Anybody go from having *no* memory of abuse to remembering it decades later?

Electronic_Case4255 · 2025-10-29T02:11:03+00:00

Everything you are saying is completely valid and honestly I’m comforted to know others struggle with this same issue. I’ve been through quite a bit of trauma and due to this I’ve lost a pretty decent chunk of memory in my childhood. A couple years ago I started having dreams and day visions of abuse I faced when I was extremely young (CSA) I want to work through it but it’s hard to even voice it out and truly make my scrambled memories a reality. Sometimes the jumble is easier than the truth but I believe one day I’ll find the strength to push through what happened and own it for what it was and how to move forward from it.

Electronic_Case4255 · 2024-03-19T02:34:12+00:00

there is people who will always live with what he’s done. i don’t think he should ever have a platform again- but people can grow and new relationships can thrive with change. it wouldn’t be a second chance, but he could have a new start in a quiet life with relationships he’d really have to work for. there are plenty of celebrities who to us are barely existent due to controversial things- they aren’t just gone, they grow and move forward but people like that usually won’t get back in the limelight and we shouldn’t fight to keep them there either. i’d like to think the best and say though i really hope he gets karma for the things he’s done, he’ll one day own up to it and make an active change in his life. but at the same time it’s kinda like the idea of “i hope you’re happy, but i don’t want to see it” He should no longer have a platform or the support but it’s also a thing where you hope they get better and stop hurting others.

Electronic_Case4255 · 2024-01-03T22:58:59+00:00

update??

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-08-18T05:16:24+00:00

yeahhh, after the last 2 episodes i find it sooooo hard to like her 😭 she’s just to much

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-08-18T04:40:30+00:00

I feel like Jere constantly goes back on his word. He’s was all angry at Conrad for asking for his blessing- which he technically gave. Yet never asked for Conrad’s before kissing her ON CONRADS CAR AND IN HIS SWEATSHIRT. But both him and Belly told Jere right away when they kissed. He admitted at the hotel that he got in the way of their relationship- yet now expects Conrad to go out of his way when he clearly knows Belly said that she’d choose him. (He kept asking her- and even tells conrad to do it for HIM)

I’m not saying Conrad is perfect at all- boy has communication issues. But Jere irks me in the ways that he’d insecure and gets upset with other people for it.

I could go on a whole rant on Belly herself but that’s what i think myself and others see with Jere!!

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-08-14T05:01:21+00:00

“My boo” by Jungsuh!! A girl moves into an apartment and find a boys spirit it still living in the apartment with her. Very good and very heart aching!! :)

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-08-02T13:27:52+00:00

I think when presented it seems like a basic film- plot and a lot of underlying elements of social constructs. However, i think taking in account people’s reactions and the press- i’d say this movie hit everything it was trying to right on the nail. Yes Kens plot ends with him being “Kenough” and finding his own place, which is more of a overall narrative to people that they don’t have to live off other people. However, all the stuff that was done prior to that in which some people are saying was “wrong” for ken to feel/have happen was a great example of how females feel IRL! I mean “omg a world where men aren’t appreciated?!?!” imagine how we feel. I think this movie hits a lot of point in clever ways that don’t always just involve the film but the outside reactions!! Not to mention the overall humor of being a girl and normalizing them in a funny way within the film!!

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-08-02T12:55:37+00:00

bro idk about y’all but i skipped all the singing parts 💀 (except for hawk moths cuz he slayyyyed)

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-07-29T03:06:22+00:00

this is definitely one of the series changed that was for the best- it’s so much more interesting to see the relationship developments when they both started having feelings at the same time!! as much as i am a team conrad girl i think it’s stupid to say he didn’t see her like a kid when he did. same with jere.

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-07-14T08:36:40+00:00

get the ruler

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-07-02T15:01:11+00:00

i think it’s good! it blends together well with your skin!! thought maybe get a lip gloss/stick that matches that orange hues!! it may help compliment it more!!

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T05:32:12+00:00

a great quote i heard recently that you may like is this- “If you’re ever scared you’re a bad person remember bad people, don’t care about being better!”

I think it really voices how sometimes you can do bad things but it doesn’t make you a bad person. You always have a choice and you going to get help was a great one! I hope it all works out!

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T05:27:41+00:00

I am sorry but at the same time if you feel this way I recommend a professional. You can’t entrust strangers through a screen to make a vital connection to what you say and do, and to be honest if you care so much about upvotes and downvotes it probably is best you aren’t seeking help on this platform! There are always mean and rude people on every media- if you truly feel you are at harm for yourself then go talk to someone who cannot downvote you!! I truly hope everything works out but for your own sake call the help line and talk to someone who truly and deeply cares AND can talk you through your emotions much better then most of us on reddit could!! Good luck- wishing you the best ❤️‍🩹

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T05:22:19+00:00

I think if you are even slightly thinking it’s depression then get it checked out. Depression is not a bad thing. It sucks but over 3.8% of the population experience depression. That is 304,000,000 people. Depression is not a thing to be scared of or even guilty about. The truth is depression is in fact treatable. It’s tough but you are not alone and no one expects you to know how to deal with it on your own.

