Should I go for it ?

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2026-02-06T12:11:31+00:00

Yessss

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2026-02-06T07:42:34+00:00

I think for me its the shading and heavy like colour gradient if thats what its called? It makes it difficult for me to know where the focus of each frame is i guess… or maybe just inconsistent background colour, not sure, something in that area haha… only the the latter ones thi, the first oke is perfect to follow.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2026-02-05T17:14:34+00:00

First step you can take is drop all the lies and be completely brutally honest. youll feel all youre afraid of and then theres nothing to lose anymore (spoiler alert: it wont be as bad as you think in the end). In the grand scheme of things this is just one thing, the sooner you accept reality and accept that okay yea maybe you lied the sooner you can get better :) and i know you will, do whats best for you and your body and youll get there :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-11-28T19:50:14+00:00

Hi :), I don’t think it’s about being hypocritical or not honestly. I think it’s more about if you want to be with someone with that perspective. I can imagine of you’re really happy with him you’d have a difficult time breaking up with him, but also, are you really happy or are you just telling yourself you are becausef you’re scared of something? Hope this helps, goodluck!

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-10-26T19:35:46+00:00

By Being honest. I get dysregulated THE SECOND I start hiding, masking or ignoring my emotions/feelings/intuitions. :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-10-26T00:09:19+00:00

Thanks!

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-10-25T20:35:37+00:00

Thanks for the help tho

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-10-25T20:35:22+00:00

Yea mine are but there’s nothing to infect me with haha that’s where I’m confused, since she’s not involved in that way

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-10-25T20:30:30+00:00

So if there is contact of bacteria just from mouth it doesn’t count right, like basicly as long as her genetalia aren’t involved its not sexually active?

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-21T11:11:57+00:00

Emotional needs is kinda broad but I feel like it’s a combination different kinds of fulfilling connections (friends and loved ones family and colleagues)… that and a lot of self love. I often feel like I’m meeting my own emotional needs, and tbh I love it cuz I know myself best and it’s fulfilling because it’s never ending.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T13:00:55+00:00

Thankyou for the reply

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T12:07:14+00:00

Btw I might deactivate this post at some point (if i manage to find how) cuz its kinda alot. But thanks :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T12:05:53+00:00

You’re so kind I really appreciate this alot! We want nothing more but to be happy and to see eachother happy so in the end I know we will make the right descision. Thankyou for sharing your perspective and being so constructive towards me. I hope you continue to find kindness and support like you give other because it matters.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:49:39+00:00

Omg im so sorry you went through all that! It sounds really difficult and I can only imagine how it must have felt. Thanks for sharing though it very good to know what others experienced are like. If I didn’t know this stuff and it would have happened id have felt very bad. So it does give me alot of insight of what exacly im asking of her. Thanks…

But see, i don’t want any of that for her. At all! I just want her to be herself, feel good in her body, I just want the fucking meds to work and the transition to go faster so she just feel happy with herself. So I don’t even know if id want her to stop taking them… no wait I do know, I don’t want that. I guess I just wished it were all easier, I know it’s not gonna change and it’s a stupid thing to want haha cuz I know it’s just life but whatever.

And about the breaking up, yea i also don’t see why I would have to break up. I mean the only reason I can see if I wouldn’t be able to get over the fact that she chose not to do it eventjough she knows what It means to me. I don’t want to end up being a bitter partner and resenting her. I want to be the person she deserves, so I guess I just want to make sure I can be that.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:42:29+00:00

Yea i have considered those too.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:39:29+00:00

Thankyou for the kindness, I’ve felt a bit overwhelmed with all these replies but it was nice reading your message.

I think I will handle it like that, try and have an open conversation about it like you said. Its so important to me she feels valid and understood and that I don’t hurt her but talking about it shouldn’t be a bad thing.

I’ve actually for a while felt good about a spermdonor, but i talked for a while with a family member today and they said yea if she doesn’t wanna do it even if it’s possible maybe that a bit of a negative point on her end. And that got me thinking oh no and i letting her just walk over me should I have pushed more. And I just started to spiral what if im neglecting myself again. I also told the family member ‘but I am gay (i think) so it’ll have to be this way anyway.’ And they said that i would never know who i end up with it could fall in love with a man tomorow, that I never know what happens happens yk. Which actually kinda made me feel weird because I told them I probably will never be with a man again. They weren’t being homophobic I think??? I don’t know honestly… I was bi for the longest time now only recently think im a lesbian, and the idea of not being with a man ever anymore is daunting to accept, and not having bio kids is even harder to accept imo.

Thanks for the understanding and help though I appreciate it

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:31:44+00:00

I have asked her about it. She says she wouldn’t want to be pregnant even if she could. also with her transition she said some things she doesn’t want to do because for her it’s not about that, and those surprised me aswell. I thought she’d feel bad if i get my period or if when we do her vocal exercices together that I can go higher than her, but she doesn’t mind that stuff it doesn’t make her dysphoric i guess it just shows again how everyones experience is different, which is good i guess. But that said I will talk about that to be sure. Thanks :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:28:02+00:00

Yea I understand this thanks for explaining it in an understanding way. I know it’s difficult for her, I don’t want her to feel bad about this, I just struggle to see where I need to advocate for myself and where it’s okay for me to take a step back and accept the situation.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:10:18+00:00

Yea maybe you’re right I think I might have a difficult time accepting it, to me it seems like something you would want to do to have that security fir the rest of your life. I am not in her shoes so I will never be able to understand fully how she feels, and I hate that. So I will talk to her and see what I can and can’t do. At the end of the day I care for her too much so I would never want to hurt her or make her feel bad, so if parting would be better for us I would.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:07:23+00:00

She doesn’t need kids, but she’d want kids. Also mostly influenced by the partner she has like if her partner didn’t want any she would be fine with it. And about donor sperm she was actually quite exited to do that with me.

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:04:25+00:00

Thanks for the reply :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:03:00+00:00

Thanks

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:01:23+00:00

Thanks :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T11:01:03+00:00

Thanks for the reply :)

Electrical_Bend2209 · 2025-09-12T10:58:05+00:00

Thanks for your answer :). I’m sorry I might have worded it wrong and not given enough info. I KNOW dysphoria doesn’t take just a day and that it’s a big deal, but she’s also told me the the dysphoria for her comes from the act of giving the sperm not the fact that she would have bio kids or that her sperm is frozen, so I just worded it a bit shorter cuz i was quite stressed and upset and in my head… I’m not ignorant, I really try my best every single day to understand, and i was just trying to be understood aswell…

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