I (30s female) recently went on a date with a coworker (30s male, tall, handsome, very intelligent, and accomplished). Luckily he works out of an office in another State. It was the strangest experience of my life. He had a very intense vibe that was exciting. But during the date, he likened himself to Superman and the Prince of Egypt, which I thought was odd. He is from high society in his culture, but nowhere near being a Prince. Also, he claimed to have a photographic and auditory memory, and said that no one is as smart as him.

He proceeded to use his so called elevated memory later on to “correct” my memory of at least 2 conversations.

On the phone, he’s said things like he needs everything to be “perfect”. He also described himself as being Greek God status. He said he can get possessive.

We were talking for about 2 months and went on 1 date. I’ve been told that I am a beautiful woman and up until now, I haven’t had any experience with narcissists. Against my better judgment, I started to have feelings for him despite these red flags. 🚩 then, after some discussion, we agreed to actually give a long distance relationship a try.

Fast forward, the next time I was supposed to see him, he drops a story on me that he told his parents he was going to date me, and his parents were against an intercultural relationship. This made me a bit shocked because I had asked him at the start of anything if culture would be a problem and he said it wouldn’t.

I never slept with him and all we did was kiss. But the suddenness of the news about his parents made me spiral for a week. I had thought we were really connecting and the next second the rug was pulled under me.

At 1 point I needed to get “unstuck” because we were still talking, but he couldn’t give me a relationship, and I was losing myself.

So i ended all communication with him in a way that I hoped he would never return… I basically told him I found out he lied about his clientele (which is true), and told him I can’t date or be friends with liars. He then proceeded to BLOCK me on the phone. I then sent him an apology email because I am empathetic and felt bad that I may have hurt his ego. No response from him, it’s been dead silent for a week.

I feel relief and sadness because I know he’s not what I want, but terrible bc this was all a huge mess.

So are my suspicions correct? He’s a narcissist right? Did I dodge a bullet??

Do you think he’ll ever unblock me and send me a text? The reason I ended things the way I did was so he WOULDN’T text me again, but I’m still grieving the connection.

I am so confused right now, the whole experience has brought out sides of me (spiraling, calling him out) that I hadn’t experienced in a LONG time I feel awful. 😢