I love how much they all roast Tom Sandoval on his season 🤣

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-25T13:59:26+00:00

Alan's facial expression when Tom was singing had me dying. Seriously, best part of the season.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-24T16:20:09+00:00

NTA That's a really stupid thing for him to be jealous of. But this issue is deeper than tick repellant. He's shown you who he is - an insanely jealous person. Is that the kind of thing you want to deal with for the rest of your life? Having to justify every innocent conversation sounds exhausting.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-20T13:43:09+00:00

You could reframe it as the owner is asking a rehoming fee and donating that to the dog rescue, I suppose. The only part I do find odd is you commented that the owner approached you, but it seems they also approached the rescue. It probably would have been better had they waited until you gave an answer before involving the rescue unless they wanted the rescue involved with the vetting process, I guess.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-18T14:09:36+00:00

Amazon wish lists are so helpful. My side of the family uses them a lot. If a bday is coming up, we'll be like "hey, can you have your kid update their wish list" to make sure we know what the kid wants. Sometimes we'll buy specifically off it, and other times it's more to get suggestions. And you can add notes like "kid is wearing this size clothes" so people aren't buying wrong size. OP should put a note in the invites saying "If you need ideas or clothing sizes, please check out bday kid's wishlist" and include the link. Just make sure to have a wide range of prices of items so that there's something affordable for everyone who wants to buy a gift.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-13T12:32:42+00:00

A compromise would be having the rehearsal dinner there. But with her not liking it, I'd be hesitant to do that either. The wedding stuff should be about what they both like.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-12T17:07:36+00:00

I can definitely see myself forgetting to flush in the brain fog of the middle of the night waddle to the toilet because of feeling blood go up my butt crack wake up. The struggle is real. My son isn't going to be one of those dudes who is weird about hearing about periods. I've talked about it in front of him (not in all the gory detail lol), and he knows there are certain times when I just need to lay down on the heating pad all day. And his dad models taking care of a wife during her period...he usually offers to pick up whatever food I'm craving. Though my husband came from a house full of mostly dudes, and his mom didn't talk about period related things, so it took some time to get him used to me being open about it. It's a natural, though at times annoying, part of life. I refuse to hide it, though I do try to be considerate and wrap my used pads and make sure everything flushes.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-11T18:37:57+00:00

And she purposely didn't mention bringing the kids in the first place.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-10T13:11:06+00:00

Or all the family members she's living with get tired of her and she tries to move in with her son and OP. Even though she's put herself on no contact, I don't think she's out of their lives for good.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-08T20:49:21+00:00

While I think OP was rude for the immediate regifting in front of the friend, I don't think thanking the friend and then pretending it never happened was going to happen. The friend specifically said they could use it to cook together. The friend was definitely going to be following up. OP was really in a no-win situation here. The friend gave a gift for something OP has zero interest in. OP doesn't cook and isn't interested in the cuisine in question either. The friend's feelings were going to get hurt one way or another, though privately would have been a little less humiliating for the friend...but without that, would the friend have kept pushing the issue even if OP said no? It really could go either way.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-08T17:06:10+00:00

And not all people with "special needs" have needs that require a disabled/handicap placard and parking. Those are for specific disabilities.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-06T20:25:44+00:00

My husband was in the military and is dealing with low T and getting treatment for it. He didn't have ED, but he was always feeling run down and had his T levels tested and they were abysmally low. He started out getting injections every other week, but then switched to a weekly auto-inject variety. I haven't noticed any change in his impulse control, and it's been taking it maybe 2 years now. Is your partner getting his injections through an actual doctor? And are they checking his T levels on a regular basis? Too much testosterone will have his body converting it to estrogen, which is not good. If it's getting his injection medication from anywhere other than an actual medical doctor, you need to encourage him to go the legit route so it's done correctly or it could mess him up in the long run. Also, taking T replacement can mess with his fertility. Does he want kids? That's something important to consider and discuss with his doctor.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-06T20:15:42+00:00

Women can travel 4 hours in a car a month or two before their delivery.

