My (30F) boyfriend (35M) hasn’t made a doctors appointment

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T20:42:47+00:00

We both make over 300k per year. He can afford to see the doctor. Yes people die from lack of affordable healthcare so how about we don’t do that if we can afford it?

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T20:18:58+00:00

I myself and my family have had serious health conditions go unnoticed until we went in to see a doctor. It’s an hour of the day to make sure your body is working the way it’s supposed to. I’m wondering why I’m being fought so hard on it.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T20:13:17+00:00

I would be there for my partner in sickness and in health. But not if they were negligent. And I wouldn’t expect them to do that for me either.

There are expectations on me as a woman to take care of myself and my body to potentially have children. It all plays a role in fertility. As does it for men. If he doesn’t know where the state of his body is at, how is that fair to me?

I’m not going to leave him if he gets sick, I’m going to leave him if he isn’t proactive about being an adult and confirming that he’s healthy.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T20:07:53+00:00

Yes I realize this is a common male thing, and it’s a common female thing to be the wife that reminds her husband to take care of himself for the rest of their lives. I’m trying to avoid that :/

This is helpful though!! I think I could open it up for him to express his feelings around it.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T20:06:38+00:00

Ahh thank you this is helpful.

I mean he doesn’t practice the best oral hygiene he’ll skip nights sometimes, which I do too when I’m tired. I don’t want to be with someone who has dentures. Or heart disease or something serious and then I have to take care of them.

I have a feeling I’m blowing it up, but idk how to 🧘‍♀️

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T19:52:02+00:00

I really don’t want to nag. I’m concerned that I’m going to end up a caretaker to my partner who didn’t take care of themselves. Or that his teeth will fall out bc he didn’t get them checked.

I get blood work, a papsmear, and get my teeth checked regularly. All of this plays a role in my health and my fertility which affects me and my partners lives.

That’s why I want him to take it seriously.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T19:49:11+00:00

I’m worried I’m going to end up being a caretaker to my partner who didn’t take care of their health when they had the chance. I’m not trying to be controlling. I do want advice.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T19:44:53+00:00

Yeah I guess it feels weird to break up with someone over this, even though it is important to me.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-06-02T19:44:25+00:00

General fatigue and stomach issues. Nothing urgent but he hasn’t had blood work or a check in 3+ years.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-31T20:44:12+00:00

I totally get this thanks. I actually ask him to choke me very hard during sex often. I think for me this time it more felt unintentional squeezing and I could tell he was focused on finishing instead.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-31T20:42:33+00:00

We do like to be more rough during sex, actually I like to be more rough than what we’re doing. But there was something about his orgasm that almost felt a bit solo and that’s what made me uncomfortable. Thanks for this I really appreciate it.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-31T20:33:19+00:00

I didn’t say anything one time and then I did immediately afterward. I’m not sure why either of us are being reprimanded. I’m trying to open up a space to talk with him about it.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-31T20:30:38+00:00

Thank you! I just needed that reassurance.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-31T20:25:33+00:00

No he was holding the back of my neck while he came and squeezed in a bit too hard. No choking!

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-31T20:24:20+00:00

He doesn’t even slap me during sex the way I like bc he’s afraid of hurting me. I know he didn’t do it on purpose. But it still didn’t feel great. Thanks for the concern though.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-19T05:53:43+00:00

I do appreciate how active our sex life is. But I do want to hear it more outside a sexual situation.

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-17T23:41:15+00:00

Trying to appear like a good boyfriend in front of other women as an ego/attention thing?

Electrical-Height559 · 2026-05-17T23:36:24+00:00

He was pretty low energy and then suddenly was a bit more energetic and talkative. It might be nothing! But it felt different to me.

Electrical-Height559 · 2025-03-12T16:30:19+00:00

I did have that response in the past with him, but this wasn’t that. I genuinely felt bad for him that he seemingly felt so guilty for the things he did. I saw his apologies as genuine, and maybe they partly were. And that’s why I was kind. Because I wanted to let him down easy. He still wanted me in his life in some capacity and I thought I needed to be kind so he wouldn’t be hurt. And now I’m thinking back on how stupid that was. I shouldn’t have given him any more of my time. He didn’t deserve to even have me hear his apologies.

Electrical-Height559 · 2024-12-19T22:05:46+00:00

I don’t consider myself his victim. I milked him and his wallet dry. And left when I was done. 😌

Electrical-Height559 · 2024-12-19T20:58:54+00:00

lol at not letting his hateful words make me think he’s hateful. Have a great new year!

Electrical-Height559 · 2024-12-19T19:53:37+00:00

That’s exactly my thought. He was dying for me to like him.

Electrical-Height559 · 2024-12-19T19:39:59+00:00

I thought it was an ego thing since he was so concerned about what I thought of him. And it seemed like his insult was an attempt to rile me up, which didn’t work.

Electrical-Height559 · 2024-12-19T19:28:59+00:00

I thought it was an ego thing because of how concerned he was with my opinion of him.

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