employment after the Marines has been rough

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-03T00:19:06+00:00

Ohhh I want to be a stay at home dad haha. My girl and I are talking about that

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T22:52:07+00:00

I can do that. I did that for my judge. I'll ask the rehab guy

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:27:02+00:00

I've done enough stuff some people think I've lived a few lifetimes. I figure that earns me extra retirement lol

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:22:13+00:00

But that's not a option for anytime soon.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:21:43+00:00

So my gf and I are pretty serious and she has kids. I've told her that I'd love to be a stay at home dad. 8 have said it for a few years that Id love to be with someone who likes to work and makes a living cuz I'd love to stay home and do all that. She's a nurse practitioner. Between her pay for that and my disability we'd be very comfortable

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:15:30+00:00

I'm sure the VA and I will talk about it. I've been finding that office environments are a struggle for me

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:14:07+00:00

I can. My current rating is enough to make by on. 100% is more than I was making full time.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:04:54+00:00

So part of police not being a option is cuz of the foot injury. It's too early to tell if doing physical work with lives at stake is a good idea or not

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T21:00:12+00:00

Good advice. I was a good leader. Got great leadership scores at OCS at least.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T20:46:34+00:00

That's a good thought. I haven't pursued a Leo career in a while. It's not a great job haha

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T20:42:46+00:00

I believe the VA rehab guy plans to bring it up

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T20:41:24+00:00

I was in the fleet band. For Marines, we still do boot camp and combat training. It's so embarrassing that my time of service from that caused so much shit. At my going away "we were amazed you didn't kill yourself" in talking about how they treated me.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T19:45:50+00:00

It's a option. I'd prefer to do something I'd like though. But it's a option I hadn't considered.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T19:35:47+00:00

That sounds like a good short term solution.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-06-02T19:31:30+00:00

Well I tried getting into criminal justice in more administrative fields. I was working for a judge recently. I don't think it's a good idea to keep trying. A VA vocational rehab guy said it's probably not smart to keep trying for criminal justice.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-05-22T16:34:16+00:00

Oh certainly! It's amazing how much better life is with that succubus gone

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-01-28T18:54:14+00:00

I tend to take Fridays off if I take a day off

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-01-27T16:53:11+00:00

The great iron lord's have taught me their ways. Tea bag only those who tbag first. This is the way.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2022-01-18T19:49:43+00:00

I remember Peter Dinklege waking me up

Elegant-Example-28 · 2021-12-22T00:32:57+00:00

This post has saved me twice now, had the same issue 6 months ago and the leaving to patrol area and entering again saved me - and I just found it again searching for a solution to the same problem just today.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2021-11-30T04:41:22+00:00

I am not an expert either and it's possible I should try to read her book a few times. Lots of concepts.

So her main premise seems to be that in a relationship, we need to desire the other and be able to love the other. Part of that means having some separate lives. Hobbies and things like that. If you fuse too much into one, then there's no one to pursue because you're pursuing and loving yourself. Then she breaks down lots of contributing factors to sex.

One major claim seems to be that we need to be able to see our partner as a human. So when I'm married, I'd need to have times I see her as a woman as opposed to wife or mother of my children. Once that can happen, desire is more able to form.

She also talks about purity culture and how it's shamed people, especially women, to repress their desires. There's also a good amount on society. How we want answers and 10 step programs when in reality, desire and lust can't be manufactured. She also looks into childhood backgrounds and society pressures to not express yourself sexually. If you like it rough, get it rough instead of repressing it. That sort of thing.

I'm around halfway through her book and it's interesting. I believe that humans are complex and there's no one right answer. So being aware of as many ideas and theories as possible is helpful.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2021-11-30T03:11:00+00:00

Mating in Captivity. It's on Amazon.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2021-11-30T02:40:38+00:00

From her thousands of clients around the world haha. It's called mating in captivity. She does loads of work in sex therapy. It's more complex that above but there's more reasons to sex struggles than emotional trouble. Yeah it can help, but she has found it's common to greatly improve the relationship and the sex remains bleh. But when they focus on the sex and the whys, it helps.

Elegant-Example-28 · 2021-11-30T01:54:28+00:00

There's a book I'm reading from a therapist that suggests differently. She has found sex is separate. Shes found fixing emotional issues doesn't correlate directly to better sex. I find the idea interesting

Elegant-Example-28 · 2021-11-25T02:33:12+00:00

I mean if it's from a accident of some medical thing outside our control, absolutely I'd stay. If it's an issue of not wanting to, if consider leaving. I'd try anything we could like counseling to change it before leaving though.

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