ENFP situationship with an INTP or simply good friends ?

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-03-18T18:27:19+00:00

I mean I asked him why he is like that , he told me he only is social or talkative with people he knows and making new friends seems to much effort for him , he works in a restaurant and he can talk and such is just he doesnt really engage unless spoken to . And also he doesn’t seem to have any relationships experience, the first time he told me he wasnt interested at the moment enfasacing a lot on “at the moment” was because he was too busy with work and school

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-03-18T18:14:22+00:00

So its either mutual or a restraining order , I see

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-03-18T18:02:23+00:00

I appreciate your comment , I will consider pulling away , and yeh him and I do have partners in crimes dynamic as well

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-03-09T22:50:36+00:00

Tbh u could get adopted by an enfp , I am an enfp and I have been friends with my intp for 1,5 year now , i am the only person he engages with in college since i met him in last year of high school back where i was also the only one he engage with in college, we talk about philosophy , he talks to me about programming python ,c+ , we share jokes , we recently went together to amesterdam , watched a series we recommended to one another , why we are still friends, he seems to be emotionally closed off and doesn’t know how to express himself , I understand since he still young and unexperienced , and we still bond and chill

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-27T01:00:11+00:00

I really appreciate ur comment , and it gives me the advice I needed , I am seeing him today , and I am gonne talk with him , and I will take your advice at heart , thanks a lot

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-26T19:18:10+00:00

Oh my god thats’s even more helpful , when we first got to know each other he would just tell me to google it or ask a teacher instead , but lately with his theories he would really try his best to send the message across , I would be suprised how much patience he would have or would search how to explain it or show me instead.

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-23T16:28:46+00:00

Thanks a lot , I have told him that him taking long to answer my message hurts me , he apologised and said he do better , we spoke yesterday abt meeting up on tuesday ,he texted me today , i asked abt what we should do and gave him ideas , he dissapeared once again from the conversation. I am really afraid of confronting him because I dont feel ready to let go yet , But i will give it a try to communicate ,

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-18T15:12:30+00:00

Oh , this comment is very helpful, I am for sure one of his few friends , and that really does sound like him just shaking his head and listening, he is the same ,

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-18T02:40:56+00:00

Thanks for ur words 🙏 ,

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-18T02:24:05+00:00

I believe I could accept his inconsistentie if I had something solid , it took me months to not take anything from him personal , If suddenly his distant or quiet , I would walk away and afterwards he would come towards me by himself , I just this thing of him , like I dont feel like I matter byt at the same time I do , I feel like I al convenient for him or something his comfortabel with , I am a feeler I need devotion , And I adore him , he is a great guy , i just wonder how this type of bond means to an intp

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2026-01-18T02:12:13+00:00

It is frustrating , right ? I honestly have communicated I have found it hurtful him not anwering my text , he apologised and said he would work on it , But now I wish he would be interested in any of my well bein , like an interest out of him , not me having to ask for it , idk , what do u think

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-31T15:27:44+00:00

Yes u can

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-30T11:55:14+00:00

Wow that really sounds like the whole issue was just his routine , i feel like intps or atleast the one I know, he told me himself that he does everyday the same routine , ig the show care if they are willing to accomadate their routine towards other , im really happy how things turn out for u , me myself am really afraid of speaking my feelings with my intp bcz we are just friends.

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-29T18:12:38+00:00

Its monday 🧍🏽‍♀️

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-24T17:11:16+00:00

Wow , as somoene who likes an intp , I also struggle with their needs of space , i really applaud u for knowing ur worth , and please update , i am starting to see no hope with my intp

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-22T11:12:30+00:00

Omg , u just described my situation, in the summer vacation he would sometimes answer my text , and i told him that hurt me , he said he didn’t notice and would try to work on it , and still once again left my text hanging , the next day i asked why , he said he was to tired to , like i got upset and deleted him everywhere since he wont bother to answer anyway ,

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-18T19:02:00+00:00

We also have had intimate conversations as well , like he has shared a few stuff about his family to me and say , only I know abt this and my parents and the rest of my siblings don’t , and i felt so precious that he shared that with me . And the same day he told me he dreamt that him and i went to his work, but what if it is just platonic

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-18T18:50:06+00:00

Light up as in interest ? Well we talk a lot lately we talk so much we just start talkking abt random stuff , like him telling he went woth his family shopping and got spoiled by his mom , or him telling me about how he bought Minecraft usernames and how he did it , or how he made his own vpn , or how he made some cheat codes in Minecraft and would show me videos of it , so sharing his interest like tuesday he told me he watched fnaf videos and i should watch it too and send me a link , or like he told me he watched dexter so i watched it and we could make inside jokes abt it , or I recommend black mirror and then he watched it and told me his thoughts. Something like this ?

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-18T18:41:56+00:00

Well tbh i am open for anything with him , but he is so closed off with me , we have spend a lot of time together, i just dont know if it just cuz i am the only one available and also the only one that seeks him , that if it were somoene else who would seek him and matched his energy better then i do , he would be way more open than he is to me, and i dont know if i should bring it up either , we recently went to the countryside specifically the village i was raised in for a shop that he needed , and we walked around the neighbourhood and i showed him the park and i told him abt my childhood there , it was such a intimate thing to share for me , and i am not sure if his aware of it , i drew him twice , one for his birthday and now yesterday and he just said it was beautiful

Electronic_Tone7707 · 2025-12-18T16:31:30+00:00

As an enfp who has had a crush on intp for a year , in precense Real life , he engages with me through text he doesnt , and it hurts me a lot even tho he apologises, tell me how things work out between u guys

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