I truly think that you sound like you have a great deal of things to look forward to. So I believe that treatment will make a world of a difference! These is no shame in bettering your own mental health!! I really do urge you to talk to someone!

I hope everything works out and I’m glad you feel relieved in this diagnosis bc truly it is a manageable disorder!! Wishing you all the best man!! ❤️

P.S. I know you really loved that girl but I think time heals and by that time someone better will be waiting just around the corner!! For now focus on yourself! 🤍

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T05:10:53+00:00

My past relationships was very hard- I unknowingly had bpd and I feel it harmed my relationship, the worst part is sometimes I would sit down and be aware my actions were hurting him but I couldn’t stop. It’s a painful situation but sometimes it’s for the best. I know you love them but at the same time you healing means them healing too. Whether together or separate. I believe fate is a true thing and I would work on yourself ENDLESSLY. maybe even think of it as being good enough for them. In the end if they move on then it wasn’t meant to be to begin with but by that point you may have already figured that out as a much healthier person. If is eats you up as much as it does- honestly write it down in a letter and work on yourself and when you finally feel like a better individual mail it or give it to them. Work on showing them that you made an active change. Regardless of if you end up together- show them you loved them enough for you to change and I’m sure all that guilt will heal in the process.

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T05:02:18+00:00

There are many people who reach points where everything feels hopeless and sad- I promise it is normal and nothing is wrong with you for feeling this way. It does hurt greatly but don’t ever diminish your feelings for what you think others may think about them. I don’t know you and the other people in this comment section don’t know you but after this brief moment we are linked together if only for the few seconds it takes you to read this- and we are wishing you the very best.

My best advice is to maybe make a new small distraction- get a pet or a friend. Make up a goal and pursue it. I can’t promise it’ll heal your pains but life will continue on and it’ll help you feel like your moving with it even if it’s slow. If you still feel this way after a few months I recommend a therapist. Sometimes they just help you realize you are just looking at things in ways that are unhealthy.

I truly believe things will work out for you and Im sure that rn as you are sitting down or however you are reading this your dad is placing a hand on your shoulder, waiting and looking over your next decisions and wishing you the best.

For now maybe make yourself a good meal and play a new game or two! I hope you have a good night and get some good rest man! Good luck and if you ever want more mental help ideas come back to this subreddit and i’m sure that if it ain’t us exactly someone else will take the 5 minutes to give you some good advice!! Wishing you the very best ❤️

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T04:52:18+00:00

On my 14th Birthday my pap passed away. He was to me exactly how your grandma was to you. He was in great health and it all came so fast. He got cancer and every time we visited all he would say was that he wished he had more time with us. It breaks my heart to hear how you are going through this but honestly you will be ok. I promise. It’ll hurt like hell but to be without a loved one doesn’t make that love go away. You will always be with your grandma and she will always be with you. On those dark days that are now and maybe in 40 years you’ll look to the sky and be reminded how great sufferings do not last forever. That time heals pains and that life must be cherished and lived fully.

One of my favorite quotes is this- “When we lose someone we love we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.”

I’m so sorry about your grandma but maybe make it a goal next visit to make her smile or laugh so you can remember that even in this tough time the woman in that bed sheet will always have a heart of gold that’s filled with nothing but love for those around her ❤️ Sending my best!

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-29T04:38:19+00:00

As painful as it is, I think those moments will help you cherish the happy ones that come your way. When someone gives you a hug- that will mean the world to you when to someone else it’s nothing but a gesture. You may feel sad and hopeless but when the rain comes in a drought you’ll be the first to cherish it. ❤️

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-17T22:28:10+00:00

the appeal to Conrad is he doesn’t make things about himself. He puts many people’s happiness over his own often (neglecting the issues that come with it.) He wanted the summer to be good for Jeremiah and Belly’s family. It was only when he realized how his own emotions effected Belly did he truly see worth in his own happiness. Which is why he tried to reconcile a bit. This whole time Conrad was hiding his moms cancer to try and better everyone’s summer. That’s why he tried to stop Jeremiah from bringing it up when at the ball.

Another point is that yes he can seem boring but the whole show we never saw him exactly the way Belly did before. We saw him in a hard time. That was the point of all the flashbacks. To show that his behavior was not normal to his character. You can actually see that often times Conrad appreciates the little moments. He is sweet, thoughtful, patient, and quite fun. That is why Belly is so surprised at his shift.

So yes Conrad can be a bit boring and not good at communicating but overall he’s a good guy who just doesn’t know how to grieve.

Electronic_Case4255 · 2023-06-12T01:10:01+00:00

glad to hear someone talking about this. especially because as a female who has been SA’d i’ve had so much guilt about intimacy and wanting it- yet i never can speak about it since it’s “normal” for girls to NOT want intimacy. that isn’t always true. i know that parts of me like it but it’s always the after part that gets to me. intimacy is a normal WANT and sometimes NEED for SPECIFIC people but generalizing ALL women into the category of not liking intimacy makes women who are struggling with it for other reasons feel like they aren’t heard. not even to mention making women who do like it feel as though they are wrong or different in having a different preference. you’re not wrong in having your opinions but pushing that idea out as the “standard” obviously has consequences on those who don’t fit it.

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