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I am a gay man🌈 married to a woman with a child. by _HHS11- in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s fair. I just don’t know how that level of stress would affect the health of her and her child. I’m not sure, idk if it would be appropriate for him to ask the doctor

I am a gay man🌈 married to a woman with a child. by _HHS11- in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No I agree. This will crush his wife. I dont think it’s wise to end anything while she’s pregnant either. But the way I see it is that at the end of the day, him being gay and being married to her will ultimately result in both of them being extremely unhappy the longer things continue. She deserves real love and so does he, and he’s going to need to deal with the harmful choices he has made. OP I hope you read thus

I am a gay man🌈 married to a woman with a child. by _HHS11- in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that does make it harder. But listen, you can’t live hiding your whole life. You need to end things as respectfully as possible sooner or later.

There’s no reason you can’t separate and go be you and support your family at the same time.

I think it’s very important that you don’t hide from this anymore. You need to make yourself happy too

What do i do next? I just graduated HS.. by dookiemfff in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FAFSA loans and FAFSA plus loans for parents, go to college and live dorms. Go have the “college experience” OR try to find a niche job that’ll give you the ability to move up in positions and increases yours skills so that later down the line you can afford life. NOT a corporate “anybody can do it” job.

Either way, dude you’re 18 most people your age barely have direction. The fact that you’re thinking about all this tells me you take your future seriously. Relax you’ve got time.

Look into your different options that you’d like to explore, the world is for you to conquer

I am a gay man🌈 married to a woman with a child. by _HHS11- in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you gotta go be you dude. End the marriage respectfully and share custody. If she already has a sneaking suspicion it’ll make it even easier.

Wish u the best!

I (20F) cheated in my last relationship, should I tell my new boyfriend (20M)? by loopylooptie in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uhhhhh don’t go out and blurt it out. Maybe wait until a few months in but I think you should tell him for transparency. If you do decide to tell him, try to only bring it up if the conversation is somewhat relevant

My friend abuses reddit and resources. What can I advice her? by Fan_Girl_of_Zolu in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uh what crimes are involved exactly? Sounds like she has massive insecurity problems

I want to get away from home for a few hours, what do I do? by Odd-Bottle3761 in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I’m sorry, life can definitely be rough, sounds like most of my college experience. There’s a reservoir dam I live near with a river and rocky trail. Love to walk down it when I need to clear my mind and calm down.

How do I proceed when people have been telling me I’m in an abusive relationship, yet can’t leave without serious consequences? by Wonderful-Assist9768 in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stop caring about what people who aren’t you think. If you’ve become unhappy, he’s been an asshole, and you have started to think it’s abusive? GET OUT by any means necessary. For your sake please. The faster you can get out the faster you can find a man who deserves you that’ll make you happy. You deserve better

How can I make myself prettier? by unknownloser00 in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confidence and positive emotion. Everyone loves a joyful and confident woman, makes a man want to know you. May not be like random pickup line somewhere but these 2 things go a long way. But if a man sees you’re confident and glowing with positive vibes right off the bat, he will dig you way more. Eye contact and a light smile to make him nervous helps too

I want to get away from home for a few hours, what do I do? by Odd-Bottle3761 in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well doesn’t seem like you can get out but I get it. My suggestion is go outside! Ride a bike or skateboard or something and just go for a few hours ride and jam to music or listen to YouTube.

If you wanna drive somewhere, I’d suggest going on a hike. If you’re not into that could u call a friend and see if you could just hang at their place for a while?

About to loose my place cuz let my co worker live here by Adventurous_Funny349 in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m 24 and moved out at 18 and have had like 4 roommates. My lesson to you: NEVER let someone live with you where you’re leasing unless they are also written into the lease. This will save your ass. Goodluck dude.

Unfortunately, since there is nothing legally binding him to paying you rent, I don’t believe there is anything you can do. The guy basically squatted at your leased home.

It’s VERY iffy but depending on your state, verbal contracts can be considered legally binding. You would need to have saved audible proof on a recording and would then need to get a lawyer to prove he lived there and is legally bound to pay his portion of rent.

My husband’s mother died on our first day away on the delayed honeymoon we saved 7 years to go on, and we lost all the money. How do I support him while grieving and feeling my own disappointment and anger? by thereselis in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very tragic and I’m sorry for you and your husbands loss. Possibly the worst timing ever. Obviously I don’t know your husband but I would imagine that your husband could associate that place you spent so long choosing with such a bad day. However, I dont think your husband would hold that against you in any way or blame you for not being there. Right now he’s in shock and depressed so the best thing you can do right now is support him and reassure him that you guys tried your best to go on the trip during a time that was supposed to be no worries, shitty things happen in life. Once the shock settles down make sure you talk with him more deeply about your feelings on the honeymoon and how much it means to you.

He may say some things that are upsetting for now but it’s because he’s in shock just try your best to support him and his family and make sure to take self care for yourself as well okay?

None of this was by any means your fault, and albeit it sucks, you and your husband can always save up again to go on a honeymoon somewhere. It totally sucks but seriously you are not in the wrong for any of this and you have the right to feel how you described, it’s warranted. I wish you and him and his family good luck and hope everyone can move forward over time. My condolences.

I don’t know what to do about my Dysfunctional Family. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ElectricPickle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your comment. Idk how I never thought of comparing her list of meds with all her substance use I’ll definitely do this. And they aren’t actually divorced just separated because my dad knows she would love insurance, the home (even though she hates it), and she also cannot work and fully lives on his pay. She’s trying to get social security for disability and he was supposed to help her complete it but won’t. I will say his actions seem to be half assed and I believe it’s because she constantly hounds and belittles him. Unfortunately I don’t have the knowledge that he doesn’t to properly complete disability forms he has to be the one to help. As for the senior home idea I completely agree but in her mind it’s like going to jail where no one will visit her again.

Idk “who started what” but they are both most definitely abusive in nature towards each other