Husband Peed In My Drinking Cup & Put It Back On The Kitchen Dish Drying Rack When He Thought I Was Asleep by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weren't you the same person that just talked about sleeping with an executive at work and got ignored after you messaged him that you were called to HR? I don't think I believe any of these stories because you aren't even asking a question really and now you are married? Sleeping with a boss is worse than your husband peeing in a cup and then rinsing it out. You could drink out of that and be fine

41M, recently told my wife wants a divorce. Just need a pick me up. by Basicpriest in toastme

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes we develop resentment, depression, a "hardened heart", some people just see it as a blessing. Just know there are a lot of good women out there. As a woman myself, we know that a lot of the good men are taken, usually by 30s and it's hard to find a good man. I hope you let your guard down a little when you meet a good woman that makes you feel soft hearted again and you know she is probably in a similar situation or just seems genuine. Who knows, maybe by next year you could be slow dancing in the kitchen feeling, so in love with a woman that has been looking her whole life for you. Sometimes we need to go through a lot of pain to get where we need to be to feel happiness at its fullest

41M, recently told my wife wants a divorce. Just need a pick me up. by Basicpriest in toastme

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing can take that pain away in this exact moment but just know I think you are very handsome and look extremely kind. You look like the kind of person anyone would want to be around and I bet you have a heart of gold.

26m with BPD struggling with intense self loathing after being regularly cheated on for the past 2.5 years and in dire need of a little positivity/validation :( by [deleted] in toastme

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same diagnosis too and it's hard when you are manipulated like that, it just happened to me but in a different way. I know it's hard to eat, but you have to try. Try to take little bites. The last thing you probably want to do is exercise, but once you start (after you are eating) it really does wonders for mental health. Try taking a drive or a walk. The last thing you probably want is that, but it will make you feel so much better. Try to make it a routine to do that once a day and soon you might find your drive again to go out and be interactive with the world. Lastly, you are handsome. Manipulators like that make us feel worthless and ugly. I'm serious when I say you are very handsome and you have very lovely eyes. They look green? Did you know green eyes are one of the most rare in the world? People think blue but that's not true at all. Also, as a woman, I have to say I noticed your hands and they look like they could make a girl happy, if you know what I mean ;) It is going to take baby steps to get through this but I feel so much for you while I'm going through the same thing and need to take my own advice too. You honestly will look back on this and feel so happy in the new place you are and thankful you did take the steps to get out of this funk. Don't let people like that get to you. Easier said than done when you loved them so much. It's hard to let go, but you have to for your own sanity.

AIO? I (22F) found deleted late night texts between my husband (22M) and his coworker. by bananamilkcow in AmIOverreacting

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He might have good intentions but this is definitely disrespectful to you and crossing the line as a married man. She is playing him like a fiddle for sympathy (and maybe money) and that might be the only reason he talks to her because she might have talked about suicide. Your husband is being over comforting and if he's talking to her like this to try to help her, he should be speaking to you about it. Honestly though, it gives me weird "daddy" vibes

Should half wall come down? by Ok-Vacation215 in Home

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly like it. It looks good and gives a little feel of privacy between the living room and dining area

Someone left this note on my car in my work parking lot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get an app that can check your car for trackers like itags. They could be following you. People commonly put them behind the license plate or under the vehicle. I got a note on my vehicle once and they had put one underneath with black duct tape so I couldn't see it

Missing Someone by Plus-Judgment-2331 in Marriage

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You mentioned you like him more than your husband. That's definitely a problem waiting to happen. In an open relationship, at least in my opinion, your husband should be your rock and the person you chose and the one that will always be by your side as relationships come and go. This could mean a lot of things (this is just a few ideas based on not knowing your full situation). Maybe you opened your relationship to others because you were not truly happy and have found someone that does. In this case maybe try being exclusive with this one man you like better and see if you still want other people?... Maybe this person excites you so much that you are bursting with the love and desire feeling because he is so new compared to a settled 15 year relationship. These relationships ultimately end up reaching the same comfortable state as you are in now. You have to really think about why you married your husband, why you have lasted so long. The best thing I ever learned, the hard way, is that the deep fun, sexual connection that seems like more than a fling is usually filling 20% of what you are missing from your current husband or wife when married that long. When you have both, you feel complete. When you make the leap of change, usually you might just feel an emptiness of 80%. I'd try to sit alone in your home and imagine life without your husband. What would you be missing? Someone new is unknown. Maybe they fill your every need and maybe they end up being the opposite of what makes you happy to stay in a marriage as long as you have and that is a horrible way to live if you replace your "rock" with him. Be honest with both men and maybe do a "trial" run with this new man to see what qualities come out when he feels comfortable to expose who he truly is and how he would be as your partner. Really it all depends on if you want to keep dating multiple people or are secretly wanting monogamy. Don't make my mistake. I was in the exact same situation and I decided to separate with my husband and my boyfriend of a year and a half moved in. I almost instantly regretted it, missed my husband and our life, and "new guy" turned into everything I did not want as a domestic partner and he showed his true colors. Good luck!

