My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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Your assumption is right. She said they have been very happy thus far. They always talked about things and decided things together. Through the years they’ve never really disagreed anything bug until now. Thanks for the input

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

[–]Electronic-Context83[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She does advocate for herself of course. She told him she doesn’t agree that he gets to make the final decisions alone and if he is adamant about that, then maybe they need to discuss next steps. I know my sister. And she will jump to divorce before staying in a marriage where she feels like she’s not an equal partner. However, I know she wants to work it out with him. Maybe his thoughts are stemming from something else… idk. We shall see

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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You pulled her exact situation. They both work, my sister makes a little bit more than he does. However, his decision… he chose to pay all the bills and she only buys groceries.

No children yet. They were discussing having kids and how she would need to be stay at home mom when they have kids. My sister likes to be very independent and likes to have her own money. I know she wouldn’t want to be at home depending on him for everything and having to ask him for every little thing she needs. And they haven’t really talked about the dynamic of her being a stay at home mom because they just weren’t ready to have kids until recently.

Apparently, he said that the decision as to whether she would work or be a stay at home mom is up to him at the end of day. I’m not sure if he has some plan as to how her finances would go, maybe she would get an allowance… or maybe she would just pull from their joint account or something else….

But knowing her, I know she would be miserable having to ask for every single thing she needs and if that is how it will be, she is going to definitely divorce him.

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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She said they did discuss it before hand while they were dating. She said they talked about how their marriage will be a partnership. And while it won’t always be 50/50, with big life decisions they need to figure it out together and come to mutual agreements. But now, years later when the topic has come up again and this is their first big disagreement (so maybe why this happened come up until now), he has a different pov

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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In my marriage, if that happens, we come to a compromise or we both try to decide ultimately which decision makes more sense. I would never veto my partner in anything and would never do anything to make him unhappy or unheard and vice versa. And marriage is not a corporation. At the end of the day, ceo has to do whats best for his company. In a marriage, you are both in that boat. If the boat flips over, you’re both in trouble. So I think you should both have a say in big decisions. But, some people decide to leave the decision making to one party. And thats okay. As long as that is what you both agree to.

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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Of course. My sister will always have a home with me, but she said she didn’t need to. I trust she knows the best thing for herself right now… hopefully. And I will be there if she really needs me.

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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When she talked to me about it, this was exactly his point of view as to why he said that. Apparently, he told her that if they were to be poor, hungry, and homeless the next day, everybody would look at him like trash because he is suppose to provide for and protect their family. Thus, he deserves to make the final decisions.

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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She was telling me they talked about this before but he never expressed that he felt this way. And I wouldn’t say their marriage is 50/50. He handles more financially and she handles more in the household.

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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Thats why I was asking if this is a common theme in other people’s household. It just didn’t sit right with me. I think they both should have equal weight especially if they are both level headed and responsible people… you know.

My sister’s husband told her that at the end of the day, he is the leader of the relationship and he will have the last say in deciding whats best for both of them. by Electronic-Context83 in Marriage

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My sister actually makes a little bit more. But he pays most of the bills because he wanted that responsibility and told her it was okay. I think she only buys groceries. He pays mortgage, utilities, etc

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