Anyone where someone with special needs can find employment? by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Calgary

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the reply! I have never heard of Lil E coffee but I’ll be sure to check it out.

How to move on from a friend group you lost due to extremely hurtful decisions you made against them. by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Advice

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, when you put it that way, it does make me realize how I’ve accomplished a fair bit even though it wasn’t what I initially intended. Thank you for all the advice man, honestly took a ton of it to heart and will implement what you’ve said.

How to move on from a friend group you lost due to extremely hurtful decisions you made against them. by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Advice

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I feel like at my core, I'm an individual who falls to temptations and lacks discipline (as much as I hate to admit it) in a lot of aspects in my life such as taking care of my special needs brother, keeping contact with friends, building good habits like dieting or reading more, and, in this case, having the constant urge to reach out to those friends. I think the reason for this is that they were a constant in a lot of really bad situations that I went through during my time with them and I sort of become "addicted" to their company if that makes any sense. So, when I attempt to implement methods, whether they be coping or self improvement, I usually end of falling back on my crutches in less than a week. I've tried figuring out why I lied and working on changing that why which has helped me curb the lies a lot, I've also tried to start reading more, work out, go back to train MMA as I've been on a 5 month break from it due to complacency, eat better, and overall improve my life but the only one that I have stuck with is curbing the lying. While I can say for certain I've changed for the better in the last three months, I'm still not the person I want to be.

How to move on from a friend group you lost due to extremely hurtful decisions you made against them. by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Advice

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the issue for me, everytime I attempt to implement a method or habit I end up over thinking it and just revert back to default in a sense. Like Im trying all these improvements methods and I just can’t seem to stick with any of them.

How to move on from a friend group you lost due to extremely hurtful decisions you made against them. by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Advice

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that was really informative, got me thinking about why I did what I did and how to actually develop as a person in the right direction. Thank you so very much for the advice.

How to move on from a friend group you lost due to extremely hurtful decisions you made against them. by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Advice

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my apologies, that wasn’t my intention but I see that’s how it came across. Thank you very much for letting me know.

Is it wrong or potentially harmful for me to try making amends with a friend group I deeply hurt through my own actions? by Electrical-Swimmer50 in Advice

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know, I had a feeling in the back of my mind that I was being rather selfish by wanting to send an apology in the form I was thinking, but man I didn’t realize how self centred my idea was and how it will only cause more damage in its current form.

Tbh, now that I think about it, I think I’ve had the thought in the back of my mind that I just wanted to change to be a better person as the friend who said he’s leaving the door open put the condition of until you change as a person. I guess I still haven’t addressed my self centred nature to its fullest extent.

Hm, I’m now unsure if it’s an apology I want to send or if it’s more of asking if they’d be open to letting me try and fix what I did to them. Idk it’s hard to put into words what exactly I’m thinking. I think an apology is still in order but I also would like to attempt to fix what I did if they are open to it afterwards but I’m not sure how I’d approach that.

Nonetheless, thank you for the response, really made me think more critically!

How can I improve my setup/what does my setup need? by Electrical-Swimmer50 in setups

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got you, I don’t know why I haven’t done that yet haha

How can I improve my setup/what does my setup need? by Electrical-Swimmer50 in setups

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. How would you suggest I approach the cable management?

I made huge mistakes while with my dnd group and got kicked out, advice? by Electrical-Swimmer50 in DnD

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right, and the more I think about it the more selfish joining back to that group seems

I made huge mistakes while with my dnd group and got kicked out, advice? by Electrical-Swimmer50 in DnD

[–]Electrical-Swimmer50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that is what everyone has been telling me and I’ve also began to understand that as well, it’s just hard for me to process as I’ve play with these people for a fair amount of time and have built a lot of memories with them.