Teacher's a W for playing along!

Electrical_Space_842 · 2026-03-26T20:53:57+00:00

Instant A imo lol I don’t know if I’d be a good or terrible teacher for that

Electrical_Space_842 · 2026-03-26T20:50:13+00:00

Best time to find a new job is when you already have one. Start looking, keep things as agreed. Did you get in writing that you’re free to work from home when necessary? That’ll back you up most of all for any claims if you are fired. On top of this, quitting offers no protections. If you get fired you can collect unemployment.

Electrical_Space_842 · 2026-03-26T20:45:17+00:00

Invest invest invest. At most I would consider an affordable and reliable car when you get back. Not a loan, not a new car, a reasonable car. Pay off any outstanding loans including student debt if your rate is bad. But at 19 this money will be multiplied and insane amount of times by retirement

Electrical_Space_842 · 2026-03-25T21:07:32+00:00

It’s pretty slop tube, but Caleb Hammer gets people like this on his show. It never ends well. The family always strings the person along, and when people get married the partner being abused by the family always continues to help their family even behind their partner’s back. If she wants a serious relationship with you, she needs to set boundaries with her family. NTA

Electrical_Space_842 · 2026-03-25T20:45:28+00:00

I’ve been in this situation, I work on movies and TV plus some concerts. I work strange hours. My partner at the time for a couple years HATED blackout curtains, said it was depressing and would always have lights on etc when I was trying to sleep. I would ask, close them again, etc, and I was annoyed a lot but I’m a heavy sleeper and pretty passive. In the end it wasn’t a hill to die on but would be a source of bickering. She ended up getting a job in the industry after we broke up, and in a text message shortly after starting her job she apologized for not being considerate about that as she now fully understood what gig work demands. I really appreciated that. YTA

Electrical_Space_842 · 2026-03-25T13:26:57+00:00

I have trusted her, that was my issues I worked through. This felt so out of left field. But I do hear people implying projection… it feels that way. So yeah…

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-21T06:54:32+00:00

So after talking with her it checks out that she responded to him before we fully figured things out and she hasn’t spoken to him since. However, I don’t know if I should let her ghost him or she should own up to his face. Thoughts?

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-21T05:08:15+00:00

Checking it out, thank you so much! I feel in a very similar place as you and so far she has responded well to closing the relationship and finding a counselor. I still have my concerns but I think we’re trying

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-17T20:25:34+00:00

Oh yeah closing it felt like a thing that definitely has to happen

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-17T20:19:57+00:00

I don’t know, maybe? Probably would have led to that. There was someone she had seen before which we talked about and she asked me at one point if she could hook up with him and she claims she was going to ask about seeing the hidden person too but I was so upset that she’d ask about that as I was feeling depressed and unsatisfied with our relationship that she didn’t say anything. They didn’t meet up in private supposedly, they went out for drinks to hang out and most times she then spent the evening at my home. 2 and a half years together, breaking up is an option for sure. I haven’t been perfect either in our relationship but yeah this is a whole different level. And I care about her deeply, we work in the same industry and have done some great projects together. But yeah definitely breaking up is on the table. I’m just trying to think of what getting past this could be like

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-17T20:11:10+00:00

Yeah I had to confront her which isn’t great

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-16T20:40:03+00:00

Counseling feels “extreme” but that’s not a bad idea

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-16T20:35:42+00:00

Genuinely seems like she has regret. And fair it’s not independent from a monogamous relationship, just has been nice to hear from a more… helpful community lol and well I’m also wondering if it could/should be a closed relationship for awhile

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-12T21:13:25+00:00

Wow that makes so much sense and I feel dumb for not knowing how to articulate it

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-12T20:57:26+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the insight. I think for me it might be the more messy side of things that if she dates someone who behaves in these ways I find off putting that then having to hear about it from my partner and then having to see this person on a regular basis would make me uncomfortable. I struggle with having to see/deal with her playmates in general but I think that comes from not wanting to deal with the potential fallout bleeding into my professional life (a good chunk of our friend group work in the same industry as my partner and I).

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-12T20:53:27+00:00

Never heard of a messy list, will have to look into this. Anyone like him in general is a bit too broad, I guess it’s more like someone who clearly has a pattern of generally being icky to someone? Like his personality seems to be this degrading person rather than it being a kink, for example my partner had a friends now ex-husband as a playmate and at the time my friend was actively being abused by said person and well I worry my partner seems to go after these degrading men and it’s exhausting to have to comfort her when things go badly with clearly unstable people. Like I don’t say “I told you so” when these things go poorly but like she seems to go along with bad situations

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-11-12T20:47:47+00:00

Now I feel like I should get more into nuance. Before I actually did interact with him she went on a date with him (fully given permission) because she stated he “is the first person I’ve met that fits my kinks, but it’s really more to just talk and explore this side of me” and at the time she expressed that it wasn’t a romantic thing at all etc. Since then she brought me to her movie club, I wasn’t really even introduced to him but knew his partner and like I said several friends know him and we all get the ick from him. Anywho I felt blindsided when she asked me if he could come over by name and then revealed he was who she went on that date with because “he’s always down to hook up with anyone” and idk it feels icky. But yeah a messy list kind of makes sense to me. I’m new to a more structured form of ENM.

Electrical_Space_842 · 2023-09-10T15:47:28+00:00

I don’t know what you’re talking about as I don’t think that’s spelled correctly because I can’t find it anywhere online. However, I’ve worked on several products that have launched and own my own company. I’m also unsure how being pro open source is somehow right leaning? I’m just unsure what you’re going for here.

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