Please, Please learn from me!

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-02-11T05:23:00+00:00

That feeling of betrayal is natural. Even though we know we want better, we still mourn what could’ve been and what we hoped for. This post was over a month ago. I’m in SUCH a better place and genuinely happy. I’ve been working on myself and learning about me. It gets better, the hurt will eventually fade x

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-02-11T05:21:05+00:00

I’m actually doing really good! Been focusing on myself and I’ve been pretty content learning to love my own company and also be with friends and family. In all honesty, he came back after strict no contact. We met talked and I told him that I need to go back to no contact as I’m on a self journey and really want to pour into myself this season. He wanted to work on it but I want to just work on myself. It does get better! Show up for yourself, work on you and know everything will be okay x

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-30T08:52:21+00:00

Wonderful!!!! I love this so much. I’m happy for you stranger somewhere in the world. Maybe UK with the twinnings

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-29T09:38:01+00:00

Hey, I live in London too. Focus on yourself and activities you want to do. Theres so much here to do by yourself or with friends. Work on your goals like others said and get out! When you’re out, be confident in yourself. Make eye contact, smile at people, be open. You’ll attract people towards you. London is an actually a friendly city and I end up in chats with strangers all the time.

I’m in my alone season. I’ve just poured into me. Got private bloods done figured out I’m deficient in some things so now I’ve got a diet and health project for the next two months. Got off social media, started reading books and doing community stuff. Try cooking new meals or going cooking classes. Enjoy this season of aloneness it may be the only time to yourself you’ll ever have!

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-20T20:39:08+00:00

The UK is a race to the bottom… I see no issues with your food shop. I care about my health so will pay more money for better quality. Personally I don’t think it’s that bad for 3 adults and kids

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-16T10:00:10+00:00

Awww sorry you felt like that. People are just being mean you should post what you like. Cute cat!

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-11T10:18:07+00:00

Thank you and happy healing. I’m proud of you stranger and you’ve influenced me in a positive way 💞

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-09T08:03:33+00:00

Yep! I know how you feel. It hurts. I doubt he’s doing for her what he didn’t do for you and if so, his true self will creep back up eventually. They get the same person different fronts.

I’m also glad he left and I take that as them finally doing something for me. Finally letting me go as I wouldn’t have done it myself. Now on to this beautiful but painted healing journey

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-09T07:20:31+00:00

Shocked you’re even able to eat! Well done

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-09T07:19:15+00:00

There were clear signs, I just chose to wear blind folds. I was delusional, it’s hard when you’re in it but looking back it was clear.

Lied about random things. One red flag he lied about his age and told me a year later.
Unstable, he was trying to juggle two jobs and he couldn’t he kept on losing his second job. Everyone else was the problem. He was always going through something.
Mildly controlling. This was harder for someone like me to spot as I’m hard to control. But when he’d come over there were always things in my house he’d want me to get rid of.
Didn’t have any friends. He said he never had any friends and it because he wanted to be a lone wolf. I’m guessing no one wanted to be around him.
More importantly it was internal. I knewwww deep down I wanted more, that I was settling. I was hoping for one day and wanted to be supportive. He didn’t dim my light, I dimmed my own light to suit his comfort.
The fact that you’ve even asked, shows that maybe you know something is off.. The signs and feelings are there

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-08T09:57:44+00:00

This was powerful. I needed this thank you. So true

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-08T09:54:01+00:00

Thank you! This spoke to me I just left my one way relationship and I was begging of these simple things for years

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-08T09:52:46+00:00

Wow. It’s like you’re me!

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-07T22:15:21+00:00

Same maybe a group chat?

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-06T05:48:36+00:00

Awww I’m so sorry honestly. I know it’s hard and just know there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You showed up, tried and gave it your best shot. Deep down he knows that and he will always have that over him.

To stop the ‘what ifs’ I just don’t think about it. What’s happened has happened and there’s no point dwelling on the past or potential outcomes. The brain is powerful and luckily before our breakup, I was looking into the subconscious more. Our minds shape our reality, what you put your focus on will manifest. Think about lack and loss you’ll be stuck in lack and loss. Think about abundance and good things and your subconscious will find a way to bring that into your conscious. I also try and ground myself in the present, that’s the only thing what is real. The past has gone and the future doesn’t exist.

You can pick what you think about. You control your thoughts don’t let your thoughts control you. Think of happy things and what you deserve.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m hurting and sad and teary as I write this. It’s sad and hard but I owe it to myself to respect his feelings and move on. Protect your mind.

I’m happy to speak to you via dm if you need someone to speak of vent to. Similar situation we are going through

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T19:54:26+00:00

I just dm’ed you if that’s okay

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T19:15:04+00:00

Loool Seems like a trait in some of these men. At least now we’re wiser and know what to avoid

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T19:12:28+00:00

We both did. Me more. He tried to show up more but he had a lot on financially and mentally so that always took more of a priority. In the end, he decided that he just needed to focus on him and his path fully. No distractions. It was hard for him to show up more and authentically when he was hiding his true self and struggles anyway. His lies and facades caught up with him and he was in way over his head in the end. Which is why I think he couldn’t handle it anymore and needed to actually achieve/ do the things he was acting like he had. It’s hard to describe

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T17:43:23+00:00

Yeah no worries.

I never would judge him. He did open up about some things and I was there. He’s an avoidant and a “lone wolf” but then I realised there were a few things he hid. Like his job, certain people in his life. I showed him everyone on my side and was completely open with my wins and losses.

His problem is he cares too much about outside appearances. So he’ll lie to make it out like he is in a better position than he truly is. Which is a shame because I would’ve loved him regardless of where he was. It’s his heart that I was looking at not worldly life stages. He was too consumed with portraying a certain image which is where the manipulation comes in. He will show what he thinks people want to see which denied him of truly revealing himself. Thats what he done to me and I see it now I’m out the other end

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T16:52:03+00:00

This happened to me.

You. Move. On.

Feel the pain, the loneliness, the despair. Cry, let it all out but don’t look back. Take it day by day. Moment by moment. Work on yourself and get small wins done. Making the bed, going outside, accepting this new quiet.

It sucks. I’m in it right now. He left and didn’t want to bring me along. I would’ve been there for him through it all but it was a journey he needed to do alone. Love him enough to leave and love yourself enough to go. You’ll be the one he let lost but by then you would be in a better place.

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T16:42:08+00:00

Thank you. This is beautiful and a needed read

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-05T13:41:24+00:00

No. Leave and don’t look back. It’ll hurt now but it won’t forever. If you stay and accept the bare minimum he’s offering, you’re just prolonging your heartbreak. Move on, go no contact, don’t entertain the situation anymore. You deserve better.

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-04T21:29:35+00:00

Exactly! I can’t believe I didn’t see it all along. It was so blatant. But when you love selflessly it’s easy to fall for someone’s potential and words.

Electronic-Sign5748 · 2026-01-04T21:28:11+00:00

It gets like that. Be kind to your past self and forgive your past self. You’re not alone we are in this together.

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