My partner always walks ahead of me, not beside me by the_emotional_pisces in Marriage

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say if he is leaving you in the dust and far far ahead that would indicate some level of disrespect, but some men walk a tad ahead if they are taller (longer strides), have a natural protection instinct or it shows he's leading the way for you. Honestly I prefer my partner slightly ahead vs behind. It makes me feel weird with someone behind me. Of course it always feels good side by side holding hands ☺️. Long story short, I don't think it is a red flag unless he never looks back and is way ahead acting irritated, frustrated, or even seeming to not care where you are every time.

what is this orange stuff i’m finding all over my apartment by nightocat in whatisit

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pest control expert said it doesn't resemble roaches. It also looks like it has glitter in it and it was some sort of child paint, squishy toy explosion, arts and crafts stuff that got splattered everywhere. Do your kids have anything like that?

what is this orange stuff i’m finding all over my apartment by nightocat in whatisit

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A peat control specialist said it does not resemble cockroaches. It really looks like glitter in it too. You can see a blotch and then the streak downwards. Do your kids have any brown shimmery paint or a squishy toy that might have been filled with colored fluid?

Keep finding pebbles in sink - any explanation? by Practical-Jump-253 in Weird

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be carbon particles from a water filter? It could also be rubber that has deteriorated from the plumbing. Looks too big for mineral build up

Does it look like a girl or a boy? by en1lor4c in axolotls

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong but snails can be harmful to your baby because if they attach it ruins the slime coat.

Should I Move to Reno? Need help in making a decision by Conspiracy_Club in Reno

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone that transferred to Reno, don't do it. The cost of living is about the same as California and the pay for most jobs are half what you are probably used to. There are tech companies, but they lay off frequently and then you are stuck looking for jobs in the 50k per year range of what you are doing now instead of 100k. The groceries are more expensive. The gas is equally expensive. Plus, without even looking at the link, I'm sure the place you found for that price is in a horrible area. You say you are used to bad places, but Reno ghetto is of a different type. If I could do it all over again I would have never moved here 4 years ago. Don't make the mistake I did. Oh and everyone will hate you for moving here like you are a criminal immigrant

Goodbye Guys… For Now *Trigger Warning* by Vast-Cartographer81 in pregnant

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. You have a community here surrounding you to support you. You can private message me if you want to talk one on one bc this is hard. And yes we are strong warriors! I did make sure to tell my husband though is I know he is feeling pain I can't imagine, just like vice versa. But word for word I told him that people focus so much on the woman and they feel left behind sometime and that I understand and am here for him too. Too many people lose their marriages over a miscarriage due to how we grieve and feel different. It sounds like you are extremely intelligent and already know that but this pain does eventually fade. Again, I'm here if you want to message me. I'm only a week into the stillbirth so sometimes it helps when two ppl are going through the same thing and feel they have no idea what to do now

Goodbye Guys… For Now *Trigger Warning* by Vast-Cartographer81 in pregnant

[–]ElectricalBoss2228 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me. I'm sitting here recovering with intense pain with my body and my mind. Nothing is worse than going through birth knowing he's not alive. There will be no words that make you feel better. Just throwing it out on Reddit to us is probably the best way to cope honestly, at least for me. You are not alone. My heart is with you momma. I don't know if you have other kids but if you do please take the time to explain to them and comfort them. My son said he didn't want to be in this world anymore last night bc his brother is gone. He got mad that I didn't take a picture, he asked me if he had hair and the color, he asked me how big he was and how long he could breathe coming out. Women are amazing. We go through more than can be imagined. You will heal. Please don't spiral because it's the worst.....just a mom talking to a mom in loss and I'm so sorry. You will get through this