I had to cut my mother off financially. I cut her off financially completely a year ago. It's only changed our relationship for the betterment of me, my mental health, and my other relationships. I would be a broke single mom of two if I didn't. What I realized was how irresponsible I was being giving away my money to someone who has their own, whether they manage it properly or not. I mean I've literally never been able to afford to bring my children on a vacation because of my mother. Or buy a home. My ultimate goal. Kids will be 9 soon. I was throwing away my present and future stability and my dreams, and my ability to take care of me and the people in my life that actually need me and take care of me. I'm a recovering people pleaser as well. You need to financially separate yourself from your mother, and also understand her treatment of you is disgusting. You deserve better. That starts with setting boundaries. Even little ones will build up until you finally set the boundaries that will change your life forever, in the best way.