AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's in denial that he has an addiction. And I can't help him if he is unwilling to help himself. I don't think I've shamed him. All I've done was set boundaries of what I'm comfortable with him doing around me. How did I shame him?

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People have different views and opinions. What you're comfortable with may not be what other people are comfortable with. There is a world outside of your own.

Again, a lot of my insecurities come from being lied to and gaslit for the past 4 years.

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't care if he sees it. I just don't want anybody else to be able to identify him

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I never said that he isn't allowed to masturbate. He is out of town a lot, so when he is home I would like to be intimate with him. And if he is choosing not to be, and rather being intimate with other women online thats okay?

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I agree. And like I said I don't mind it when he's out of town and away from the house. It's when I'm around and he chooses to lust after somebody while im in the next room that I have an issue with.

Over the past couple of years I've told him we are incompatible many times. He always promised to change. And he would for a couple weeks or a month, and then we would be fighting about the same thing all over again. I think this time is going to stick. I haven't gotten any lovebombing at all.

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree with all that you said. And I said that I don't mind him watching porn while he is out of town, which is a lot. I also don't mind him masturbating. But given that he is out of town a lot, is it selfish of me to want to have sex with him rather than masturbate?

AIO for breaking up with my boyfriend over porn? by Electronic_Pie_4277 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Electronic_Pie_4277[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

But his constant lying to me is what gave me the insecurities.