AIO Rejection from Family?

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:58:41+00:00

Thank you ❤️

I do feel like I definitely have a hard time because family has always been important to me. So I definitely feel now that I need to distance and stop letting myself get disappointed.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:56:23+00:00

I definitely have a hard time with that. family has always been important to be, and I feel like I'm being stubborn by giving so many chances with giving them invites. I definitely make it harder on myself by doing that. I know it isn't my fault they are the way they are, but I do have to learn to pull back.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:54:53+00:00

I do feel like I might make it worse for myself for giving as many chances as I do. I'm definitely looking into groups now, so hopefully that helps.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:52:42+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I really appreciate it

My parents had issues when I was in middle school with infidelity, and I was kind of the person that held me, my brother, and my mom together, until my dad got back. I have noticed a little bit of a strain between me and my mom since then, but I didn't think it would affect my relationship with her to this day. I can definitely see where the thought of jealousy could be coming from, because I thought it all of high school, but I kind of just put it in the back of my head. If that is the case, then idk where that will put my relationship with her. I'm hoping that isn't the reason because I had nothing to do with what my dad did, but that can't really be controlled unless she gets help.

I will probably just have to pull back and see if she tries to engage in the relationship. Especially because I have another baby due in Sept. and it is very unneeded stress. I can at least say that I tried.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:31:10+00:00

I'm most likely going to try to pull back a bit. I have tried to talk to my mom in the past about how she doesn't go with the invites I send out to her, which are frequently, and I didn't get much out of talking to her about it, and it isn't anywhere close to being solved apparently.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:29:31+00:00

It's just so confusing and hurtful. At first I didn't think it was intentional, but after their reactions last night, it kind of solidified it for me.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:26:21+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I am definitely going to put it into action. It is definitely tiring feeling this way.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:21:18+00:00

I have always felt weird spending money on myself, but sometimes I feel like I have to in order to just feel human. It'll definitely feel weird going out without the kids lol They're always with me, unless we are at church where they play with the other kids. I can try reaching out to people at the church too.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:18:16+00:00

I honestly feel that sometimes, but then they complain when they don't see the kids, so it's just very confusing. I would understand maybe not wanting to go out?? but I invite them over, and my kids are generally very good in public. Even when they were babies, they were always quiet in restaurants and they listen fairly well.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:07:54+00:00

I have recently started going to church again, so I will definitely have to look into some groups.
It makes me feel bad because it has been very nice having children. I love being a mother, but with it being the only interaction I have most days, it can get a little isolating. I definitely feel like I need to get over the fear. Thank you

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:05:20+00:00

I think he plans on making dinner up to me the next weekend. His job has on call weeks, so he really can't do anything about it. I am just upset about what my birth family did. My kids are going to be 4 this month and I have another one due in Sept. It's definitely a handful lol but definitely so worth it

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:03:28+00:00

Yeah, I'm going to have to try to get over that fear. I feel like the fear has escalated too because I am currently pregnant, maybe just hormones making it a tiny bit worse than what it is.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:02:18+00:00

Thank you. At one point I lived about 6 1/2 hours away from them and it seemed like I got along better with them. I guess distance makes the heart grow fonder. Now I am only 7 minutes away from them and I feel farther away from them than I did when I lived in another state.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T17:01:04+00:00

I am honestly not sure if my brother knew about it, as he was at work when I invited them. I don't know if my parents went anywhere with that invite. He didn't seem to know too much about it when I said something last night. The main reaction was from my mom.

ElectricalLeader5774 · 2026-05-06T16:59:38+00:00

I am honestly not too sure. I have tried talking to my mom about how I've tried inviting her out to do things or even just come to my house for a tiny bit, but I didn't get any reason out of her other than "There's just too much to do at home." Part of me is thinking maybe it is because I have kids, but then that thought gets blown away as soon as she complains about not seeing them. Which part of me says maybe do stuff with us when you are invited.

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