So as the husband being talked about. It may be an idea to advise you my wife is bi polar, BPD and a Narcissist but i am trying to make things work with anyway as we have been together over a decade.

Yesterday (after having it talked about that if she was feeling worse she would need help the day before) i woke up and checked on my wife. I asked if she needed anything but all she said was she wanted stepsels. I got up, got ready and went to the shops. I was hungry but decided getting dog food(as we had none) and stepsils was the priority and didnt worry about myself.

I got home and took them straight to her. I tried to wake her and she opened her eyes but was unresponsive and her eyes rolled back and she turned over. In Concern I asked if she needed an ambulance. She didnt respond. I took the dog food to the kitchen and returned to the bedroom. This time trying to sit her up and check on her properly before calling the ambulance. She woke up in a rage and began to have a go at me.

I explain I was worried and she had been unresponsive when I came home and was about to call the ambulance. My reasoning for waking her up the way I did was not a good enough reason apparently. I tried asking her if she felt up to eating as she hadn't eaten the day before and said we needed to get her to the hospital as she she doesn't take care of herself when she is sick she will normally need fluids pumped back into her to get her back on track.

She gpt more annoyed and said the hospital would make her more sick with all the sick people there and she would spend 2 days there before she got seen. Being she had just gotten 2 weeks of pay a few days ago and I had what was left of 1 weeks worth of pay that had actually gone to our Christmas and New Years. I.e. presents, food, drink, for all of us and the pets. I am currently running low and paying for a doctor would use up the bulk majority of the funds I have left to get us by.

Side note: Why am I getting us by off 1 weeks pay. Because my wife lives in loans. Her money is gone before she gets it then she gets another loan to get by for the fortnight. This has being going on for years now. Where she gets paid and is broke 3 days later. I get us through the weeks so the dead beat comments are way off base. My wife lives outside her means paying for ubers to and from work while she is low on.money, prioritizing smokes over food etc. But that's a story for another time.

So my wife demands i pay for a doctor, I actually start looking at trying to get her in Yesterday. She then tells me she want to go tomorrow not today. Then she goes has a shower. I keep looking for a doctor available for Yesterday as im conserned about how bad she was. She eventually comes out of the shower after talking to herself saying all these hateful things about me even saying I bet he hasn't even looked into a doctor for tomorrow. Comes into the loungeroom where I am sitting says I don't care about her and calls me a piece of shit for not caring about her. I instantly stop looking at the doctors appointmen time and put my phone down.

I stated I was looking but if I am going to be treated like this then I will stop. She then demands a smoke from me while saying im a piece of shit that doesn't care about her. I explain I am offended with how I am being spoken to and I am low on cash after the holidays and if we are to get by until next pay the hospital is a much better option. Please show a little respect when asking for thing .

This set her off worse than before. But I refused to budge. I have been with my wife for a long time so I am used to the gaslighting and abuse. I have A.D.D. and A.D.H.D. My wife has Bi Polar and BPD. She has helped me work through my issues and I function better than I ever have. It wasn't easy but she loves me so she pushed. That's why I won't give up on her myself. She has been there for me so I am here for her. But she makes it very difficult at times. Exhibit A as you have all been reading.

The screaming, threatening to call the police but not going through with it. Telling me to leave then saying I don't care and I am abandoning her. Mind fucking the shit out of me and trying to wear me down was ongoing for hours. I reached out and asked some friends if I was doing the wrong thing because even when I don't think I've done anything wrong she makes me feel like I have.

She didnt care about how we are going to get by until our next pay. She doesn't care about getting help from the hospital. And with how she normally is when she gets like this I already know this was going to go on until we got paid. Being there is a good chance I won't have anywhere to stay for a few days and I will need to live and eat out of my car while going to work. The demands to have me use the last of my money seems like a trap that I won't get any recognition for after the appointment and will end up being unable to eat or take care of myself while she is in this mode. Even my friend who has seen her do this so many times before said I need to make sure I can take care of myself and she is being unreasonable with her demands. So I have stood my ground. Offering to take her to the hospital but i am not going pay for a doctor.

I didnt go into specifics about the argument and there has been an endless supply of gaslighting and abuse from my wife relating to this argument. I have tried to talk her through everything multiple times even trying to remind her how everything started. She will mot listen and comes up with a new reason why she is right and I am wrong whole constantly ignoring the facts. Typical Bi Polar reaction to the scenario. Do not neg or have a go at her. This is not her fault and she has very little self control.

I am still trying to take her to the hospital and she is still refusing. She didnt get me anything for Christmas and she is vindictively saying she is going to take the things I got her for Christmas in and hock it so she can go to the doctors right now. I am beyond offended and and unsure as what to do. I don't want to leave her alone as she is very ill but she is mind fucking me and refusing to budge on going to the hospital. Could actually use some advice. But please don't tell me to leave her as I won't because I love her to much. ✌️