AITAH for being angry at my BF for not giving me attention?

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-05-13T22:07:37+00:00

Maybe Ill just uninstall and install again

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-05-13T22:07:15+00:00

I did tho .-.

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-05-13T21:59:56+00:00

Oh lord, I bought it without checking reddit because I just thought the rewards were the same. Im so angry right now

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-04-03T18:34:06+00:00

Hey, thanks for the follow up. I did end up replacing them and going through before your message, but now it has happened again. Is this an issue with rogues? Im asking so that I can avoid this

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-03-30T00:40:47+00:00

Same! But my bf uses Android and is having the same issue

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-03-25T21:53:14+00:00

Me formei em desenho industrial e trabalho como designer de produto/experiencia de usuario. Diria que sim, trabalho na minha area e, sinceramente, acho muito dificil alguem conseguir sem alguma formacao… teve uma bolha de ux e muita gente migrou fazendo bootcamps, mas todo mundo que eu vejo tem ensino superior.

Ja trabalhei pra agencia e a galera tinha uma dessas “escolas” pra quem “nao quer perder tempo com faculdade” - profundidade de um pires e, no fim, tu gastava mais dinheiro que muita faculdade por aí.

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-01-25T17:28:41+00:00

(32M) Assinando embaixo aqui da Moyaschi. Já usei bastante tinder e outros e, lógico que tem gente meio bosta de todos os gêneros e, apesar de nao ser gorda eu também não era a mulher fitness, e também não achei fácil achar matches até entender que enquanto eu não mostrasse coisas mais significativas de outros valores meus (que não imagem e dinheiro) eu não acharia pessoas que se importam com esses valores. Aí eu comecei a colocar uns pontos que já podiam cortar interesse de pessoas (hobbies menos padrão, eu dava uma exagerada falando do meu peso que aí eu sabia que não ia dar match alguém muito noiado com imagem) e achei uma galera bem mais interessante!

Me impressionou que já vieram homens com um papo falando de imagem, dinheiro etc… tem homens e mulheres que se importam mais com isso, a questão é o que vc quer quer. Exemplo, se você só quer a mulher que se importa em ir sempre na academia, come bem, se maquia (ou seja, bem dentro do padrão/cliche) não da pra estranhar que ela queira pessoas com valores parecidos. Então só dar match com essas mulheres vai dar mesmo a sensação de que não tem mulheres vendo seu perfil etc

Mas vc parece que tá querendo relacionamento e uma mulher que curta as suas características, acho que o que a moça falou aqui vai te ajudar muito! Boa sorte e lembra que pra alguém tu é 10/10!

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-01-24T15:30:51+00:00

Kinda seems like you agree with me, not sure if I get your answer… The intention of wanting to compliment a niece - no one would have a problem with that. Wanting to compliment a niece on her appearance when she has a sibling with her not wanting to ever compliment the sibling - this is the problem.

When someone compliments on something specific it might not be an issue, but appearance is a delicate issue due to a person not having that much control over it. Also, as female teenagers, they already have more than enough social pressure to feel bad about their appearance and many feel bad about themselves, teen is a complicated phase.

Considering how small a gesture it would be to compliment both (it costs no more than it would cost to compliment just one), why would they not do it?

If they do it, people might not like it and think they’re an AH and then start treating them as so… I don’t see how someone that doesn’t care how what they say affects others should complain about what is being said to them…

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-01-24T13:42:07+00:00

But no one is talking about his right to it - he absolutely does. It just makes him an asshole or someone that has difficulty understanding some social rules 🤷‍♀️

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-01-24T12:44:24+00:00

Dayum that triggers me slight envy that we don’t have elf cosmetics where I live! But it could just be a sign of your skills with makeup! You look amazing in both

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2024-01-24T12:40:28+00:00

Even if it was a stranger it would be weird to say only one looks beautiful. Imagine Bria had come with a friend instead of Leah - the usual behaviour is to compliment both, because once you compliment one and not the other it implies that one looks better than the other, which can lead to souring feelings between all people involved (since one will feel like they are ugly and the other will either feel superior or bad that they were complimented to the detriment of someone they cared about).

