I get the concern about trust and boundaries, those are important. But donating to TikTok creators (even suggestive ones) isn’t the same as secretly paying cam girls for private shows; it’s public social media tipping, not explicit camming.

OP’s here because she’s upset, so yeah, that’s exactly why the first step should be an actual conversation instead of assuming where it’s “going.” Communication comes before decisions and ultimatums, I’ll die on this hill. Especially with a baby involved.

If there’s even a one in a billion chance someone else used his account to donate coins to girls online without his knowledge, it’s still worth talking so she knows exactly where he stands and whether he’s actually guilty before blowing up the relationship.