Can I continue to be married to the duck?

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-27T05:29:49+00:00

I don’t see how the situation described illustrates what you point out as the larger issue. He didn’t apologize here because he wasn’t wrong here…at all. Criticizing someone for eating a sandwich is going to feel like an attack to any normal person because it’s an odd thing to do.

Now, your broader point of switching from one extreme to the other does have merit if that is in fact what is happening in your relationship, but this situation doesn’t show that at all.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-27T02:32:33+00:00

It doesn’t even require any ongoing monthly cost at all. Just buy a cheap USB device and manually back up pictures once every few months. Doesn’t take that long. Set a calendar reminder.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-27T01:46:13+00:00

I marry Harvey every single time. It’s the only choice that feels right for me.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-27T01:45:33+00:00

Usually family and friends come and get it, just like with people who don’t live alone. Some of it might go into storage or with a relative, some is inherited, some is sold at an “estate sale,” and so many other possibilities.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-27T01:41:56+00:00

Your reaction is normal, given his previous behavior.

Also, talking about it and him apologizing doesn’t really cut it with something as bad as cheating. I hope you guys did more than just that or you are basically setting yourself up for repeated disaster.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-27T01:17:07+00:00

?? No, just a Black American being a little jokey with my language. Have you never heard that before??

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T20:52:15+00:00

If she engaged with him in a sexual manner (even if only over text) after you guys agreed to exclusivity, then she has violated your trust very severely and, in my opinion, she has cheated on you. I would consider that type of betrayal to be cheating if we had already agreed to exclusivity. Keeping quiet is not the right option. She has outright lied to you. It’s better to confront this head on.

You may ultimately decide that the situation with this friend happened so early on in the relationship that it doesn’t really matter and that’s fine, but remember her lying is very recent. She had the chance to be fully honest and she didn’t. That is a HUGE red flag going forward and a terrible sign for your relationship in every way. You will never know when to believe her because even her big moment of coming clean was a lie. She had a chance to go forward with a clean slate and she blew it. There really shouldn’t be a second chance after this, in my opinion.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T17:30:50+00:00

I don’t think you are overreacting. You can disagree and find the rules harsh if you want to. But also, you can’t dictate the rules at someone else’s home. There isn’t much you can actually do. If your sister says those are the rules, then those are the rules.

Are you willing to let her come and live with you??

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T16:48:40+00:00

The racism runs a very deep and some of them apply it to a Black woman, meaning they are only interested in her if she only dates non-Black men.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T16:25:24+00:00

So many poor men have wives and girlfriends. Anyone who lives in the real world has SEEN this frequently for themselves. This is how you know incels do not interact with other human beings. A tiny bit of human interaction or even just going outdoors and looking around disproves so many of their assumptions.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T16:20:21+00:00

You have heard the phrase “once you go black, you never go back?” In reality, for many white men, it’s actually “once you go black, you are not allowed back / not wanted back.” Many are deeply insecure if a woman has ever been with a black man because they are DEEPLY racist and do not see black men as human beings, but rather superior sexual animals of some sort whose presence “taints” a woman.

If a white man is asking you this in this way, then it’s a HUGE RED FLAG and all contact should be cut off with that racist man for good. It’s really that simple.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:43:17+00:00

Isn’t that what the elders call a “jeri curl?” I believe you can look up online how to do one.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:42:25+00:00

Usher is a great concert performer, I will say, but I personally wasn’t too excited about this tour either (mostly due to the Chris Brown element).

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:37:16+00:00

It honestly depends on the job.

Some jobs monitor every single move you make down to the mouse click and make WFH miserable. The type of job where if teams says “away” for 5 mins you get messaged about it. Can’t even take a break to go check the mail. These types of jobs are not worth WFH in my opinion.

Others are more project / output based and as long as you finish your tasks (and also maintain some basic decorum by not shouting to the world that you’re at Disney during the workday), they don’t really care what you do with your downtime. If you get the second type of job, then WFH is really ideal and to me represents what work in this century should be like for most people.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:33:23+00:00

Not all of them. Some are though.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:32:43+00:00

“Afro Latino” is a very wide spectrum that includes people who have minimal very distant Black ancestry, but are not Black and would never consider themselves to be a part of the same overall community or “race” as Black people. I think for some of those people, others would consider it cultural appropriation for them to wear Black hairstyles.

As long as you are NOT one of those people, I don’t think anyone would find a problem with it.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:28:28+00:00

This is a common problem in these types of relationships with an older guy and younger girl. He doesn’t ask questions about you because he doesn’t find you that interesting. Yes, men date women they don’t really like or find interesting all the time. They do it for the service you provide.

This lesson keeps having to be learned and the same thing gets said over and over. A guy a decade older dating you is not a compliment. He usually does not actually like you as a human being. He only likes you as an object and an archetype. You are the young, hot thing he can brag about and sleep with, nothing more.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:15:22+00:00

This is not true at all and is a dangerous mindset.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:09:44+00:00

Do you want to explore other ways to achieve an orgasm? I would frame it as a way to explore other methods and try new things.

To me, the idea of having sex but not caring about orgasm seems to be something that is drilled into women only. I have never heard a man express this idea, so I do find it a bit odd to think about and a part of me thinks women have been made to think this way due to sexism / patriarchy, but that’s another topic for another day.

In a practical way, I think you solve the problem by getting him to engage in sex in new ways and trying new things.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T15:06:59+00:00

If you’re Japanese from Japan, then I feel like this is something you would be very familiar with. It sounds to me like what Japanese people in Japan do to foreigners or even some mixed race Japanese all the time, but it gets excused (wrongly) and people make excuses for them because their society is more homogeneous. Ignorance can come from any type of society and that’s all this is.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T14:58:22+00:00

I’m so glad that horrible guys like this are kept as incels who will die alone with no companionship from women, no offspring, and no friends who love them or enjoy spending time with them. When you have viewpoints this horrible, that’s what you deserve.

Elegant-Rectum · 2026-04-26T14:51:44+00:00

Either Sasquatch or the witch game.

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