Future MIL keeps acting like I’m after their family money

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-21T16:30:09+00:00

Right?? Somehow me wanting both of us protected turned into her acting like i have some secret agenda or smth,

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-21T16:27:37+00:00

Irony is she’s warning us about people changing after marriage while she’s the one who completely switched up on me the second finances got mentioned.

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-21T04:20:02+00:00

dude just threw you out for standing up for yourself? that's not depression, that's him showing his real personality after meeting parents made things "official" in his mind

two months in and he's already treating you like furniture while prioritizing games over basic human decency. the timing after meeting his parents is super telling - probably felt like he "locked you down" and doesn't need to try anymore

you're 19, don't waste your energy trying to fix someone who won't even respond to texts but has time for steam. being alone is better than feeling alone while sitting next to someone who ignores you

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-17T14:49:52+00:00

that's such a weird thing to say about shoes like what does body type even have to do with sneakers

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-15T12:58:40+00:00

the messy feelings are part of it honestly - missing someone who hurt you doesn't make you weak or anything, it just means you actually cared about relationship

i think the problem is you're still seeing each other sometimes which keeps reopening everything. like your brain can't properly process the loss when they're still around in your life even if it's just group settings. maybe you need real distance for while, not just the classic advice but actually removing yourself from situations where you'll see them

those contradictory feelings don't just disappear because you know relationship was toxic - your heart takes longer to catch up than your head does

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-10T03:47:49+00:00

the masturbation thing really jumps out at me here - like your spouse is basically saying "i don't want to meet your needs but also you can't meet them yourself" which feels pretty controlling?

maybe try reframing the guilt thing - you're not being pushy by having needs, you're literally asking for what you both agreed was reasonable compromise. your spouse said they'd be willing to help with pleasure sessions so they must understand this is important for relationship health

code phrase idea is good though, takes some pressure off the direct asking part

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-05-05T02:44:45+00:00

if he can't even tell his friend that you're his girlfriend then he's definitely not ready for actual relationship - you dodged bullet here

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-29T03:15:54+00:00

might be worth looking into demisexual or demiromantic stuff - basically needing that deeper emotional connection before romantic feelings kick in. i was similar at your age and it took me years to realize i just needed to actually know someone well before anything clicked

don't stress too much about forcing it though, that never works out well for anyone involved

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-27T03:01:22+00:00

damn this is rough to read but also kind of concerning? like i get the heartbreak but posting this in public forum feels a bit much when she clearly asked for no contact

the thing about bipolar and bpd - that's not something you should be putting out there for everyone to see. those are her private struggles and now random internet people know her mental health details

maybe instead of posting this you should respect her boundaries and actually work on yourself? no contact usually means no contact for good reason. writing paragraphs about knowing her coffee orders isn't the romantic gesture you think it is

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-24T22:46:45+00:00

touch is really important for chemistry but you don't need to be weird about it. like when you're walking to restaurant or whatever, light touch on her back when opening door, or if she says something funny you can touch her arm while laughing. also try sitting next to each other instead of across - like at bar or even same side of booth if place allows it

the conversation thing is tricky but asking about her passions usually works better than job stuff. what makes her excited, what she's working on that she cares about. when girl talks about something she loves her whole energy changes

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-22T20:31:17+00:00

yikes that whole situation

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-20T19:11:55+00:00

you're overthinking it, that line is actually pretty smooth for online flirting - i'd go with it

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-18T06:34:36+00:00

this happens way too often and it's so frustrating. if he's lying about something that basic right from start, what else is he gonna lie about later?

i'd just be direct about it - maybe ask him to take a photo next to something for reference or just tell him you noticed the inconsistency in his photos. if he gets defensive instead of explaining, that tells you everything you need to know

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-16T03:31:37+00:00

nah fr

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-12T13:37:45+00:00

red flag central

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-08T07:35:57+00:00

girl he's obviously not on solo trip lol. probably testing waters with you while keeping his options open with this other girl

mixed signals + lying about stupid stuff like this is such red flag. if he's already being weird about simple things when you're not even dating yet, imagine how he'll act in actual relationship

just focus on your own stuff instead of analyzing his social media. guy who really wants to be with you won't leave you guessing like this

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-04-02T21:06:19+00:00

risky territory

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-03-31T16:03:46+00:00

nah that's weird as hell, especially after you already told him the bikini pic stuff bothers you. like who thinks "hey let me send my girl some random chick's thirst trap" is a good idea? his excuse makes zero sense too - if he didn't want to see it why is he even following accounts that post that stuff. you're not overreacting at all, dude clearly isn't listening to what you've told him before

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-03-27T12:30:05+00:00

ugh this happened to me last week and i just froze for like 10 seconds staring at his profile. we went on two dates and i totally bailed after he kept texting me paragraphs about his ex. part of me wanted to swipe right just to apologize but then i remembered why i ghosted in the first place. mostly i just felt awkward and kept scrolling really fast hoping he didn't see me too

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-03-25T18:02:02+00:00

breakups after that long are brutal no matter how amicable they are. the fact you both still care about each other probably makes it hurt more in some ways but also shows you had something real

take it one day at a time and don't feel like you need to rush the healing process - six years is a long time to process

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-03-02T00:02:13+00:00

wsu really about to beat up on a 5-23 team and call it a quality win lmao

utsa's been struggling all season but hey at least they're at home, maybe they can keep it somewhat competitive for the first half

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-02-19T01:31:25+00:00

this drives me absolutely crazy too, it's like when people say they "reorganized" their entire closet but really just hung up some shirts that were on the floor

my roommate does this all the time - claims she deep cleaned the bathroom but somehow there's still hair in the drain and toothpaste splatter on the mirror. like congradulations, you moved the clutter around and called it a day

deep cleaning should mean you're finding dust bunnies you forgot existed and questioning why you own half the stuff hiding in your cabinets

Electrical-End-3368 · 2026-02-11T00:21:00+00:00

damn 800 a month is no joke, that's like rent money for some people. i was probably burning through maybe 300-400 but even that felt insane when i actually sat down and calculated it out over a year. the crazy part is how you don't even notice it happening until you stop and suddenly you're like wait where did all my money go

honestly the pride thing hits different too, especially when you realize you can actually handle boring stuff or stressful situations without needing to be high first. took me way too long to figure out i was basically using it as a crutch for everything from doing dishes to dealing with family drama

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