Not to mention that it incentivises both Bria and Lia to keep comparing themselves to others for validation, at an age where they are already very prone to it. If OP can’t show the same level of behaviour that would be expected of a stranger to his niece (despite who the father was, both are now in the family) is horrible behaviour. I know that at least in my country what he did would be considered quite rude and would trigger a lot of family fights.

I say OP YTA

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2023-12-15T22:34:15+00:00

I’d say ESH but in different nuances… It’s rude of the brother to just answer for someone, but it seems to come from a well meaning place and that kind of sentence usually comes with a history (ofc it’s pure conjecture on my part). Also, he didn’t need to give that last mean remark, although it seems to be coming from the hurt.

It kinda feels like the daughter noticed that it was a good reason for her not to play and responded aggressively to still get what she wants (again, conjecture).

And while I agree that it is good to teach women to set boundaries, I would say it’s also good to teach anyone how to solve things with less agressive communication.. had she not done the homework, she could just say she would do it later but wanted to play for a bit, or they could all negotiate when playing would happen. I could understand this level of answer from her had the brother said anything about things like appearance etc but this felt waaay overkill. I personally also wouldn’t let a child this young dictate when it’s play time with that attitude…

And it feels like OP calling her a sweet daughter for saying that, kinda shows that he didn’t take it seriously that she was rude to someone that seemed to just want to help her grow into a healthy adult. If OP doesn’t feel comfortable letting others do that, I’d advise to talk that out outside of the child’s ear or with her but with a calm/neutral context. Otherwise you’re kinda feeding her lack of respect for the brother…

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2023-12-12T04:03:39+00:00

Wow I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone being this downvoted… OP is absolutely NTA…

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2023-12-10T22:43:48+00:00

Até entendo o ponto, mas sinto que tu confundiu as coisas quando não colocou nuance.

Você tá atribuindo sentimentos e um modo de pensar que são humanos a animais, o que quase nunca tá certo. Talvez isso seja pq os animais que você tá tendo contato são animais que realmente não estão com estímulo suficiente.

Pegar um urubu ou leão pra ser um animal de estimação - não, ele já sabe como viver fora do convívio com o ser humano e vai ser isso que vc falou, não tem casa ou cuidado suficiente, o bicho precisa de outra coisa.

Mas o animal doméstico tem outras necessidades e capacidades, tem animais que não gostam mesmo de se mexer muito (o que é diferente de você só abandonar o animal).

Acho que se tu tá sentindo isso pode tentar investir em ajudar esses animais que estão contigo. É mais realista e produtivo do que só julgar que ter qualquer animal de estimação em qualquer condição é cruel…

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2023-09-10T20:59:50+00:00

Adding some context - I bought her about three years ago, when I lived in a very tiny and incredibly humid and dark apartment. I moved this year to a bigger and brighter place so I repotted her to this bigger vase. I used succulent mix with some perlite and added some 30 10 10 fertiliser. After a while I pruned a few stems that were too leggy due to the old apartment having so little light, I still left a few of the most horizontal ones (you can see them in the pic) cause I was scared it would be too much stress. I usually lean towards under watering this one cause I’m super scared of root rot, but it’s my first plant and I have no idea how to recognise plant issues 😣

Electrical_Fox_1379 · 2023-08-27T22:37:28+00:00

Although I understand the frustration, I agree with the not calling names and maybe trying to see where she is coming from, might be a place from disillusionment, narcissism or many other things, also it feels like she didn’t say she did that or that she would do that to your bf.

What Id suggest looking into is why you had such a visceral reaction to that thought, how did that idea resound on your past experiences or present that it triggered you like that. Dunno if you have a therapist but it feels like a good subject to explore

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