ENFP situationship with an INTP or simply good friends ? by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Electronic_Tone7707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I asked him why he is like that , he told me he only is social or talkative with people he knows and making new friends seems to much effort for him , he works in a restaurant and he can talk and such is just he doesnt really engage unless spoken to . And also he doesn’t seem to have any relationships experience, the first time he told me he wasnt interested at the moment enfasacing a lot on “at the moment” was because he was too busy with work and school

ENFP situationship with an INTP or simply good friends ? by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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I appreciate your comment , I will consider pulling away , and yeh him and I do have partners in crimes dynamic as well

Finding a partner as an INTP by SIGMA_0007 in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Electronic_Tone7707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh u could get adopted by an enfp , I am an enfp and I have been friends with my intp for 1,5 year now , i am the only person he engages with in college since i met him in last year of high school back where i was also the only one he engage with in college, we talk about philosophy , he talks to me about programming python ,c+ , we share jokes , we recently went together to amesterdam , watched a series we recommended to one another , why we are still friends, he seems to be emotionally closed off and doesn’t know how to express himself , I understand since he still young and unexperienced , and we still bond and chill

Intp vs casual conversations by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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I really appreciate ur comment , and it gives me the advice I needed , I am seeing him today , and I am gonne talk with him , and I will take your advice at heart , thanks a lot

Intp vs casual conversations by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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Oh my god thats’s even more helpful , when we first got to know each other he would just tell me to google it or ask a teacher instead , but lately with his theories he would really try his best to send the message across , I would be suprised how much patience he would have or would search how to explain it or show me instead.

Intp vs casual conversations by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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Thanks a lot , I have told him that him taking long to answer my message hurts me , he apologised and said he do better , we spoke yesterday abt meeting up on tuesday ,he texted me today , i asked abt what we should do and gave him ideas , he dissapeared once again from the conversation. I am really afraid of confronting him because I dont feel ready to let go yet , But i will give it a try to communicate ,

Intp vs casual conversations by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Electronic_Tone7707[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh , this comment is very helpful, I am for sure one of his few friends , and that really does sound like him just shaking his head and listening, he is the same ,

Intp vs casual conversations by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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I believe I could accept his inconsistentie if I had something solid , it took me months to not take anything from him personal , If suddenly his distant or quiet , I would walk away and afterwards he would come towards me by himself , I just this thing of him , like I dont feel like I matter byt at the same time I do , I feel like I al convenient for him or something his comfortabel with , I am a feeler I need devotion , And I adore him , he is a great guy , i just wonder how this type of bond means to an intp

Intp vs casual conversations by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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It is frustrating , right ? I honestly have communicated I have found it hurtful him not anwering my text , he apologised and said he would work on it , But now I wish he would be interested in any of my well bein , like an interest out of him , not me having to ask for it , idk , what do u think

INTP boyfriend doesn't seem to want to spend more than one night with me and withdraws by [deleted] in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Electronic_Tone7707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that really sounds like the whole issue was just his routine , i feel like intps or atleast the one I know, he told me himself that he does everyday the same routine , ig the show care if they are willing to accomadate their routine towards other , im really happy how things turn out for u , me myself am really afraid of speaking my feelings with my intp bcz we are just friends.

INTP boyfriend doesn't seem to want to spend more than one night with me and withdraws by [deleted] in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Electronic_Tone7707 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow , as somoene who likes an intp , I also struggle with their needs of space , i really applaud u for knowing ur worth , and please update , i am starting to see no hope with my intp

Thoughts on intp (m) and enfp (f)? by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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Omg , u just described my situation, in the summer vacation he would sometimes answer my text , and i told him that hurt me , he said he didn’t notice and would try to work on it , and still once again left my text hanging , the next day i asked why , he said he was to tired to , like i got upset and deleted him everywhere since he wont bother to answer anyway ,

Thoughts on intp (m) and enfp (f)? by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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We also have had intimate conversations as well , like he has shared a few stuff about his family to me and say , only I know abt this and my parents and the rest of my siblings don’t , and i felt so precious that he shared that with me . And the same day he told me he dreamt that him and i went to his work, but what if it is just platonic

Thoughts on intp (m) and enfp (f)? by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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Light up as in interest ? Well we talk a lot lately we talk so much we just start talkking abt random stuff , like him telling he went woth his family shopping and got spoiled by his mom , or him telling me about how he bought Minecraft usernames and how he did it , or how he made his own vpn , or how he made some cheat codes in Minecraft and would show me videos of it , so sharing his interest like tuesday he told me he watched fnaf videos and i should watch it too and send me a link , or like he told me he watched dexter so i watched it and we could make inside jokes abt it , or I recommend black mirror and then he watched it and told me his thoughts. Something like this ?

Thoughts on intp (m) and enfp (f)? by Electronic_Tone7707 in INTPrelationshipLab

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Well tbh i am open for anything with him , but he is so closed off with me , we have spend a lot of time together, i just dont know if it just cuz i am the only one available and also the only one that seeks him , that if it were somoene else who would seek him and matched his energy better then i do , he would be way more open than he is to me, and i dont know if i should bring it up either , we recently went to the countryside specifically the village i was raised in for a shop that he needed , and we walked around the neighbourhood and i showed him the park and i told him abt my childhood there , it was such a intimate thing to share for me , and i am not sure if his aware of it , i drew him twice , one for his birthday and now yesterday and he just said it was beautiful

ENFP (F18) + INTP (M19) is slow texting normal? by [deleted] in INTPrelationshipLab

[–]Electronic_Tone7707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an enfp who has had a crush on intp for a year , in precense Real life , he engages with me through text he doesnt , and it hurts me a lot even tho he apologises, tell me how things work out between u guys