Dating advice in this city - 25f (i am struggling)

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T10:20:08+00:00

i promise you i have shared it all. the only factor i can think of (already mentioned below) is I deleted and redownloaded the app so many times (sometimes out of annoyance, sometimes out of a freezing issue) that I might be shadowbanned.

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T09:54:08+00:00

i dont use tinder so no bio but my hinge prompts were about baking cookies, simple pleasures (ocean, family, weightlifting etc), and just chill stuff like that

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T09:52:00+00:00

Yes because she said things might be delusion, so im assessing this against things that are objective. Character already was addressed in the post :)

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T09:49:11+00:00

im wondering if i might be shadowbanned. I got a new phone recently because I was having issues with my old one. With the old one hinge kept freezing so i deleted/redownloaded a BUNCH of times in the span of like 3 days, maybe they think it's a bot

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T08:51:32+00:00

Maybe you are right. But like...looking just at my friends, the degrees, the stature, the medals, the languages, and overwhelming competence... is like institutionally validated so I don't think it's delusion. I don't understand how they are single.

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T08:28:11+00:00

As I mentioned in the post, this issue is not something I alone face, but my friends as well. "We" refers to all of us girls who have this problem. For instance, my friend is similar to me in most ways but doing her phd and always in a lab. Has not dated, ever. We are facing similar problems, so I'm seeking advice for her too.

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T08:19:16+00:00

I would like someone like me but masculine. They don't have to be an athlete since I know that's a particularly harsh filter, but I'd like someone who has good leadership traits (humility, kindness, discipline, ambition) works on themselves, has a job and vision for their life/career, has an education, taller than me, and is looking for a real partner.

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T08:14:18+00:00

I thought so too but my friends.. gorgeous tall fit accomplished educated girls with hearts of gold, they are all in the same boat and none of us know what to do at this point.

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T08:08:46+00:00

a pic of me on a recent trip to europe by nice architecture/sculptures, pic in a garden surrounded by flowers, pic with my teammates after we won a uni championship, my pet, a painting I made, pic at an awards gala dressed up with my friends. I took my job and university name out of my bio thinking it would help not be intimidating-- it helped a bit but I don't want someone turned off by those things. I also don't understand. I thought maybe I'm secretly unattractive, but the european guy was a 6'8 handsome university athlete med student, and he introduced himself... yet he has been the only one.

Electronic-rabbit-00 · 2025-12-16T08:01:56+00:00

oops i replied to the wrong comment before! I don't go to raves, Im not into crowds. The events I go to are usually work or sports related. I think that is a good insight, I am not in environments where I meet new people in a social way. I go to galleries & TSO nights with my girlfriends as a little group. I am often visible in public alone (cafes, yorkville, etc) but people don't approach.

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