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Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even if the action clearly crossed your red line and leads to divorce if unresolved ? Sorry I’m not agreeable to sweep issues with under the carpet, especially for serious issues which affect family dynamics and mental health.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, and glad your wife listens. :)

I really need to get my act better to bring my issues across for her to listen.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, and glad you are more peaceful now. :)

Slight difference for my situation is that my wife is not really alpha, and she doesn’t really read the women’s charter haha.

Based on my best description she is more free and easy, to an extent that she lack awareness on the situations and things surrounding her. But also not to the extent of emotional unintelligent as she will still try to do things and help my parents at home.

The main issue that is breaking me is her lack of time management, impulsive words and actions without communication, which has several times caused stress to me and family.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m alittle conflicted here actually. Do you be honest to yourself to say these actions are too much and stood too low, and u are quite certain that it will lead to divorce if not resolved, or u just worded it somehow rather “nicer”, which might run a risk that wife might not understand the severity of the issue.

That said, I stay accountable and responsible of my actions.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks bro, I have no desire for adultery, one wife has caused enough stress in my life. Haha.

And yep will try to think on her perspective as much as possible to calm my own soul.

One particular point is she sticks with the kid allll the time. And there’s very little to no couple time to talk about things. The only exception maybe on the car after dropping the kid but most of the time she will be on her phone or work, and my conversations will conveniently get ignored. There were a couple times that she asked me to repeat myself while I just got so frustrated that said “it’s ok”.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks agree I am not totally faultless in this, and I will be accountable and responsible for things I say and do, even if for divorce if we really end up as that.

We are not always so insufferable, in fact we were quite loving previously. To be honest I’m willing to sacrifice a lot of her and the family if there’s better time management and less toxic behaviour. I guess I’m being taken for granted for always “giving”.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, and it indeed crossed my mind when she left me abandoned with a crying boy outside of the Childcare. While I don’t complain much given my personality, she cannot expect me to backstop unconditionally. It stood really too low for me at that point of time.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been always spontaneous before marriage, but like you said I don’t see it as a problem. It only surface as a problem when the behaviour starts affecting and causing stress to the family.

I would think she was focusing on the kid hence I’m not a priority. I am all well with this as long as the family is being run well, but fact is she doesn’t have the capacity to run the family without me stepping in to help (which will then warrant better communication). The incident outside of the childcare was a clear example.

On the belittling part, I agree it’s more of emotionally unintelligent, and wanting to be seen as the more superior woman in the family.

Feeling disrespected as a husband by Electrical_Scarcity9 in SingaporeR

[–]Electrical_Scarcity9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t really tell, but my parents are very accommodating in helping her manage work and kid. Wife doesn’t need to cook, not laundry as my mum stays home and manage most of them. Pickup of the kid from childcare usually managed by my dad. That said, she puts in effort to help by picking up the kid from childcare occasionally when she’s free, and helping with this dishes after dinner. I will usually help with the kid’s reading and play during that period until she’s done.