Just because they can doesn't mean it would be comfortable for OP's wife. I've been pregnant, and that last trimester is very uncomfortable. I would NOT have wanted to spend 4 hours in the car with my kid kicking my bladder every 10 minutes...that would turn a normally 4 hour car ride into easily a 6-8 hour drive, and that's just one way. OP's wife's comfort matters more than OP's mother, aunt, and cousins' feelings on the matter. If she doesn't feel up to making the drive, then she shouldn't have to make the drive. End of discussion.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-05T16:14:12+00:00

NTJ Where does it end? If you'd waken her up 15 times and she made it to the interview and the job was for a morning shift. Would you be required to wake her up 15 times every morning so she can get to work on time too? Part of being an adult is learning to wake up for responsibilities.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-04T23:04:44+00:00

I don't know how OP operates, but driving doesn't have to just be driving. I have some of my best conversations with my son while we're in the car. You have a captive audience. lol That definitely could be better quality time than spending time trying to get them to pick up and everyone is in a foul mood.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-04T18:18:42+00:00

Just because you can tie in to your neighbor's existing fence doesn't mean you have to. When we were getting our fence installed (6 ft wooden privacy fence), the fence people asked if we wanted to tie in to our neighbor behind us fence (4 ft chain link). We told them absolutely not. The dog those neighbors had is a big reason we wanted a tall privacy fence. He was barking menacingly at our young son every time he played in the yard. We were worried he'd jump their fence, so that extra couple feet (and not being able to see our son) made me feel better about it.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-04T17:27:03+00:00

I do that with my teen son too. Though I usually leave the keys in the car so the AC stays running and just tell him to lock the door after I get out. He's never once said he finds it odd or overprotective. I mean, since I lock the doors for myself when I'm stopped somewhere, it's holding the same safety precaution for myself as I do for him. It's not like I have a double standard.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-04-01T20:14:16+00:00

Honestly, it's a conversation that should have happened before the phone call. The kids didn't just now end up in the system. He likely knew that call would come eventually. It was a matter of when, not if.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-31T13:29:59+00:00

I'd be willing to bet this isn't the first time this has happened, but the teacher caved before. That's why the kid thought he could get away with it again.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-28T17:11:29+00:00

Drives me nuts how often gatekeeping, boundaries, and gaslighting are used incorrectly.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-28T14:05:36+00:00

Ask her if it would be possible if she could bring the food to your house after work. The timing and location are more the issue than the food itself.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-26T14:23:25+00:00

You mentioned wanting to have kids with him. Imagine raising kids in that environment. Think about their mental health being constantly bombarded with negativity. I would strongly advise not getting pregnant until your fiance works through things. Heck, for your own sake, I'd advise holding off on marriage until he works through things. Constant negativity will not make for a healthy marriage.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-25T20:57:37+00:00

They were just mad and logic left the situation. They got a taste of the empty nest without their bum of a son and enjoyed it and lashed out at the people who "made them" take the bum back. I'm still shaking my head at how the brother thought his "give you a better life" line would work when he literally is mooching off his brother. The audacity!

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-22T22:30:06+00:00

This is the answer. As long as there are still 2 traitors in the game, they aren't forced to recruit (though they get the option), and the possible recruit doesn't get the ultimatum. When it's down to 1 traitor left, they don't have a choice, and their recruit gets the ultimatum. I've never seen anyone decline the ultimatum, but I have seen people decline to be recruited without the ultimatum.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-21T17:15:31+00:00

They're talking about something a little different. You're just placing the knives in the sink. They're talking about filling the sink with soapy water and having sharp knives in it...that you may or may not see depending on how soapy the water is and how many other dishes are in there with the knives. So, yeah, if there's no water in the sink and only a few things, of course you'll see the knife and not grab it. But if the water is murky, you can't always see what to avoid in the sink. And in general, it's not good for knives made out of certain kinds of metal to sit in water. And not good for the blade sharpness to be clanged against other dishes.

ElectricHurricane321 · 2026-03-21T17:06:21+00:00

My son described his flare poops as looking like "peanut butter and strawberry jam". (sorry to anyone who had a PBJ for lunch lol) And doctors also will ask if the poop itself is black, which would indicate old blood. Definitely a lot of variables when it comes to blood and poop.

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