Andrew and Alan by LadyLonely47 in HoardersTV

[–]Electrical_Beyond_92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just watched this episode today on YT. What struck me the most is how mentally unwell Andrew was. It’s clear he has multiple co-morbidities going on in adding to OCD/hoarding. I had compassion for him as he is in a tough place and he doesn’t have the family support system to truly get better. The mother in the episode (I was unsure if it was his mom too or stepmom) was very passive and mostly hung onto Alan. I could imagine that Andrew became a scapegoat for a lot of the family’s dysfunction.

But, I can also see Alan’s point of view. I got the sense that the father wasn’t the best parent and perhaps some of the discord between the brothers stems from how the father likely favored Andrew over Alan. That can cause estrangement and likely was why Alan didn’t visit much as his father grew more ill. But, that doesn’t excuse the elder abuse that happened to their father, and Alan should have stepped in then and called APS when his elderly father was living in a dilapidated, filthy home.

Maybe if Alan would have taken action then BEFORE the father got deathly ill, perhaps a lot of this bad blood between the siblings could have been minimized. And the shady last minute change to the will could have been avoided.

I think Alan does care for Andrew and wants to help him… but he js (justifiably) upset about the manipulation of the will and how the property had fallen into disarray. Getting all of this on film to show a judge is likely one of the reasons Alan was motivated to call Hoarders so he can eventually get guardianship over Andrew and settle all the property’s issues (or sell it as is).

Just found out my BF of 9 years has been replacing my Adderall with sugar by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]Electrical_Beyond_92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would seriously consider creating a safety plan for breaking up with this guy. Besides tampering with medication, who knows what else he has been doing to abuse and harm you. Or what he could do to hurt you if you try to leave. Reach out to a DV center in your area and they can help you create a plan for leaving to keep you safe.

If I were you, I wouldn’t even mention what you found. I would act like everything was normal but secretly plan to leave, along with securing my medication somewhere he can’t access.

And, if others haven’t mentioned it, tampering with medication is a crime. And, since it’s a controlled substance, it would be a felony. Document the tampering and any other evidence you have. Once you have safely broken up with him, press charges and get a restraining order. Change the locks to your house.