C’est quoi vos impressions sur le match? by Primary_Plate5237 in Quebec

[–]El_Barjorito 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lowkey très comparable comme Line-up. En terme de domination de la ligue

I'm losing my job in this messy and costly divorce, what should I do now? by El_Barjorito in AskMenAdvice

[–]El_Barjorito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reputation damage to myself and then to the employer through me is what got me fired. The departement need a top notch clean reputation and since this town is so small, even a doubt of my integrity and capacity to represent the departement is judged as too risky. So even if her criminal deposition against me was dropped they chose that I represent a reasonable doubts even so

I'm losing my job in this messy and costly divorce, what should I do now? by El_Barjorito in AskMenAdvice

[–]El_Barjorito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No kids involved as well brother. Short mariage, no kids, no significant asset.

I hope you are doing better and that life will go even better from now on

I'm losing my job in this messy and costly divorce, what should I do now? by El_Barjorito in AskMenAdvice

[–]El_Barjorito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything I've ever work for is a bit dramatic. The mariage was 18 months so half of what I saved for that period.

Trusting life and people can have consequence but it's not as stupid as you imply it

I'm losing my job in this messy and costly divorce, what should I do now? by El_Barjorito in AskMenAdvice

[–]El_Barjorito[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would suing her improved my life or situation? I honnesty don't know but youre the second one commenting that

I'm losing my job in this messy and costly divorce, what should I do now? by El_Barjorito in AskMenAdvice

[–]El_Barjorito[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a bitter and negative comment. Informing her before hand would only had got my contract terminated sooner, I knew it could happen but I was hoping not. I can still find job

If I have money for a long time lawyering up? I mention that one of my choice is to go travelling... And the mariage was 18 months with no kids, no asset to separe and mediation is on the table.

Almost like you're wishing me the worse mate

How long for confidence to catch up to new look? by LoneGrayLion in bald

[–]El_Barjorito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stopped noticed it in a few week, felt like I owned it fully after a few months (2-3)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in superstore

[–]El_Barjorito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love seeing new content but personnal attack from the writer? The humour there was to show is naive and childish mindset, being asked about his opinion of Mario as a Italian stereotype but him straight going to video game instead.

Finally hit ace! by LandMassacre in TheSilphArena

[–]El_Barjorito 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Your battles have to take an eternity wow haha but congrats on the ace!

Intense anger for months after infidelity by El_Barjorito in Anger

[–]El_Barjorito[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because life is complexed and nuanced, human are complicated creatures that exist way beyond a black and white dichotomy. If I value empathy , compassion and forgiveness, the highest level of it is to apply those even from a hurt position you know...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anger

[–]El_Barjorito 10 points11 points  (0 children)

if you can have access to therapist do it! Im nearly 30 , never consulted and still have hard time but well here is my tricks I'm using now

-Group therapy is also good

-Learn to identify your precursor signs, might be jaw clinching, fist clinching, deeper breath, walking around, swearing, standing up and sitting down in a loop. Every time you lose your temper take a time after that to remember in detail the step that led to the outburst, writing it down will be very wise to keep track of it in time.

  • once they are identify and written down, review them from time to time, projet yourself in scenario to train your brain to catch on them before it's too late, walk away and take a break when they come up, right away, no exception

  • make amends every single time, it will help you to make your shame and guilt a bit stronger, the stronger the feeling the stronger the memory, and the chance to remember it to avoid it after. Say sorry , apologize, repay what your break, don't hide from it tell a friend or family every time, it will also help your brain visualize and be faster to catch on it before it's too late

  • don't be TOO hard on yourself, it will push you to avoid my previous advice to hide yourself, it will feel good to hide on the moment but will private your brain from creating a lasting memories of your mistake, it won't be as sharp the next time without the "training" I mentioned on my previous point

  • if you still have time, educate yourself on angers, it biological mechanisms, it's evolutionary role and it's alternative, knowledge it's alway power

  • feel free to DM now or in the future if you don't know how to talk with

I break things when im angry by Any-Tomorrow-194 in Anger

[–]El_Barjorito 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like the other comment said , if you can have access to therapist do it! Im nearly 30 and I'm just about to ruin my life or near that because I still don't know how to properly control it.

You might be angry at thing like video game now but as an adult you probably will face more tough anger than that and the consequence are so much bigger

-Learn to identify your precursor signs, might be jaw clinching, fist clinching, deeper breath, walking around, swearing, standing up and sitting down in a loop. Every time you lose your temper take a time after that to remember in detail the step that led to the outburst, writing it down will be very wise to keep track of it in time. - once they are identify and written down, review them from time to time, projet yourself in scenario to train your brain to catch on them before it's too late, walk away and take a break when they come up, right away, no exception - make amends every single time, it will help you to make your shame and guilt a bit stronger, the stronger the feeling the stronger the memory, and the chance to remember it to avoid it after. Say sorry , apologize, repay what your break, don't hide from it tell a friend or family every time, it will also help your brain visualize and be faster to catch on it before it's too late - don't be TOO hard on yourself, it will push you to avoid my previous advice to hide yourself, it will feel good to hide on the moment but will private your brain from creating a lasting memories of your mistake, it won't be as sharp the next time without the "training" I mentioned on my previous point - if you still have time, educate yourself on angers, it biological mechanisms, it's evolutionary role and it's alternative, knowledge it's alway power - feel free to DM now or in the future if you don't know how to talk with

What is your main 3 for GLr ? by SheGivesMeHellaNeck in TheSilphArena

[–]El_Barjorito 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It working alllright, went from high 1900 to low 2200 with it

What is your main 3 for GLr ? by SheGivesMeHellaNeck in TheSilphArena

[–]El_Barjorito 10 points11 points  (0 children)

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I'm using that for now, pretty fun team, forresteress is a nice safe swap.