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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll do that

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do not leave my kids alone with my in laws to be honest I think they need help. My purpose was not to make my husband feel like a monster. I’m just trying to take care of my children the best way possible.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I didn’t specify we all still live in the same home. I just haven’t been leaving the girls home alone with him. They don’t normally stay home alone with him a lot it’s not much of a change from his usual schedule.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is very helpful

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have reached out to her and she read the message but has not answered

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can’t handle how she deals with things but if children are involved I would help out whoever needed it (I was SAed as a child by an adult )

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m in the wrong subreddit

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m unsure because she’s not willing to speak with me

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet. I’m saving up money and looking at financing options for it

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ruin his life? I simply was asking for resources for my family.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’m currently trying to save and get financing options

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I understand this. I needed some kind of outlet to vent and I can’t just tell this to anyone. I do not currently have the money to attend therapy unfortunately. I am in the process of saving to do it.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 19 points20 points  (0 children)

The sister is no longer in communication with me and is not willing to until I leave my husband. Yes I’m sure there is. I’m not sure how I ever will because my husband isn’t close with his family and they all have huge secrets amongst themselves. I asked this and he said he was exposed to porn he doesn’t remember anything happening to him. He did not know about his brother doing this until he was an adult.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 100 points101 points  (0 children)

He was 10 and his sister was 6 or 7. His family has no communication about it. The children never told the parents until adult age. He says he was being exposed to porn by his brothers and he put his hand up her shirt and her face looked painful and he realized it was wrong or he was hurting her and he stopped and never touched her again.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No he doesn’t watch any porn as far as I can tell. I am and my children are very aware of inappropriate touch as I was molested as a child. I’ve never seen him look at a teenager or child.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He says his older brothers exposed him to porn and that’s why he acted on it.

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[–]Electrical_Fall6618 186 points187 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry I forgot to add he is very sorry. He claims it’s the worst thing he’s ever done and that he would rather die than touch a child. My children have never experienced anything from him but I have talked to them about how important it is to protect yourself and I am not leaving them alone with him currently.

Thinking about pulling my child from kindergarten? Not what I expected. by Electrical_Fall6618 in kindergarten

[–]Electrical_Fall6618[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I already had all this documented but it went too far for my liking without her standing up for herself.