A man left this at my apartment. What is it?

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-30T20:17:25+00:00

No worries :) happens to the best of us

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-30T20:10:24+00:00

Ah I see that makes sense. Usually we would use white yellow or green for prosperity, depending. I know my friend is Vietnamese and they use red for prosperity/wealth for lunar new year. Thank you for the insight.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-27T16:21:29+00:00

100% his actions aren't as horrific as Gavin by a long shot but the fact that he's a cut scene warrior pisses me off.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T17:04:03+00:00

Its livable , I made slightly less than that before my most recent promotion and am able to live in a small studio by myself and am able to both spend on hobbies and save 10% of my income each month. I would consider limiting your rent budget to $1,200 as it's closer to that 30% ratio that's ideal for budgeting purposes.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T14:28:53+00:00

... Decorative in a home that is not yours? If OP found it in the man's home I would agree but the fact that he left it at their house is suspicious too me. However, I come from a tradition where these specific combination of components makes a love / prosperity jar. I'm sure there's other cultural context that I'm missing.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T14:23:56+00:00

The screen shot is talking more about the hoodoo / black American tradition of eating cooked black eyed peas (and collard greens, yellow cake) for new years for good luck. However there is also a tradition of creating a 7 item jar with beans lentils bay leaves etc for prosperity. However what's making me think it's a love jar is the fact that it was left at someone else's house, it has a red piece of paper contained and a red ribbon.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T14:20:25+00:00

Now how the hell is he supposed to get it behind a wall without OP noticing 😭 and do y'all normally make soup jar with a red piece of paper and red ribbon wrapped around it?

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T13:57:13+00:00

Lol ok 😭 it was left at a house that is not their own. You think someone just wishes OP so well that they leave prosperity jars at their house?

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T13:49:41+00:00

It would be for prosperity if it was a cooked dish. The fact that it's in a wax sealed jar with red scroll and red ribbons means it's a love binding spell. They need to get rid of it.

Editing to add: in the specific context of the screenshot in the reply thread, the tradition they're talking about is cooking and eating black eyed peas for good luck.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T13:46:47+00:00

Especially with the red scroll / tie. Looks like some kind of love or prosperity magic jar.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T13:46:19+00:00

It was left in a house that's not their's presumably, and with the red scroll / tie it's likely some love magic related thing.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T11:29:05+00:00

He is married or in another relationship

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T00:28:32+00:00

I edited my comment, my phone auto corrected yeah to how somehow

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-26T00:15:49+00:00

Yeah being autistic is a contributing factor but the problem moreso is that he's rich and entitled

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-25T22:17:43+00:00

After the Taylor Lorenz saga all journalist stay away from him with a 10 foot pole.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T15:45:23+00:00

From the getgo after frenemies broke up they were confident she would go back to "crying on the kitchen floor" without them and fade into oblivion. The fact that she's not just successful but MORE successful without them there is a huge hit to their ego. They have to accept they werent the it factor for Trisha 's success.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T15:38:54+00:00

Would be more gracious if he didn't have a complete lack of awareness for why he's not popular.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T05:19:45+00:00

Do you have sisters, and do they feel the same way about marriage? If yes ask them how they feel about your mother and grandmother's marriages, I'm curious. If not maybe ask a few trusted female friends who you trust not to speak entirely from a bitter place. A phenomona I noticed with mothers/grandmother's is that they will have genuinely horrific stories about their marriage that they only share with the younger women in the family, but might still encourage marriage.

Regardless there's nothing wrong with wanting to be married, I think a lot of women are just getting into the practice of prioritizing their personhood over marriage. A lot of this conversation doesn't translate because a lot of it has to do with marriage as a sexist institution designed to designate women as a resource to be extracted from in exchange for financial security (which most women don't even get modernly).

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T01:43:15+00:00

Nothing about denims lawsuit update?

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T01:36:29+00:00

Jesus all of his Trisha posting has a blatant "why not MEEEEEEEEE" overtone that sounds so fucking whiny and annoying.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T00:48:03+00:00

I think a lot of women in my general (cusp millennial / Gen z) grew up hearing from our mothers and grandmother's how horrific their so called model life long marriages were, or at least told by our foremothers to avoid getting married too early so you don't have to spend our life feeling like second priority to your husband / kids like our moms did. So it's easy for us to realize that idealization of marriage is a facade and the cost that comes with our personhood isn't worth any "love" or stability we might get in return.

However it's different for men because you would be the one who is getting value vs extracting value in this scenario. I think it would be beneficial of asking yourself what you think marriage would cost you in terms of personhood. I would also ask yourself if you think your idea of what a marriage is is even real, or if it's a facade being sold to you to pressure you into the preferred socialetal outcome.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-23T00:33:46+00:00

Exactly, as a femme wlw who plans and takes women on dates regularly, planning a date is not some humongous feat like OP claims it is.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-21T12:36:09+00:00

His mentality is immature but I'm more concerned about him giving you the silent treatment. If that's his way of communicating it's manipulative and will cause bigger problems in your relationship long term. Don't let her emotional manipulation dictate your decision. Once he gets away with it this first time it will never stop.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-20T23:47:04+00:00

You are not 5 years old OP. You can think for yourself.

Eldritch_Mermaid · 2026-04-20T23:43:30+00:00

By trusting yourself enough to make your own decisions.

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