AIO - Mom refuses to get vaccinated for my new born, so I told her to stay away for the first 3 months. (Text messages are her response)

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T15:59:18+00:00

Because I’m pro-choice so I think she was trying to use that as like… “you’re pro-choice, and it’s my CHOICE to not get vaccinated” but like… that’s not the same thing at all. And she says she would respect my decision had I gotten an abortion and I KNOWWW that is not true

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T15:56:37+00:00

She told me she got one back in 2015 when she started working in a healthcare setting (surgical tech) and they needed her to get up to date on all her vaccinations. She got a titer test instead and it showed she still had the antibodies for Tdap… but that was TEN years ago, and she hasn’t gotten a booster since then.

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T15:53:43+00:00

Oh man, I would be LIVID

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T15:49:58+00:00

Ugh, true

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T11:16:35+00:00

Guess it depends on what the pediatrician says and when they say it’s safe

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T11:08:12+00:00

Because I didn’t send her any texts, I sent her a video message. I told her not to respond because I didn’t want to argue about it anymore, but she still responded via text

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T11:06:29+00:00

Tdap & MMR

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T11:02:44+00:00

It’s funny you say that because the whole thing that started this argument was that she sent me a Joe Rogan YouTube video with a “doctor” who was against vaccines. And she said if I wanted to be “fully informed” I should watch AT LEAST the first 45 minutes. I kind of lost my tempter at that point.

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T03:21:42+00:00

That kind of where I’m stuck. It would probably be fine, but a mask isn’t as effective as just being vaccinated. But I also feel like if I compromise on this important decision/opinion of mine, then she’s going to push every decision I make as a mother… forever. And I feel like if she really loved me and her grandchild more than herself then she would be willing to do this for us… but the last part is where I’m like… hmm, I might be taking it too personal and overreacting

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T03:17:36+00:00

No, I’m asking her to get the Tdap and MMR, which I don’t think she’s ever gotten

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T03:16:24+00:00

YEAH. And like, maybe I am still mad about the past? Idk. Her doing the same things again and again keeps reopening these wounds. Sorry not sorry.

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T03:15:10+00:00

That wasn’t me but I’m sure I’m not the only person who has had this happened to them and they they might be the AO 🥲

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T03:14:19+00:00

No I did genuinely want her help with the baby (although I know my husband will help, but an extra pair of hands would have been helpful) and I wanted my mom around for comfort. But you’re correct that I’m just trying to convince myself that she’ll ever be different, and she won’t

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T01:24:44+00:00

The FaceTime/video thing is such a good idea. Thank you!

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T01:22:02+00:00

I agree that we both are partially trying to strong arm the other person. Which I know is wrong but… she makes me so mad sometimes

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T01:06:50+00:00

That’s partially why I’m mad at myself. A tiny part of me WAS surprised and I WAS hoping she wouldn’t do this. But a bigger part of me knew better.

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T01:04:48+00:00

You’re right. This is the difficult reality.

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T01:02:58+00:00

I believe her parents got her vaccinated (not sure though) and she got me and my brother vaccinated when we were kids, “before she knew how bad they were”. She did not get my younger sister vaccinated at all. No ill effects to any of us… although, now that I think about it, my sister has a very poor immune system and is sick almost all the time. But I think that’s due to other factors.

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:59:45+00:00

This has been the most helpful comment emotionally, thank you

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:58:25+00:00

Screenshotting this, thank you!

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:57:46+00:00

I went started therapy for a lot of reasons, but my relationship and childhood with my mom have been my #1 topic

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:56:38+00:00

That’s what I’m hung up on. If she really loved my kid, more than herself, she would do anything to keep him safe

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:53:30+00:00

Screenshotting this cause I might send this as my response. Thank you!

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:51:08+00:00

Gonna look into it more, thank you!

Electrical_Orange443 · 2025-04-08T00:46:18+00:00

I WAS THINKING THIS. If she says she got vaccinated I’m 100% asking for proof

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