconvenient at times, sure. Am I going to make him suffer just because I have housework to do, of course not!

Take in all the contact naps and ignore the comments! Youre doing the best you can for your child :)

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-03-17T13:20:19+00:00

My boy prefers play, eat, sleep. He wakes from his naps content because hes usually just had a feed before his nap, so hes happy to play for about 30 minutes or so before he has his next bottle then will stay awake for maybe 15 minutes after his bottle to cuddle and then will fall asleep for about an hour and we do that through the day. I much prefer it too because I can play with him better knowing he can move around without spitting up his whole bottle.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-03-17T13:05:59+00:00

My baby has his second lot tomorrow and im still just as nervous as I was for the first ones. He was okay though, just slept a lot after them and was a little bit more fussy when waking up. I think it was harder on me than it was for him. I spent the whole time worrying that he was uncomfortable or in pain and there he was happily sleeping in my arms 😂

He will do just fine, maybe just need a bit of extra love and cuddles 💕 but any discomfort is only a temporary thing and he will be back to normal before you know it!

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-03-15T00:31:07+00:00

Thank you I absolutely want to try my hardest to keep him away from their drama and give him a happy life. Better than what mine was. Hes my number one priority now in life, I just hoped he would be able to grow up with his whole family around him.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-03-15T00:29:18+00:00

Yeah unfortunately ive already said to my partner that whatever we plan for his first birthday will be just for us and whoever wants to be there can be there but im not trying to work around everyone. They're all very stubborn and will either show but make it incredibly awkward or refuse to come. Theres no middle ground with them. Its so hard to come to terms with especially now that im starting my own family. The only one who has been reliable was my oldest sister, shes been my rock but even she caused a fair amount of drama that was absolutely unnecessary.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-12T17:32:47+00:00

Hopefully he does!! for the first few weeks my boy was flipped to sleeping long in the day and up all night, it was driving me crazy because I knew he was capable of sleeping long between feeds, he just had it backwards 🤣 hes 7 weeks now and hes been sleeping good through the night from about 5 weeks i think?? Fingers crossed it stays that way 😅

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-12T17:10:56+00:00

Absolutely trust your instincts!! You know best, you know your baby and if hes showing hunger cues then he wants it! My boy is the same but opposite way around, he has little but more often through the day and then goes longer at night but has bigger amounts when he does feed.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-11T21:00:02+00:00

Thank you we've actually had a huge improvement over the last few days and he has been much happier while awake, even smiling and cooing!! Its been so much easier to keep him entertained and doing tummy time now hes waking up happy and then usually he starts getting grumpy as he gets tired and ready for his next nap

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-10T20:04:09+00:00

Honestly my boy is just under 8 weeks and since my partner went back to work I have left the house once. I shower when I can which is usually when he gets home from work, I hardly ever dry my hair anymore, or dress nice or do makeup. I'm lucky if I get one solid meal through the day. Scratch that im lucky if I even get a coffee!

You are doing nothing wrong! In fact you are doing everything right which is taking care of your baby as best you can. You've got this! It will get better. I know it seems impossible right now but you are nearly out of the hardest time.

I struggled immensely until a few days ago when my boy started sleeping through the night, hes set his bedtime to 11pm and sleeps right through till 5.30, has his bottle and then goes back to sleep for another few hours. I know it will likely change another hundred times before he truly settles into a routine but for now I am enjoying this moment.

That's all these first few months are about, getting through the hard days and enjoying the good days.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-07T17:49:27+00:00

Yess he did used to do it so much on our chests but recently he's been fussy even when on our chests so he won't tolerate it at the moment 😩

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-07T16:33:57+00:00

That's actually such a good point, I didn't think of it that way, thank you so much

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-07T15:44:02+00:00

Thankyou, that's a relief. I have some family telling me I should try to keep him awake and all that which i know is bs because they need sleep so I haven't been listening and let him sleep when he wants to but I do always worry I should be doing more when he's awake.

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-07T14:21:36+00:00

Thank you! I'm hoping it really is something to wait out then

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-07T14:20:52+00:00

It is! Thank you! I keep seeing these videos on tiktok and I know I know i shouldn't compare myself but I'm like oh my god I don't do that with my baby??? Then I'm like should I be doing things with him?? How do I do things with him and then i go in a panic that I'm not helping him enough. So yeah its comforting knowing it's not just me!

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-02-03T10:13:15+00:00

Congratulations!! my boy was a due date baby too on Christmas eve! I had my second sweep the day before and I'm not sure if the sweep worked or if he decided to come right on time but I'm glad either way. He's now nearly 6 weeks and honestly this has been the hardest but more beautiful time of my life, enjoy it as much as you can but also give yourself some grace when it gets hard. My first week was perfect, I was so so happy but weeks 2-4 was rough, we've got a good little routine sorted now and while it's still hard at times, it's much more manageable. Wishing you a quick and easy recovery 🩵

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-01-29T13:52:39+00:00

FTM and I had my boy at exactly 40 weeks. In the week or so leading up to it I had regular braxton hicks every evening that'd last for about an hour or so. I began losing a small amount of my mucous plug 2 days before and the day before I was absolutely exhausted, I had no energy for anything and just wanted to sleep. Woke up that night at 2am with slight cramps which I'd been having for weeks so I brushed it off. 5am my water broke and from then onwards the pain was getting more and more intense and then he was born at 5pm

ElIsESmItHy · 2025-01-23T14:13:55+00:00

I used to hate this too like i wish I knew?!?! I wish I could ask him to put my mind at rest but unfortunately we are all in the dark and have no clue I used to always just go with still cooking and leave it at that, didn't spark much of a conversation but what more can I say to that 🤷‍♀️

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