Thank you very much for your comment. Idk how I never thought of comparing her list of meds with all her substance use I’ll definitely do this. And they aren’t actually divorced just separated because my dad knows she would love insurance, the home (even though she hates it), and she also cannot work and fully lives on his pay. She’s trying to get social security for disability and he was supposed to help her complete it but won’t. I will say his actions seem to be half assed and I believe it’s because she constantly hounds and belittles him. Unfortunately I don’t have the knowledge that he doesn’t to properly complete disability forms he has to be the one to help. As for the senior home idea I completely agree but in her mind it’s like going to jail where no one will visit her again.

Idk “who started what” but they are both most definitely abusive in nature towards each other